Little Guidance.

[Guest constantly_numb]

I have only recently discovered I am a Little, and have never been in a proper relationship.

 

My anxiety and depression acts up really rough sometimes, and it makes me doubt almost everything I do and say.

 

Could someone, maybe help me? As in being a Little and it's whole concept? What makes a good Little?

 

I know this is a tad bit confusing, but I can't get the words out right.

 

I'm sorry.

 

 

 

[Guest LittleMuse]

I totally understand what you're going through as I am going through it right now. It's okay to be confused and a little bit overwhelmed, not knowing where to start.

 

There is no 'right' way to be a little and I think that's what's so great about it. Being a little is define differently to everyone, and don't worry, you're not the only one who is figuring out their little self. I would suggest reading more things on this forum and think about what might work for you and what might not. Start to slowly figure out your little personality so in the future, or whenever you want to tell your partner, it's easier to communicate. Which leads onto my next point,

 

The key to being a good little is communication. Clearly communicate what you needs and wants to your partner while also listening to their needs and wants. Every cg/lg relationship dynamic is different; some little are little while others are middles, brats, nymphets, etc. With each relationship comes different expectations, rules, and punishments.

 

Just be honest to yourself and your partner. I know it's hard because this is a very vulnerable part of you, especially with all the doubts constantly floating around your head, but communication is really the key.

 

I hope this helps. Feel free to send me a friend message if you have any more specific questions. As I said before, I completely understand what you're going through.

[Guest constantly_numb]

Thank you for responding.

 

It's just that, me and communication don't fit. I'll stutter, then whimper and eventually just hide.

 

A 'good' day for me, is when I say 'hello' to someone.

 

It just gets so scary when I have to talk to someone, and no one understands why. Neither do I.

 

How do I explain that?

[Guest SilverKnight]

That sounds like social anxiety. I think many people have it, but to varying degrees. 

I don't think you need to explain it to anyone. From my interaction with littles, I've found that many are shy and anxious. Not everyone understands it because they might think you don't want to talk or seem snobbish, but that's their problem. 

As long as those close to you understand, it's going to be ok  

[Guest LittleMuse]

Thank you for responding.

 

It's just that, me and communication don't fit. I'll stutter, then whimper and eventually just hide.

 

A 'good' day for me, is when I say 'hello' to someone.

 

It just gets so scary when I have to talk to someone, and no one understands why. Neither do I.

 

How do I explain that?

I completely understand. Its social anxiety. It's not as bad now but a few years ago, I couldn't order anything at a restaurant, I never looked anyone in the eye, I would feel like crying if anyone spoke to me when I was outside. I know exactly how you are feeling and it is scary, but you're not alone.

 

I would suggest going to a therapist because it really helped me. It will take time to get better but it does get better as long as you're willing to try.

 

If it makes you feel safer, feel free to add me and private message me. I can relate to how you're feeling

Edited December 30, 2017 by LittleMuse

[Guest bunnybear11]

hii, I just wanted to say you can totally dm me if u ever have any questions or just need a little friend, it can be a little strange at first and I sure know I felt a little lost too