wondering about some serious stuffs

[zakariya-daddy]

Hey all I'm Zakariya daddy All i wanna ask you is it really matter to keep using your sub shamefully and up to your own fetish cuz i see some ppl who are using their subs like playthings toys etc... as for me i think it's for best to treat your little babygirl as you own lovely princess. It's kinda hurts when you see a beautiful little girl been broken bcz her daddy who is supposed to protect her help her tale care of her loves her with all his might but in the end he uses her in the worst kind way possible

 

Also i kinda into humiliation which most of girls i met so far don't like to be humiliated so I was wondering is it really for the best if you treat the babygirl the way she want to be treated or the way I want I'm kinda wondering bcz some of daddies force into their babygirls what they want. But i can't do it I always treat my babygirl like it's my precious diamond which i should take care of

[neko]

There are literally no rules to this. You treat your Little however you both want to be treated. Don't do things that make you uncomfortable.

[Guest bunnybear11]

I'd just say never agree to something you're not comfortable with, consent is always needed, in all relationship aspects

[Guest SUeB]

Some subs don't WANT to be treated like you say they ought to be. Some love to be beaten, degraded, humiliated etc. There is no "one true way".

[Little Illy]

*Waves* So, I can give you some personal perspective? 

 

I love being treated like a princess, for Daddy to make me feel special and loved and secured. Nothing makes me feel more cared for than Daddy looking out for me, and helping me feel supported.

 

However, I like humiliation and being used. Without going into details, I like feeling like Daddy's toy because it makes me feel owned. I feel like Daddy has complete control when he spoils me, but even more so when he uses me. I am a little, but I am also a sub, a pet and have primal aspects. For me, being used "as a toy" is a way for me to feel like Daddy is in control. But here is the thing, though Daddy is in control and is "using" me, he is still taking care of me at the same time. He still minds my medical issues, he still makes sure I am safe and happy. THAT is the key to being owned and used versus being used and cast aside.

 

What you probably see is a lot of miscommunication. From what little you have provided and not knowing them at all - what typically happens is that two people have 2 ideas in their head of "owning" and "using" and the compatibility and communication fell through. That is more than likely how those littles were hurt. Again, I don't know because I am not them.

 

As everyone else says - there is no right or wrong way. Just because a little likes being used doesn't make the CG bad for using her like a toy. There is also nothing wrong with only wanting to be pampered. The only thing that matters and makes things VALID and CORRECT is what the couple has agreed upon. And not only that, but getting to know your partner better and becoming closer also helps as well. Just today Daddy and I were discussing some things we want to try in our dynamic that before we were both like "No, that is not for me." 

 

It comes down to one thing, as always. And that thing is communication. I wrote an in depth piece on Communication and how it affects a relationship like this. And I shall now shamelessly promote it here: https://www.ddlgforum.com/topic/28037-communication-is-vital/ (SFW).

At the end of the day, no one is a mind reader. Communication and consent is what you need to understand this issue with your partner. And with other couples? Unfortunately you can't base your dynamic off of them because you all are completely different, even if you like the same things.