Don't sexualize little space

[Cuddle bear]

Ok I'm new I'm maybe a month or two involved in ddlg so I think I'm really missing something because im so lost, went to a cuddle party last night. I met someone and we hit it off , and by the end of the night went back to her place , we play Legos and such then we went to her room , "things were happening" and she was calling me daddy and was baby talking , and so I responded by baby talking back all the sudden she said I'm not in little space don't talk to me like that daddy ,, I'm like well don't call me daddy than if your aren't , and that was that mood gone she asked me to stay and just cuddle I said nothing but have a million and one questions , I hope this has enough details to get some feedback , I'm open to pm if needed

[pennypoo]

Sounds like some serious conversation is needed. I am confused for you. My little space is non sexual but for some it is. It is sometimes hard to read someone you just have met with their little space.

[~Princess_Kay~]

I think you need to discover who you are as a daddy. AS much as the warn little about protecting ourselves, everybody has to. Move at your own pace, ask questions, do research, discover who you are as a daddy or dom or whatever it is you discover that you are and do it at your pace. You have to be comfortable in your role just like she dose.  Don't let anyone rush or convince you you are something you aren't . You do you and the rest will follow

[Little Illy]

This isn't a lot to go off of. And I was fairly uncertain with the title to be honest.

 

However if this is the first time you met this woman, what I see here is an almost instant change of her mind. It seems like she was okay and then regretted having her decision of going that far with a stranger. It happens.

 

If you know her - there is an obvious lack pf communication and something triggered her into wanting to stop. 

 

In my opinion - this is why I wouldn't do a casual DDlg experience, one night-stand or FWB. You don't have the established trust and understanding to be able to give yourself freely to the dynamic. And because this exchange means so many things in various different ways, anything can be a good or bad trigger. And can leave you standing on the outside looking back and wondering why the hell it turned out that way. When in fact, it was a lack of communication.

 

Honestly I would write it off as miscommunication for the two of you, and a change of mind if it was a one night stand / first meet type of thing. 

[Guest Bunnyblossom]

I can see how that would be confusing if she's calling you Daddy and acting cutesy, then claims she's not in Little Space. I don't think you were 100% wrong for babytalking back.

For some of us Little Space isn't actually a thing though. So it doesn't have a commencement or end time- it's just who we are all the time.

And then some people like to age regress in which case it's very clear they're in Little Space.

 

I don't think she should've snapped at you over it, considering it's pretty common knowledge that Little Space is a very broad term and applies differently to everybody.

It's basically like assuming you should know her dietary requirements- when they're different for everybody.

 

To avoid it in future I would ask a Little about their little age, signs they're in little space, what gets them into Little space etc. in conversation.

A lot of Littles won't mind being asked and from what I've seen most enjoy talking about it because it's something that makes them happy.

[Cuddle bear]

@ derpy that's how I felt , just going with her mood and mind frame ,, I've done some research and had a chance to talk to her some today , I think I'm getting perspective ,, it's like how some subs can't stand being degraded outside of the bedroom tho they are still submitted 24/7 littles "some", are always kinda little but a Dom/daddy can't treat them as little in bed ,

[Guest Arc]

I'm confused by all of this. The title doesn't really match what's said, and what is said isn't in enough detail for anyone to fully understand the situation. So basically the only advice anyone can really give is talk to her and make sure you both understand both of your needs, and what is and is not okay. 

[GeekyPastry]

For some people, they can be in little space and it can be sexual, for others it isn't. Honestly, if you're planning on having a relationship with this person, then some clear cut rules need to be made, and honest conversations need to be had.