How can I say my boyfriend I'm a little ?

[BabyLie]

Hello everyone. 

 

I'm sorry the title is confusing, I don't have an boyfriend right now but I would like to know how the littles have told their boyfriend about their little side.

I'm wondering because I thought about it yesterday and I was like " If I had one now, how could I tell him without making him leave me ? "

I'm very curious, in France this culture is no NOT POPULAR AT ALL, so I think it could be super confusing for French boys, they could not understand this need or this lifestyle, I thing it's more understood in countries such as the USA or the UK, in France it's super super weird, if I had a boyfriend right now I would just be unable to talk about that with him.

 

Thank you to people who will answer me !

[Guest Dulci]

It's not exactly common here in the UK either! Maybe you see more people from these parts into it, but that does not mean that it's accepted/understood. 

Hopefully, when you meet that special someone, they will like you for the traits that make you little, and then, it won't seem so "weird"

Edited December 29, 2017 by Dulci

[BabyLie]

It's not exactly common here in the UK either! Maybe you see more people from these parts into it, but that does not mean that it's accepted/understood. 

 

Hopefully, when you meet that special someone, they will like you for the traits that make you little, and then, it won't seem so "weird"

 

I did not mean that it was more accepted , but more like humm... More common ? It's just a French opinion, it's extremely rare here so I have the impression that it's more understood everywhere else to be honnest 

 

Thank you very much for your answer, I hope so too !! 

[Guest Stinkin'ol'Fred]

I just took the plunge and brought it up. First I kinda beat around the bush about it asking about their kinks if they have any or any fetishes. Once they reply that's your opportunity to be open about your fetishes and kinks. Their response will kinda tell you if their into it or not. I wish you the best. One quote comes to mind and that is "closed mouths don't get fed" if you don't talk about it, how will they know? Don't be afraid to be open specially if you really want someone who's gonna enjoy your preferences and appreciate the great gift of a little.

[Guest Canada_Daddy]

Its weird here in Canada. I feel like there is a massive subculture of littles in Ontario and Vancouver, but then no where else lol.

Anyway, when you find someone that you care for deeply, and you know they feel the same way then they should be ok with it. Its common to overthink the scenario of telling someone your deepest secret and they run away, but more often than not the exact opposite happens. They may not understand immediately, but in time they will hopefully be ok with it because what matters is your happiness and the feelings you have for one another. 

[BabyLie]

Thank you very much for your answers, it will ertainly help in the future ! Thank you guys !

[Guest Naturalselectionissexy]

Why not find someone specifically into ddlg versus thinking the next random person on the street that hits on you will be open to it? That sounds like the more sensible approach.

[BabyLie]

Why not find someone specifically into ddlg versus thinking the next random person on the street that hits on you will be open to it? That sounds like the more sensible approach.

 

That's not it, I would really like to find someone directly into the ddlg world, it's just that it's possible to find someone outside the community, I'm a student I do a few parties and even just in college I see a lot of people, I'm not 'little' h24 and it's quite possible that I end up interested in a person that I can meet regularly.

[Guest SUeB]

Not read any of the other replies, so apologies if i am repeating anything. Just prefer to answer without influence of anything else i have read.

For me personally, i put it in the context of sometimes going into a bit of a childlike headspace. Just my innocent and wide eyed side coming out. It was easier for me, as it's simply an attitude that shows itself in certain behaviour and tone of voice (no, nothing to do with baby talk. Just that my voice softens, quitens and i possibly sound "younger")

But with previous partners, it was a long, drawn out process. Never just jumped straight in with telling anyone that. Wasn't usually necessary anyway, as it was rare that anyone ever accessed that part of my character.

But i talked to my Daddy about it immediately. It was easier with Him, as we met through fetlife, so He already knew that about me in a very basic sense. He identified as a Dom. Knew nothing of ddlg. But He was very receptive to it, and He is actually a natural Daddy.

[Guest SUeB]

That's not it, I would really like to find someone directly into the ddlg world, it's just that it's possible to find someone outside the community, I'm a student I do a few parties and even just in college I see a lot of people, I'm not 'little' h24 and it's quite possible that I end up interested in a person that I can meet regularly.

We are not ddlg 24/7. We are a full time couple. To be honest, we are a mixture of purely vanilla, D/s, M/s and DD/lg. Life does not allow us to outwardly express any of the "kink" aspects of our relationship all the time. But it's always there, even when we are doing the everyday, "normal" stuff. We live in a world where we have to be totally vanilla most of the time, in public and around family and friends etc.

[daddy1992]

Be honest?? i'm from Sydney, Australia. it isn't as "known" thing. but if i was vanilla and she was part of the ddlg community, i would be open minded to give it ago (but that how i got into ddlg 6 years go) i would want her to be honest and my you be surprised. A lot of people are open minded to try new things. but hope this helped?