Help! Im new and Im freaking out!

[SuperBabyGirl124]

[DollDirector]

There is a lot in your topic,but the sentence I notice most is " I should maybe deal with all of my issues sufficiently first ". Probably not; If you view things like this you risk not moving. It's a new relationship; Give it a chance and look forward to a bit of progress on all fronts. Sustainable progress is often slow. If your daddy is able there is nothing wrong in using him as a higher power.

[Guest LittleMuse]

I think it's okay for you to be in this relationship as long as you understand that your issues aren't going to magically disappear or be fixed in an instance; it'll take time. Also, your daddy wont be able to fix your issues for you but he will be able to help by setting rules and punishments etc. You'll be the one who chooses to follow them.

 

I'm sure you've spoken to him about your expectations of him and vice versa so, if you and him have laid everything out, you don't need to worry about being too much for him.

 

People enter dd/lg relationship for a lot of different reasons and if your daddy has said to trust him to keep you safe after discussing expectations then you should do just that; trust him.

 

Hope this help ~

[MrJohnny]

I am a recovered alcoholic/addict. I am also a DaddyDom. Both of those things are intrinsic to who I am. There need be no contradiction IF as the Big Book says I maintain my spiritual fitness. One of the ways I do this is by doing a "fearless and searching moral inventory of myself" before I enter into any new relationship. One of the questions I ask myself is "Am I trying to replace my Higher Power with one I can control?" If I find the answer to be "no", then I proceed in the confidence and security of the knowledge that my Higher Power is indeed still in control of my life.

 

This does not mean that I deny control to other higher powers placed in my life by my ultimate Higher Power. For example, my employer is a higher power who can tell me what I am expected to do, how I am expected to do it, and when I am expected to do those things within the realm of an employer's control. The more I examine my life the more higher powers I find, and the more I realize how little control I actually do have in my life. But I also realize that by submitting to these various higher powers I am freed to control those things which I actually can and should control, including the ability to both yield and/or retain control in areas of my life as I choose.

 

I choose to be recovered "from a seemingly hopeless state of mind and body". I have hope now, and a reasonable and maintainable measure of control.

 

You can too.   

[Guest pacibrat]

"Wondering if maybe im not really an alcoholic and have just been a little with no outlet and that's why I've been pretending to be a big girl for so long."  Please don't think this way.  You ARE also an adult.  You are NOT just a little.  You need to keep dealing with your addiction.  Addiction has nothing to do with being little or not.  I applaud you for attending AA.  Stick with it and stay away from the alcohol. <3

 

With that said, your new Daddy knows your issues and has agreed to be there for you.  You can allow him to help you, but again, remember you're also an adult.  My advice is to proceed with the relationship, but make sure you two talk as adults too. None of us know if we'll be too much for our Daddies.  My ex-Daddy had to give me up because of dealing with his depression and he just couldn't Daddy me anymore.  My point is, is that none of us would ever have relationships if we all thought that way.  I wish you two the best.