Telling your family?

[BabyGirlDumb]

I know some Littles/Daddys/mommys talk about their DD/lg lifestyle with their friends, but I was curious to know if anyone has told their family members? 

 

[BabyGirlDumb]

@ddlgdoodles 

I agree! 

What if someone had asked you about it, or seen that you were on a dd/lg forum or something? How would you handle that situation?

[Guest LittleAnna]

well  i  told my mom and my sister about the life style and my brother  i  told him that  i  am little and  i  act like littles all time so my family knows

 

[princessbabykoala]

I wouldn't dream of telling my family members, they're really weird about anything vaguely sexual and it is also a very private part of myself that I reserve for Daddy. BUT, having said that, they've recently begun thinking that Daddy is abusing me, so I'm having to seriously consider trying to explain the BDSM parts of the relationship without going into too much detail, although I'd like to avoid that if possible, so I can avoid ridicule from them.

 

My Daddy hasn't explicitly told his Mum, but she asked him why I act like a little girl (since my best friend is Daddy's younger sister who is 12 I often regress in front of them but I didn't think it was that noticeable! Although me and Daddy's sister are best friends for a lot of other reasons, mostly just because we get along and because we are more like sisters than friends) and Daddy explained that I'm submissive and his Mum is fine with it apparently, but none of this has ever been spoken about in front of me  

[Guest Sae]

Nope I wouldn't.

 

There's a negative sides to your family knowing. They aren't apart of my life style,  And I do not want to involve them. I've read stuff on tumblr of people telling there family, and there mum will give reports to there 'Daddy' so there daddy knows when to punish the little. Which I think is just super stupid. And it adds them to your relationship.  I do not want them to treat me like a little, because I'm a grown women. I also don't see the point in them knowing because its not really important for them to know. I've came out as bisexual, I've told them about my mental illnesses. I don't see the point in telling them 'btw, i'm in a D/s dynamic" More so because my family has underage people. And I think I also need to think of my family first compared to being selfish and pushing my relationship into there face. 

 

I also think its just really bad to do, because you hear all these great stories. But its like, look at people who come out as gay and there family disowns them, beats them, ect. There's a huge chance of that too.  Like if you like your family, are you really willing to possible be disowned by them, because they don't understand DD/lg?  What if they think your just mentally ill? Or other stigma. 

[DaisyDarling]

I come from a very traditional southern family and I really don't know how they'd react if they knew. I don't even think they've ever heard of it. They heard me call my bf "Daddy" once and teased me and told me that calling him daddy is gross. I love my family so so much, I just don't think it's a conversation that would be comfortable on either side. They love my boyfriend and I just want to keep it that way.

[princess.kiki]

i have told my gram, mom, sister, and my best friend. i think that my gram thinks i am just weird. and everyone else is fine with it. well. i was (silently) judged by my best friend. she didnt say anything, but i know she was... my sister is curious on how everything works. and my mom? pffft. she is into bdsm stuff anyways, so she understands.   

[Guest littlebubblebaby]

I haven't told anyone and I don't intend to, mainly because ddlg is a huge part of my relationship and I don't need my family interfering with it or passing judgment where it isn't needed.

 

It works very well though because my family and some friends indirectly encourage little behavior. My mom still buys me toys and other items for littles because she knows I'm just a big kid at heart, and she's the same way. It helps that almost everyone in my family collects toys or dolls or action figures. They suspect nothing when I come home from a night out with a bag from Toys R Us. And I still use childhood plates and bowls and cups. No one cares, but I know they would be uncomfortable if they knew why I still liked these things.

 

It works for now. I can live the lifestyle without any suspicion from my family and feel completely comfortable not disclosing any further info to them.

[little-shyprincess]

Well my mom thinks it's cute that I act like a little girl sometimes. I don't think she's connected me being little with me calling my boyfriend "Daddy". When she went through my diary once and saw that I call my boyfriend "Daddy", she reacted badly to it. She called it gross and disgusting. She was snooping because I was badly suffering from depression at that time and she wanted to see how my feelings were. I think the reason she reacted so badly may be for the fact that we have a bad relationship with my father; he's not a good guy. I think she may think that I'm trying to replace my boyfriend with him, which is obviously not the case. It made me feel a bit bad 

 

However, I've realized it really doesn't matter that much. She doesn't ask questions about it anymore but even if she did, it's not her business. It's my relationship and my sexual stuffs, it's between me and my partner!

[Zinnia]

Definitely not, my family are very judgemental of such topics, if my mother ever somehow found out she would have probably sent me to a therapist almost immediately.

 

Either way, I much prefer to keep this sort of thing away from family and any friends that are outside the community...and even then a lot of this sort of stuff is rather personal for me, so if I had to choose I'd always say no.

[Guest SUeB]

Never in a million years. The only people that know this side of me, are people i know from here and fetlife.

No way, no how, no chance!

[Persephone_Persephone]

Nope no way I'd tell anyone who wasnt in the community. Yes ddlg is a lifestyle and can be none sexual but its a branch of BDSM. In no way do I intend to tell my family how I like to be sexual, how I like my partner to treat me as a 3yr old, or that I use things like pacis.

 

Ddlg and BDSM are a lifestyle choice to me its not the same as being homesexual or bisexual etc. Being little comes naturally to me and I regress but its not a biological issue. Its a choice.

 

Also I like the taboo side, telling everyone wouldn't personally do it for me.

 

Id be very wary telling people this type of detail.

Edited November 1, 2017 by Poppins

[Guest CaptainAmerica97]

I wouldn't not after what I found out what my mom thinks. I'm bi sexual and I can't even tell her, and there is no way I am telling her about this. My mom thinks the BDSM lifestyle is gross and that is the same with being gay or bi. So there is no way. I hate hiding it but I am doing it to keep apart of my family. I have told my sister though that I am bi sexual but that is it. I won't tell anyone else in my family and honestly they don't need to know. Although it would be nice to have friends to talk to.

[binky-bun]

Never, my family would never understand. They already dislike me because I'm "liberal" (IE: Not racist/sexist)  and LGBT+.

[Pinkiesparkle95]

I would NEVER tell my family, They barely understand trans,gay people etc 

They're not unsupportive but it would cause far too much stress for me and daddy.....    

[Guest ParanoidAsylum]

I told my mother a few years ago, though she always knew. She was in the scene for a few years and has shown complete support of me and my choices. I guess I could say I'm one of the lucky ones.

[Guest LittleNess]

I don't want my family to know... Im scared of their reaction and Id rather keep it to myself

[HisDumbBunny]

My dad and his wife sort of know that I'm interested in ddlg since we're pretty open about our lives. I even know things about them and their kinks. So they didn't bat an eye when they found out about it, even though I didn't specifically tell them.

 

My mom and anyone else in my family? Nonononononono

[meows kohai]

Nooo wayyy. I just don't see the relevance. They already know I'm a total princess, really playful, and that I love toys and kid shit. My mother and sister also like cute/kid things so anything I would do wouldn't really stand out. It would be weird if I called my Daddy 'Daddy' instead of 'Stupid' or for him to call me 'Baby/Princess' instead of 'Loser' haha, but that's about it. We're pretty free to live our life the way we choose, so there's no point in fixing something that isn't broke. 

[Guest aphroditelaughs]

- Edited July 14, 2018 by aphroditelaughs

[LittleMissE]

I can't bring myself to tell my family because even if I watch a kiddie show they get mad at me and very angry