Little Illy Posted January 9, 2018 Report Posted January 9, 2018 *waves* Helloooo. So I wanna preface this with the fact that I am NOT talking about any one person. I am not referencing chat, threads or PMs. I am not slandering any person, and in fact don't have a specific person in mind. So please don't think this is directed to you or anyone because it is not. Anyways... Weird for the sake of being WEIRD Does anyone else ever get the impression that someone or some people is/are saying weird and random things just to get attention? Like, I am not talking about someone just being random, but I mean saying some REALLY weird or REALLY out of the blue stuff because they obviously want people to pay attention to them. And don't get me wrong, I love weird people. I am part of the weird people clan. But I am talking about people literally spouting weirdness just to get the "ohhh, ooookay..." reaction that leads to attention. It happens to also be the same TYPE of person (NOT saying the same SPECIFIC person) that seems to use negativity as a way to get attention as well. The ones where they talk about nothing but bad things to get sympathy and attention. Please understand I am not saying that people don't legit have problems, but y'all know the types I am talking about - no matter what good is going on their life, they have to twist to make it negative because they get more attention that way. This distinctly reminds me of the child that acts out to get attention. The kid that pushes people down, breaks things, screams, etc just so their parent's with pay them attention. Because even negative attention is viable attention. And that is all I see with these people who act weird for the sake of being weird. It doesn't matter if it is annoying, makes people uncomfortable or doesn't even make sense, it gets them attention and so... they do it... I don't know if I am just losing tolerance for negative attention seekers - aka those who want constant attention just to be the center of attention vs those who need attention for advise, genuine help and other real reasons. But it just seems that those who are doing this are starting to irritate me more and more. I, obviously, don't say anything because of course this is my issue and I wont start drama by accusing someone of something that could be me misinterpreting things. I guess I am just wondering if anyone else feels the same way? Is anyone experiencing this irritation in their life? Maybe outside of the forum also? I don't know, I'm just curious on how yall go about dealing with it. Because ignoring/avoiding is not working and all I think of to do is call them out. Which I wont do on principal. So... thoughts?
AliciaCrunk Posted January 9, 2018 Report Posted January 9, 2018 I feel personally attacked *emoji laugh face just Incase this site can't read my emojis*
AliciaCrunk Posted January 9, 2018 Report Posted January 9, 2018 Here's my thing, i love silly. And if this weird thing starts a conversation then hey! I'm down with the weirdness! But if it's hurtful thing or purposely antagonizing then it's not cool. But we all have our uncool moments. Personally i like to call them out on it. Or at least clarify things
AliciaCrunk Posted January 9, 2018 Report Posted January 9, 2018 Also sometimes i try to think big picture... Maybe they really do need the attention... I just never wanna be the person to push someone... Over the edge.. if you know what i mean ):
Guest aphroditelaughs Posted January 9, 2018 Report Posted January 9, 2018 I've noticed this too, and it also frustrates me. Of course we all should have space to vent if we need it, but it is so out there sometimes. I guess I try to take it in stride - I assume that if someone is looking for attention then they must need it on some level. I really hate when people make other people's stuff about them though (no one person or site in particular). A person could say something like, "I'm so happy, x thing happened today and it was great!" and someone else will reply "I wish I had x". Or someone will make an innocent vent post and the reply might be, "At least you have x" I try to be a positive person and surround myself with positive people, so I'm a big fan of social media block features when it gets overwhelming.
Little Illy Posted January 9, 2018 Author Report Posted January 9, 2018 Also sometimes i try to think big picture... Maybe they really do need the attention... I just never wanna be the person to push someone... Over the edge.. if you know what i mean ): I totally agree with this - which is why I stated I would NEVER call someone out because I could easily be misinterpretation something. I know this is an annoyance TO ME and probably not to others. It is a ME problem, but I just was looking for better ways to quietly deal is all
Mikaitaku Posted January 9, 2018 Report Posted January 9, 2018 I see the kind of folk you are talking about, it is annoying at times. Me I will be weird for the sake of trying to amuse others.
Guest Bunnyblossom Posted January 10, 2018 Report Posted January 10, 2018 I guess I am just wondering if anyone else feels the same way? Is anyone experiencing this irritation in their life? Maybe outside of the forum also? I don't know, I'm just curious on how yall go about dealing with it. Because ignoring/avoiding is not working and all I think of to do is call them out. Which I wont do on principal. So... thoughts? Call them out then. If they're annoying enough to make a whole discussion publicly about, then they're obviously causing you and everyone else some major issues and it's better to just hoarde together and tear them down while they're within arms reach... Sorry things got a little "zombie apocalypse" for a moment... A suggestion or observation or whatever... Don't post disclaimers at the beginning over every topic. Unless each post is caused by a fabrication of your own mind and not actual encounters, you have people in mind and it IS personal to an extent. And those people are aware of what they're doing on some level, and will undoubtedly be like: "She was in chat that day that I said *blank*, she's talking about me. I'm so embarrassed I don't want to talk anym-" Ohhhh... Unless that's the intention? Indirectly call people out publicly, let everyone go open season on the people who do those things and then they'll be too ashamed or embarrassed to talk or bother anyone again. I don't think you would actually do that, it's a bit too nasty. It just kinda correlated for a moment as I was typing/thinking about it. Plus if people really are that obnoxious then they're the kinda people who can't take a hint, in which case there's no point tip-toeing around them. This is about the third (I think?) topic with the same format of "People are annoying. Your thoughts/suggestions/advice/support?" Like I feel like I legit only just read a topic with the same content last week. So I'd say there are no solutions, or there'd be one topic on it and then presto! no more problems-o! ¯\_(ツ)_/¯ 1
Guest SUeB Posted January 10, 2018 Report Posted January 10, 2018 Of course. To me its childish and shows insecurity. Very annoying. Best to completely ignore these people. But yes, there is a difference between people doing it on purpose, and those that just lack confidence and struggle socially, or whatever their issue may be.
ThePoet Posted January 10, 2018 Report Posted January 10, 2018 I'm at a point in life where I'm frustrated by the people being intentionally weird for the sake of attention, the people being deliberately agreeable for the sake of fitting in, the people in the middle who are just naturally normal, and the people who get frustrated at each of these kinds of people. So instead of being frustrated, I realise that each of us are - to varying degrees and at different times - a combination of all of these people, depending on both our own perspective and that of the people in whose company we find ourselves.
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