learning together over long distance

[purplepenguin]

Hi everyone,

 

I have a tendency to ramble, so this could get long, but I like to make sure people have enough information to helpfully answer my question.

 

I have recently discovered/become comfortable with my little tendencies, and have talked to a very close online friend about them. He wants to be (well, sorta already is) my Papa (not Daddy because I'm not comfortable calling him that), but neither of us have any experience with this kind of relationship. (It's purely non-sexual btw)

 

I'm a university student with roommates who lives with my parents when not at school/ some weekends when school is going too. I don't have the privacy/time/desire to be little all the time, or very often even. It's a special thing for when I have a bit of time to myself. So most of my relationship with my Papa is just a friendship (at which time he's not Papa, I call him by his first name).

 

So far, when I've been able to share my little-ness with Papa, it's just been me cuddling up with my penguin stuffie and a blanket and then we message on kik, pretending to cuddle. It's really good, but I want more.

 

Does anyone have suggestions on ways to make this relationship work? How we can learn together and develop things that work for us over a distance? Things to try in terms of becoming more comfortable being little?

 

I've been reading a lot of posts about rules too, and I'd kind of like to have some rules in our relationship, but I don't know how that would work, since my time in littlespace is mostly limited to when we're talking and cuddling. I'm a little scared to ask him to establish rules that would apply to the rest of our life, but I think I really want them, and punishments/consequences too. I'm just worried that if that happens, it'll make our friendship feel more like a father-daughter relationship, which I kind of want to avoid (kind of unavoidable at the same time, because he's old enough to actually be my dad). 

 

Suggestions on possible rules and punishments and how that might work with our relationship? I was thinking maybe along the lines of an established bedtime (except when I have ridiculous amounts of assignments to finish), but I'd like a few more things maybe.

 

I feel like I've missed some important things, but I don't know what. If there's anything I can clarify feel free to let me know. Though starting in about an hour, I'll be offline for a few days.

 

 

[Guest TheLittlestMouse]

I am not so sure about the ldr part!

The rules part can be bed time, making sure you make your bed, do your laundry, get dressed, wash your face, just easy things like that! It does not have to be to crazy!

 

Is it possible you could do little skype dates with him? To help? ^.^~

[purplepenguin]

I am not so sure about the ldr part!

The rules part can be bed time, making sure you make your bed, do your laundry, get dressed, wash your face, just easy things like that! It does not have to be to crazy!

 

Is it possible you could do little skype dates with him? To help? ^.^~

Yeah, there are a lot of simple rules we could start with. I'm just a bit worried that he might think it's weird to have those kinds of rules when I'm not little.

 

Skype dates aren't really an option...our relationship is rather complicated so I can't really explain why not, but we can't Skype