How do other Littles deal with not living with their Daddy???

[DaddyPrincess2016]

Me and Daddy have been together but because we are both only just 18 we still live with our respective parents. I see him for like 30 minutes most days (at college) except for on Thursdays where we see each other for an hour and a half. We both have to work and my family don't like Daddy which makes it really hard to see him outside of college. I really struggle with barely seeing daddy. How do other Littles deal with?? 

[Little Illy]

My Daddy lives 9134 miles away. Skype is our only way to actually see one another. And with the time difference it is hard.

 

How do we make it work?

 

1. We use MONUMENTAL effort. It is not easy. It is not magical and it is not some fairy tale. It is horribly difficult and only those who truly want it to work, will make it happen.

 

2. You work towards your goal - being together. Dates, sleepovers, moving, etc. Doesn't matter. You set a goal, and you work diligently towards it. It is your North Star, follow it and keep it in sight.

 

Most of all, take the time you two do have and cherish it. Thats the biggest thing. Its hard, but you get to touch, see, sit next to, etc each other daily, even if it is for a small amount of time. Don't squander it, revel in it. By focusing on positivity of your exchange, it will help you through the troubling times.

 

And MOST IMPORTANTLY! Communicate EVERYTHING. 

[DaddyAlphaca]

Love problem with parents in it is always hard to resolve in my opinion. Have you talk to your family why don't they like him?

 

Maybe you can talk about it to your parents and let your boyfriend know and work something out of it. Because if they don't even let you goes out with him, what you gonna say when you want to move in with your daddy?

 

I think for now communication is the key between your parents and your daddy. Try to communicate about it!

[Guest Ginger]

I only see my Daddy on the weekends due to working shifts. Trust and communication, that's about it. We video chat easily, text, send goofy gifs. He'll occasionally go Daddy mode or sometimes Dom, it all helps us. You just need to be able to communicate very, very well and trust the other person to no ends.

[Guest SUeB]

By accepting that this is how it is. We are adults, and we realise that at this moment in time, we are unable to spend every single day together.

[Daddy’s baby Nini]

My daddy lives 8500km away from me, and for me if is super hard we only see each other every two months

What you could do is of course talking on the phone about each other’s day what you dream of, what a good girl you was there’s a lot stuff you could take about. Since my daddy is so far away there’s also a big problem with the time difference because he wakes up when I go to sleep so it’s hard to find a time to talk with each other

But don’t worry it won’t take long and maybe you and your daddy will live together

[pastelcums]

Me and Daddy have been together but because we are both only just 18 we still live with our respective parents. I see him for like 30 minutes most days (at college) except for on Thursdays where we see each other for an hour and a half. We both have to work and my family don't like Daddy which makes it really hard to see him outside of college. I really struggle with barely seeing daddy. How do other Littles deal with?? 

I'm in a LDR with my daddy. He is currently based in another country which is 3 hours and 30/50 mins away from mine. It takes a lot more patience, trust, and effort than a "regular relationship". Plane tickets and all the expenses to visit him where he lives is too expensive. So i'm lucky enough if I get to see him every few months. We have no issue with the time since there isn't much difference. 

 

This is how we make it work:

 

1. Communication is key. We message/text each other through whatsapp/kik/messenger. We video call whenever we can. We'll leave voicenotes too. Whenever we go through some problems and conflicts in our relationship, we talk about it. We open up to each other and try our best to find a solution to sort things out. He doesn't let me go to sleep upset.

 

2. EFFORT. Spoil him with consistency. It's not just about the material things but also the time and effort you put into the relationship.

 

3. Work towards your goals. Plan for the future. This might seem like you're in a rush to settle down and stuff but it's also nice to know what your plans are. Do you want to live together, get married, have kids? Whatever it is, it's nice to see what kind of future you have in mind since some people just make you wait in vain :<

 

4. Keep yourself busy with your own stuff. Find a new interest, hobby, sport, workshop to go to. It doesn't matter. Keeping yourself busy will take your mind off missing him too much. 

 

5. Take this time to grow as individuals. While you're still in college and studying, take this time to work on yourself too. 

 

So that's all I can pretty much list down here haha. I wish you and your daddy the best of luck!   

Edited January 8, 2018 by pastelcums

[bouncybbe]

Me and Daddy have been together but because we are both only just 18 we still live with our respective parents. I see him for like 30 minutes most days (at college) except for on Thursdays where we see each other for an hour and a half. We both have to work and my family don't like Daddy which makes it really hard to see him outside of college. I really struggle with barely seeing daddy. How do other Littles deal with?? 

 

This is so tough, I understand how hard it can be to not see the person you always wanna see every day!!

When I was in a LDR, we had ways of connecting that made us feel like we were seeing each other even if we couldn't. While you aren't a LDR I'm sure it feels like it at times! Have you ever skyped with your daddy? I know that seeing the face of the one I loved really helped me connect with him even if I couldn't touch him.

 

As pastelcums said above, putting in lots of effort can really make the relationship work! By sending lots of messages, reassurances that you still wanna be with him even if the amount of time you have is slim, and making every moment you have with him count, you'll prove that the relationship is worth having until you guys can see each other much more frequently! The thing is, this won't be your reality forever; one day you'll have more time as your schedules will align, you won't be living with your parents, and school won't be so busy. Holding on hope that this crummy situation isn't forever and that you have lots of time to be with your daddy in the future can help make the difficulties less, well, difficult!

 

In the end, you want to make sure you're taking care of yourself. If you need lots of reassurances, let your daddy know you do. If you love physical touch, spend lots of time hugging when you're around each other. Let him know your needs and listen to his! And again like pastelcums said, always take care of yourself and do things that you love to do as an individual to grow your wonderful self!!

 

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[Guest Arc]

I understand that you want to live together and see each other more, but the honest answer is that until you can you just have to accept reality and focus on things you can do rather than being upset that you can't have what you want. Skype or call whenever you can. Make an effort to see eachother sometimes on weekends. Plan dates and things to do. Just make the best of the situation and plan on moving forward rather than dwelling on the fact you can't live together yet. 

[daddy1992]

That must be hard :/ me and my little were like that at one point, seeing each other for a few hours once every couple months. A lot of littles and caregivers are in different countries so you’re definitely not the only one. You just need to FaceTime/Skype whenever possible and talk on the phone, work through it. I don’t know what your parents are like but you’re an adult now, and in college, I think it’s time you have some freedom to do as you please to a degree. They might not like him for whatever reason but it’s your life not theirs. Idk just talk as much as possible and see each other when you can until you get more time together, keep holding on. Good Luck!