Am I a LittleGirl?

[LittleKaye]

So I think I have a little space.

 

I did some research after I noticed myself regressing: Doing things like

-seeking out scribble time with my crayons and Pencils. (I’m an artist, but when I draw in this space it’s always a bit silly and colourful and child like)

-I have a large stuffed toy collection that I had my boyfriend get me as a reward and get really fiddly and sweet on them.

-Sometimes I just want to be cradled which is strange? But when my boyfriend does it I feel so safe

-I start talking in such small voice. sometimesI actually lower my vocabulary and it feels nice.

-I enjoy Cartoons- I actually would only watch kids shows when I lived alone.

-I can feel too ‘small’ some times for certain amounts of intimacy but sex us always on the table?

 

Here’s my problem. My boyfriend.

 

I have told him I’ve called someone (a sexual partner) Daddy before and really really enjoyed it. He doesn’t like that word. He doesn’t know I’m interested in exploring the ddlg world with like all of my bones and my heart like gahrgh...

 

He spanks me sometimes but only when I’ve bothered him or in play fights- or sex when I ask him too. We also do light bondage and choking.

 

He’s not into/interested in learning the DD (Daddy Dom) lifestyle. But I feel like I could thrive so much sexually if I opened that part up for myself.

 

I have considered this part of me maybe less of a life choice I’m making and more of a side effect of my upbringing?

 

But regardless I still really want to have that kind of special relationship wit him.

 

How do I bring it up? Am I even a little or should I probably get out of the website??

[neko]

There are absolutely no rules to ddlg. There's no right or wrong. If you feel like a Little, you are one.

 

As for telling your boyfriend, these 10+ posts should help.

 

https://www.ddlgforum.com/topic/7254-how-to-encourage-ddlg-to-boyfriend/

https://www.ddlgforum.com/topic/24204-help/

https://www.ddlgforum.com/topic/24255-how-do-i-tell-my-boyfriend/

https://www.ddlgforum.com/topic/16903-how-to-tell-my-husband/

https://www.ddlgforum.com/topic/2424-have-you-ever-told-anyone/

https://www.ddlgforum.com/topic/1530-how-did-you-introduce-ddlg-into-your-relationship/

https://www.ddlgforum.com/topic/5619-help-telling-vanilla-partner/

https://www.ddlgforum.com/topic/11956-explaining-ddlg/

https://www.ddlgforum.com/topic/16742-getting-husband-on-board/

https://www.ddlgforum.com/topic/17019-how-should-i-tell-my-daddy-to-read-more-into-ddlg/

https://www.ddlgforum.com/topic/15347-introducing-ddlg-to-a-vanilla/

https://www.ddlgforum.com/topic/17793-afraid-to-tell-him/

[Littleblondeone]

I don't think there is any right or wrong way of being little. I don't do a lot of traditional 'little' things, yet I know its what I am. I sounds like you do too, so that's what is important.

 

I am in a similar predicament to you. My husband accepts ths is part of me, but he doesn't want to be my 'daddy'. 

 

I think one has to consider that you can be naturally little but also naturally a daddy; on the flip side, some people would probably never feel comfortable trying to be those things.

 

It sounds like you get elements of nuturing from him, but it might be too much for him to take on a daddy role. This certainly doesn't make you any less little .

[Waffles]

Hei there!

 

There is not a set definition of a "little". We all have different quirks and it makes us all unique! I will say that you do give off little "vibes" with some of the things you do, but it is ultimately up to you to decide if this is the real you and if you chose to identify as being little.

 

As for your upbringing, that could totally have an effect on this all, or it might not. There are things in life that may interest us or open things up about ourselves that we did no know existed, so there is no telling whether or not it was your upbringing or that you accidentally stumbled across something DD/LG and saw that you yourself related to it so much.

 

Now, for your boyfriend...this can be a difficult topic for some people. For me, in all relationships there needs to be trust, communication, and honesty. 

 

So, that's where I'll go with this. You really just need to communicate with him and be honest about your feelings about DD/LG. Express to him that you think this will open up doors for you both sexually and intimately. Tell him it will allow you both to trust each other more by opening up your most vulnerable state and allowing him to see that.

 

Being in this type of relationship allows you both to be "vulnerable" to one another, opening up another level of trust and intimacy you may have never experienced in your regular relationship.

 

However, you must realize that you cannot force this lifestyle onto him. If he says no then it's no. You can always try to bring it up again once he has time to think about it, but you must be considerate of his feelings/ideas as well.

 

So, I do hope this helps you and that you and your boyfriend end up happy in the end.

 

Love,

    Ash

[Guest Arc]

If he doesn't like being called Daddy you can't change that. If he's not interested in being a daddy dom you can't make him. If he's not a daddy then he's simply not a daddy, and it's unfair for you to want him to be something he's not. You've said he's not interested in being a daddy dom so I think you need to accept that.

[Airave Alamode]

If he doesn't like being called Daddy you can't change that. If he's not interested in being a daddy dom you can't make him. If he's not a daddy then he's simply not a daddy, and it's unfair for you to want him to be something he's not. You've said he's not interested in being a daddy dom so I think you need to accept that.

 

I second this. I believe in not becoming something I'm not. I've had situations where I was called "mommy" in a relationship. I kind of don't like it, since I feel more like a little.