New to DDLG, General Questions

[daddyslilbaby]

1. Is DDLG considered a kink or a personality?

2. How much of this dynamic is acceptable to bring into public?

3. In short, am I a little? Or am I mislabelling it?

4. Any advice for long distance DDLG relationships?

5. Would the way I feel be considered littlespace? And are there any suggestions about what we can do while I'm feeling like this, especially since the usual activities aren't appealing to me?

6. How do you guys overcome feelings of insecurity and stop comparing yourself to your Daddy's ex-little (or your little's ex-Daddy)?

7. Does anyone have experience with a situation in which Daddy is depressed and needs to be taken care of? How did it work for you two?

8. How do you deal with it when Daddy's acting angry/distant and it's not your fault but you can't help but feel like you've done something wrong?

 

I'd appreciate answers to any of these questions-- even if you can only answer one, I'd love to hear it! Thank you so much everyone xx

Edited January 12, 2018 by daddyslilbaby

[neko]

1. Is DDLG considered a kink or a personality?

 

It's technically a kink I guess because it is a Dom/Sub relationship. Some peoole consider it one or the other

 

2. How much of this dynamic is acceptable to bring into public?

 

I call my bf Daddy in public because he's almost 40 and I look 16 so I actually look like his kid. I don't call him Daddy around his/my parents because thats weird as hell. As for what's acceptable in public? Just use common sense. Don't do things that make you feel uncomfortable.

 

3. In short, am I a little? Or am I mislabelling it?

 

You pretty much already answered this yourself. If you feel like a Little then you are a Little. There is no right or wrong way to be.

 

4. Any advice for long distance DDLG relationships?

 

Communicate EVERYTHING. Communication is hard enough irl. Make date plans. Watch a movie on skype or something else you both enjoy.

 

5. Would the way I feel be considered littlespace? And are there any suggestions about what we can do while I'm feeling like this, especially since the usual activities aren't appealing to me?

 

Think about the activities that do appeal to you and do those things c: do ypu like making crafts? watching movies? oggling over how cute your daddy is? then do that! c: there's a million activities you can do in Little Space! Just gotta find what you enjoy

[Guest mrfahrenheit451]

I'm going to preface by saying this is all conjecture and my opinion, take as you will; 


1. Is DDLG considered a kink or a personality? 

I think it can be both, but for me its a personality trait. I do well in relationships where I am in control, and I get to take care of my partner in a myriad of different ways. Even before I found out about this dynamic, I was like this. It was hard to explain as a 18 year old, why I wanted my girlfriend to cuddle in my lap and call me her teddy bear. Or why it was important that she sucked her thumb while she called me that.

 

2. How much of this dynamic is acceptable to bring into public?

Its subjective, and there has to be consideration for consent of others that may not want to be involved.
I am all about privacy. So mostly vanilla parts of this dynamic are shown. 

 

3. In short, am I a little? Or am I mislabelling it?

In short, only you can own the label. I think your desire to be babied is enough to call you a little. 
 

4. Any advice for long distance DDLG relationships?

Focus on communication. Every thing has to be talked about, even the silly stuff. Also goals. Both for you, and for the couple. No LDR wants to stay an LDR. (At least as far as I've experienced) 

 

5. Would the way I feel be considered littlespace? And are there any suggestions about what we can do while I'm feeling like this, especially since the usual activities aren't appealing to me?
 

Find what works for you?  There is no right or wrong answer for this. Half the fun is to experiment with your partner to find out what works for BOTH of you. And don't discount something because you think you may not like it. Theory and practice are two different things. 

 

6. How do you guys overcome feelings of insecurity and stop comparing yourself to your Daddy's ex-little (or your little's ex-Daddy)?

 

They are exes for a reason. 

 

7. Does anyone have experience with a situation in which Daddy is depressed and needs to be taken care of? How did it work for you two?

 

Everyone needs a little TLC. Even me. I like it when she scratches my back and says pretty things to me in another language. That being said, you are not responsible for his depression and the steps he needs for self care. Some guys are stubborn and may need a little reminder that self-care is sexy.

 

Just remember, everyone you see on here has something that they bring with them. It could be physical issues, mental or emotional. We're all dealing with our lives in our own ways. The key is to be respectful healthy about it.

 

8. How do you deal with it when Daddy's acting angry/distant and it's not your fault but you can't help but feel like you've done something wrong?

 

This is the hard part. Emotions and the expression of the emotions can be healthy and normal. Taking frustrations out on you, intentionally or not is NOT okay. If you let these kinds of feelings fester (See communicate!) then its only going to build into something that makes you feel upset, or resentful. And communication is a two way street. He needs to do it too. 


