Is it okay to have two daddies?

[Kaylabear]

I have one daddy who is my boyfriend. And he's all for it, he just doesn't understand it well. He doesn't fully understand why I enjoy being in little space or really any of it. And I don't mind this, I don't mind being patient while he figures it all out and figures my little space out.

 

I also have a friend I'm really close with and he recently figured out about my little space. he is a daddy himself and we started talking about it and just out of conversation he tells me I'm a good girl and other things a daddy would tell their little. And it got me thinking. 

 

Could I have two daddies? The only thing is that my boyfriend/daddy doesn't know me and my friend talk like that. But I really wonder if  I could have two daddies?

[Guest pacibrat]

In my opinion, this is only okay if your boyfriend knows and agrees to this. Otherwise, it's like emotional cheating.

[MrJohnny]

How important is fidelity to your boyfriend? For that matter, how important is it to you?

 

The likelihood that your bf/Daddy will just "figure it out" without lots of misunderstanding is slim. Always better to talk about the dynamic and the implications to your IRL relationship.

 

Unless you are the type to thrive in the midst of chaos. Some are, and then anything goes.

 

Can you have 2 Daddies? Sure. There are poly relationships in this dynamic. Anything is possible.

[smallprincesssarah]

It's essentially the same as asking if you can have two boyfriends. You have to make sure both of them are aware of the other, or else it could be construed as cheating and result in hurt feelings, no matter if it's sexual or platonic. CG/l is an intimate dynamic that needs trust to work well. I'm not saying it's not possible to have two daddies, but you should let your boyfriend know that there is another Daddy before he finds out on his own.

[Guest aphroditelaughs]

While it's possible to have platonic Caregivers, I think you need to talk to your boyfriend. It sounds like you don't have a poly or open relationship and these kinds of dynamics tend to be intimate outside of sexual stuff. Dynamic aside, you're searching outside your relationship because something in it isn't fufilling you and that's not cool. You also need to consider if this would hurt your boyfriend.

 

Communicate with your boyfriend about BOTH of your needs first. You might be pleasantly surprised with the outcome.

[Guest Loki]

Yes becuase it’s being poly. As with poly it’s only poly if everyone knows and agrees - otherwise it’s cheating!

 

Honesty, communication, and don’t force anyone. If this is something you need/want and the others don’t need/want than you have to decide if having more than one Daddy is more important than being with your boyfriend.

 

Never expect someone to figure such important things out. They most likely won’t and the realstionship will sink faster than the Jolly Roger while it’s on its way to Neverland.

 

Never let someone be in the dark of you’re going for more than one person. It’s hurtful and selfish.

[Guest Arc]

It is okay as long as all people in the relationship/s know, consent, and there is a lot of proper communication. It's something you need to work out between you and your bf before going any further. If he is willing and okay with it then I'm sure you could find a way to balance everything and make it work if that is what you really want. 

[princessbrittykitty]

Only if your boyfriend knows about it. My daddy had two littles and I didn't know. It tore me apart, it is not something you want to do to your boyfriend

[Hisbabygirl806]

See if the experienced daddy will help and train ur bf to b the daddy u need and want

[SmolAetherr]

if your partner doesent know this person talks to you like that and i am going to assume you are monogamous with them, that situation is very concerning to me

im not netirely sure what you are asking here#

1. "is it okay to have a dynamic with two people?"

2. "is it okay to cheat?"

3."is it okay to be polyamorous?"

 

i can answer for myself

1. yes if everyone consents

2. no.

3. yes if all parties consent

but be aware its a bad idea to introduce it to a monogamous relationship because its a fundamental shift in ideology that can be incompatible and bring very strong reactions from existing partners, like for myself as an example

if my partner suggested it i would leave, im not what they are looking for and they admitted the fact that they cant be happy with just me like i could be happy with just them

 

 

edit: ah just noticed this is a necro, still good to bring up

Edited September 15, 2022 by SmolAetherr

[moondust mochi]

On 12/28/2017 at 2:24 PM, Kaylabear said:

I have one daddy who is my boyfriend. And he's all for it, he just doesn't understand it well. He doesn't fully understand why I enjoy being in little space or really any of it. And I don't mind this, I don't mind being patient while he figures it all out and figures my little space out.

 

I also have a friend I'm really close with and he recently figured out about my little space. he is a daddy himself and we started talking about it and just out of conversation he tells me I'm a good girl and other things a daddy would tell their little. And it got me thinking. 

 

Could I have two daddies? The only thing is that my boyfriend/daddy doesn't know me and my friend talk like that. But I really wonder if  I could have two daddies?

the question you're asking isn't accurate -- of course you can have two daddies, but what you're asking is if you can have two daddies with one not knowing about the other. the answer to that is no -- that's cheating. unless, of course, your boyfriend agreed to you having this sort of relationship with someone else without his knowledge. it sounds like you need to sit down with your bf, be honest about your friend and discuss what boundaries you're both comfortable with.