Advice from Little’s & CGs, plz!

[Guest Daddys1Babycakes88]

[Guest AttentiveDaddy]

As a daddy I find his wording very odd, and slightly dangerous to be honest. A little could easily take that the wrong way, and find it difficult to get into little space in future. If however he meant try to avoid slipping into little space for safety, then I can understand it. Depending on the nature of play he has in mind, being fully aware of your surroundings is extremely important.  

You can be little when he's dominating you. I think that would be referred to as age play. Whether you choose to be is up to you. 

[DaddyKens]

Difficult. Any relationship is a two way thing but, if you are being asked to hide away a part of you then to me that's like trying to change you from who you are to who someone wants you to be. That's just not right, at least not to me.

 

During D/s play then you are entitled to be whomever you want to be. But again it's a two way street so talking to him is the best way. Explain how you may find it difficult, especially as it could affect how you get back to being in little space in the future as said above.

[Guest Daddys1Babycakes88]

[Guest Daddys1Babycakes88]

And I also admit when he said ‘keep your little at bay’ it made me sad. I’ve repressed her for so long, I don’t want to do it again.. I haven’t had the chance to explain that to him yet tho..

[Guest Daddys1Babycakes88]

And I also admit when he said ‘keep your little at bay’ it made me sad. I’ve repressed her for so long, I don’t want to do it again.. I haven’t had the chance to explain that to him yet tho..

[DaddyKens]

I guess if he has always asked you to be a big girl during sex then you don't always want to be a big girl at those times?

Feeling a little sad when he asked you to keep it at bay simply shows how important it really is to you.

That two way street means if you have a need to be little at those times then that's what you need. Not something to be denied.

 

Has he limited the times when you can be little? Bad sign.

Does he prefer 'big' times? Maybe asking you to be big to suit him? Bad sign.

[Guest Daddys1Babycakes88]

Let’s see.. the only times he’s asked me not to be little is in bed, which I’m ok with. But sometimes I wants to be cutes ☺️ Umm.. only other time was when he was really upset (death in the family) and I was being little and trying to cheer him up and he said ‘not right now’. But I let that one slide. He never tells me I can’ts be little, but he’ll say dirty things till I go from little to sub. If that makes sense?

[DaddyKens]

Yes it all makes sense.

 

If you are ok with not being little in bed then that's a good thing. Part of the two way street, you are supporting his needs.

We all get upset at times and you were again, being supportive.

Getting you to go from little to sub though, reminds me of someone I knew who years later admitted he only went along with what his partner liked because it was what she wanted. He actually wanted a different kind of relationship and would often manipulate a situation to go from what she wanted to what he wanted.

 

I'd say just keep an eye on things, listen to what he says and the situations when he says it. See if you are more taken out of little space than encouraged into it.

[Guest bunnybear11]

I'm sorry :c as a sexual little, that would br very hard to hear from my daddy, but I completely understand his side, and would totally respect that because it's something he might not be comfortable with.

 

I guess what I would do in this situation is talk to him about boundaries, times when it's okay/ not okay to act little, and explain that slip ups happen, especially because being cute/acting child-like may be a part of your personality, which can make it a little hard to control at times.

 

Hope it all works out :33 and remember, communication is key.

Edited January 12, 2018 by carobear

[Waffles]

I agree with Caro. Slip ups happen, so you really just need to talk to him about how you honesty feel and what you are expecting as well. It sounds as if he is very understanding and not trying to suppress your little side, rather, he is trying to tell you what he wants and expects. Communication in all relationships is very important, so I believe just speaking with him is the best thing you could possibly do in this situation. 

[Guest SUeB]

i am sub/lg and slave all the time. Sure, one aspect will be more evident at different times, but it's all one and the same person. Me.

[Guest Daddys1Babycakes88]

[Guest Daffodil]

You can be both a little and a sub. Its about what best works for you. i don't know if its abut switching? it depends what he wants to change?

You can be a little and still have adult sex, you can be a sub and do age play. So its a little bit of blurred lines i think. 

 

I'm sure how i feel about the quote, but i'm sure it was meant with the best intentions as i do not know your dom ♥

 

Just have a really good chat about it, and be honest with each other. But remember that your opinions matters just as much as his. You're in this together

 

best wishes ♥