Distant Daddy

[Daddy'sPrincess666]

Hi! I am new to the DDlg forum site, but not new to the DDlg lifestyle. I have been with my current Daddy for about 6 months now in an exclusive relationship and I love him so so much. I feel very comfortable being in little space around him and he usually is very attentive and loving, but lately he has been very distant. He is a father (to a very young child) and I know that he has a lot of new things going on in his life, so maybe it has nothing to do with me. But I feel very lonely lately, and I feel like I can only be little when I'm by myself. Lately I feel like he is distant from me gets irritated with me wanting his attention and being dependent on him, which only makes me reach out to him more (sending him texts all day, calling too much, getting stuck in my head thinking he's sneaking around). It's hard because I need that loving attention, and he is the one I want to get it from. I try to talk to him about it, and he just says that he is very busy and has a lot going on, and I understand that.  But I find myself thinking about finding another Daddy, someone who can give me the attention I need, and I don't want another Daddy. I want my Daddy to be there for me when I need him. And I want to be there for him, he doesn't talk to me about things like he used to, and that worries me. I feel like we're not as close as we were just a couple weeks ago and I have no idea why

 

Do any other little's or Daddy's have experience in this kind of situation? Any advice would be greatly appreciated. 

 

-A Lonely Little

[sullenDaddybones]

It's quite a common thing. Long distance love is with some people difficult. I have recently tried being a DD to a Little who has her own new born and she is so distant and never talks to me anymore. She claims it's all my fault and that I am selfish. Although in the past 4 months I've gotten her to talk to me a total of about 10 times longer than 1 hour. I am smart enough to know and I knew then that there is no relationship here it's all in my head and their head. If they even believe that.

 

Relationships take work and even on-line... Nobody is as busy as they claim and if they are or cannot talk to you then they have no relationship/time/energy to give. It's time to move on. There are plenty of people willing to put in the time that are there and you're wasting your life/love/time on someone that is not going to reciprocate. 

 

I have had the above experience at least 4 or 5 times in 4 or 5 years........ And before that I've seen it and dealt with it. We get hung up on people. Though you should only hang yourself up on a person that is mutually hung up on you. That's easy to spot they will be there and what you need/want...

[Daddy'sPrincess666]

Thanks for your advice! 

 

For the record, we are not in a long distance relationship.

[Guest Georgia-Daddy2]

This use to be a problem for me. I would distance myself from my partner because I had a lot of emotional stress and I didn't know what to do except be alone. I didn't even know it was a problem I thought it was natural. When I was introduced to ddlg I started loving deeper than I had before. I had also picked up art as a hobby. I draw for multiple reasons that are ultimately all emotional. When I'm sad, frustrated, angry, or hurting I draw. I am colorblind but I draw beautiful pictures in color. I have decided to pursue it as a career because it's the best therapy I have ever tried. It takes up a lot of time but it's something I can do with a little (whenever I have one) and she won't feel left out. She is part of my relief and I associate littles with stress relief. It's weird and unethical but it works for me and makes me happy. Help him find a stress relief that you can do together. You get attention and he gets to relax. That is my advice.

[Guest SilverKnight]

Having been in a somewhat similar situation I will say that responsibilities as a parent always come first, and this could be at the cost of your relationship if you are extremely needy. I suggest asking him how much time he's willing to put into your relationship, and making a decision based on that answer

[sullenDaddybones]

Have a heart to heart see what is really going on!

Thanks for your advice! 

 

For the record, we are not in a long distance relationship.

[Daddy4babygirls]

I have had similar situations. I had a young little back three months ago, then I got called out of the country. In fact, the Middle East. I called her once a month and even wrote to her when I could. I kept hearing about how much she loved and missed me, but when I got back I had a “Dear John” note!