Found myself in ddlg

[Guest bunnybear11]

It's late at night and I was thinking about how ddlg has affected me positively and I thought I'd write about it and see if any of u guys feel the same way, or maybe just ramble, we'll see.

 

All my life people have randomly made remarks about my future sex life, each had their own opinion, but mostly talking about how weird it was to imagine me having sex, saying I'd be awkward, I never really understood why that was, maybe because I'm small and child like, I have child like interests and because of how I dress, but somehow they all had the same opinion, that always stuck with me and at a younger age made me upset, embarrassed and very confused.

 

I've always kinda known about ddlg, from degrading documentaries I'd see on tv to the (sfw) tumblr community, who often makes ddlg look bad, and it all became normal to me, to the point where I'd know all the terms and be comfortable with it, but I was underage and just never ever thought that would be something I'd do, it seemed too far off.

 

A few years after all of this I started dating, and sex became a part of it, I did everything right and honestly it wasn't a big deal, but that's the thing, it wasn't a big deal, I was indifferent towards it.

 

It wasn't until we introduced ddlg to our relationship that I truly felt comfortable with who I was enough to enjoy it, to feel free to talk about it with the person I love the most, to open myself up completely and understand that this is who I am, and who I've been all along.

 

People aren't always gonna get it, and honestly that is fine, this can be a lonely journey, it can be intimidating and often feel like you're doing it all wrong, but that's just the way it is, and it means you're doing just fine.

 

Ddlg is a journey of self discovery, and it has completely changed my life.

[Joe]

Thank you for sharing! 

[emmyvigneron]

I love your post!

 

I had a similar view of DDlg for a while. That is was "too far fetched" for me to ever participate in. It just didn't seem like something I would be comfortable with. But like you, it just fits me now that I'm a part of it. I could never go back to "normal" relationships. I think I would be very unsatisfied emotionally and physically. Anyway, thanks for sharing your journey! ❤