Relationships aren't easy. DDLG relationships are no exception. I wish you luck. 

Edited January 1, 2018 by mrfahrenheit451

[Guest infinitecases]

1. Is DDLG considered a kink or a personality? 

 

I think it's a bit of both, or can be either. At the end of the day, it doesn't matter which one of it is to you, as long as it feels right.

 

2. How much of this dynamic is acceptable to bring into public?

 

In regards to saying Daddy in public, this is widely acceptable nowadays it seems - however there are some things you might not feel comfortable with doing or perhaps some things you'd just rather keep private? Being little is part of my personality, there isn't too much of that I hide in public if I'm around people I'm comfortable with, but if I'm by myself then I hide it altogether. I'd say that there are some things I'd only ever let my Daddy see in private, but that's personal preference.

 

3. In short, am I a little? Or am I mislabelling it?

 

Being a little is what you make of it. No one thing can make you one nor mislabel you as one.

 

4. Any advice for long distance DDLG relationships?

 

If you're having trouble communicating with your Daddy over text, have you perhaps tried calling him/video calling him? I understand my Daddy's tone through texting because of how I understand how he speaks in person so there's little room for misunderstanding when it comes to that. If he or I misunderstand eachother through text, a simple message explaining it does the trick. You could also just try telling him the signs when you are little so he is more aware and hence more responsive to your little side wanting to be babied. 

 

6. How do you guys overcome feelings of insecurity and stop comparing yourself to your Daddy's ex-little (or your little's ex-Daddy)?

 

My Daddy has never had an ex.. but I guess you could say he had a very different (and yet similar) idea in mind for the girl he would like in comparison to me.  I think at first, I was very much like you, worried that I was not good enough or just different to what he wanted - but he loves me and I got over those worries soon enough into the relationship that it doesn't bother me anymore because of that fact. Remind yourself of the fact that he wants to be with you and nobody else - he chose you. 

 

7. Does anyone have experience with a situation in which Daddy is depressed and needs to be taken care of? How did it work for you two?

 

My Daddy isn't depressed but If my Daddy is feeling a little down, I either just listen to him or let him hear me talk about random things and be silly until he cheers up. Sometimes it's nice to just sit in silence and acknowledge he's there and that you're there for him. 

[Guest ~*~Sachita~*~]

Thank you for organizing the questions neatly.  Because that was a lot of text....  There is a lot of information on this site, including the answers to your questions.  It would be a good idea to read through the topics, especially the ones that have the most replies or the most views.

 

1. Is DDLG considered a kink or a personality?

 

The Differences Between DD/lg and Daddy Kink

Lifestyle/Kink

 

2. How much of this dynamic is acceptable to bring into public?

 

Being Little In Public?

 

3. In short, am I a little? Or am I mislabelling it?

 

No "True" Way

Am I a Little?

Am I Allowed to be a Little?

Am I Really a Little?

Can I Call Myself a Little Even Though I'm a Virgin?

Is It Unlittle-like To Do These Things?

Am I a Little?

 

4. Any advice for long distance DDLG relationships?

 

Forty-four topics, at my last count.  If you want the full list, PM me.  Otherwise start here:

CGL Over Distance

Long Distance Relationships

Long Distance Relationship... Advice?

Long Distance - How Does it Work For You?

Long Distance Relationships

Long Distance Daddy

Long Distance Help

Long Distance DDLG

LDR Rewards & Punishments

LDR punishments for bratty littles

long distance punishments

Long Distance DDlg Activities?

LDR Gift Ideas?
Wanna do something special for daddy (in an LDR)

Long distance daddies

Little Space (LDR)

LDRs

Ideas for Rewards for LDR

Ideas to Keep an LDR Daddy Feeling Loved

 

5. Would the way I feel be considered littlespace? And are there any suggestions about what we can do while I'm feeling like this, especially since the usual activities aren't appealing to me?

 

Defining Little Space

Huge List of Little Activities

Little Space Activities

Keeping Busy With Daddy

Fun Activities with My Little

[daddyslilbaby]

Thank you so much everyone!!! 

[Guest Sweater-Vest]

I think you are in the same boat as me. I like the thought of a potential girlfriend feeling "little" compared to me; I want to protect her, to comfort her, to show her affection, to be her big man. For me, being little is about an interior disposition primarily. However, I am not at all into the external manifestations of "littleness"; I have no interest in seeing a girl dressed up like a child, or using pacifiers, or holding stuffed animals, etc. That really doesn't do much for me. I just want her to feel a sense of littleness in my presence and look to me for security and comfort. I don't know if that makes me a "daddy" or not but the label isn't important.