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[Bunny Papa]

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[LittleKitten13]

Well, about her reaction to seeing you being turned on....  You did say no adult stuff.  Sex IS adult stuff.  Especially to some people who aren't sexual in little space (like myself).  If papa knows I'm in little space, I am 100% in charge of anything remotely sexual, because otherwise I'm frightened.  And, please, don't think you can just change someone's little space from non-sexual to sexual...for some people it isn't sexual, and never will be, and that needs to be respected.  For some people maybe it could be a gradual change, but her littleness and her submissiveness could be completely different things.

[Bunny Papa]

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[Lilkitten12]

Since she doesn’t know what you are doing she may have just been caught off guard with your reaction to movie night in a pillow fort. Once you’ve established that she may like the dynamic (which it sounds like you have) you should bite the bullet and ease into talking about it. That way you two can decide together what might work for you- nonsexual littlespace but sexual in the bedroom or maybe little space will be a turn on for her as well. It will be hard to figure out what she’s thinking or likes if she is kept partially in the dark because she might second guess her reaction or at the least feel really confused.

[neko]

What is your opinion on having a non sexual little space but a sexual Ds dynamic in the bedroom? For example, little space as after care?

That's certainly not a new concept and I think that's how pretty much every Little/Daddy relationship works

[Bunny Papa]

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[LittleKitten13]

 

What is your opinion on having a non sexual little space but a sexual Ds dynamic in the bedroom? For example, little space as after care?

 

Oh, that's fine!  I'm actually more dominant in the bedroom, but if I get scared at all during sexy time, and usually afterward, I find myself being much more little, and much more in need of papa's protection and reassurance.

[Bunny Papa]

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[LittleKitten13]

Good to hear that kitten as I just assumed that littles were more inclined to be subs

I think most of the time they are, I'm just an abnormality.

[Bunny Papa]

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[Guest QueenPrincess]

She's expressed an interest in being your sub, so if she takes an interest in being a sexual little, it would probably be in a submissive role.

 

*Sidenote: to clarify that it is indeed possible, I'm a (sexual) little who is a switch. Not a little who is submissive and sometimes bratty, like a full-on switch who dominates in/out of little space.It's maybe not common, but it's a real thing.

 

 

Now, we need to talk. From one person who loves to having a masterplan to another: consider being transparent. Surprises are possible, spontaneity is possible, but I promise you things could potentially go VERY WRONG if you continue on this underhanded route.

 

Create positive experiences, get to know what she likes, introduce the title of Daddy, then suddenly you're punishing her.... yeah. It sound delicious as Dom right? But waking up and realizing your boyfriend is playing more and more of a paternal role in your life might actually scare her away. Like permanently. *Even if otherwise it would have been her dream and suited the two of you beautifully.* Like all these sweet memories of her boyfriend building a fort for her will turn into traumatic memories of how he tried to make her as close to a child as possible for sexual gratification.

 

Cause let's not forget this is an especially easily misconstrued kink to someone who doesn't know what ddlg, littlespace, or ageplay mean.

 

So, in summary, if you avoid bringing up ddlg up in a direct way, you are:

1.) Effectively cutting her off from resources that are relevant to the situation you're putting her in

2.) Sending the message "as your dom I want/need you to be ignorant in order to maintain control" even though I doubt that's the message you mean to relay.

3.) Shooting yourself in the foot. Because if she's exposed to it as a concept she can daydream about it. And de-stigmatize. And realize if it suits her.

[Bunny Papa]

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