Dd/lg relationship tips

[Guest DaddyDownUnder]

Just my opinion. 

1. Don’t need a relationship. A relationship is two people complementing one another, not one person being a lifeboat to save the other who is drowning. You should be able to live on your own adequately before looking for someone. 
2. Take time getting to know someone. If you let someone become your daddy or little after 2 days you deserve whatever happens to you. That might sound terrible, but that’s just a total lack of common sense. Protect yourself. 
3. Know what you want and don't settle for less. It might take you months or a year, but eventually you’ll find someone who fulfils your needs. 
4. Be honest. Don’t lie or hide things from your daddy or little. 
5. Communicate about problems. In particular littles struggle to do this. If you feel like your daddy isn’t providing in some way, or you’re unhappy about something, then tell him. He can’t read your mind. 
6. Talk about time and how much of it you want from the other person in your relationship, particularly if its a LDR. What you might want could be very different from what your partner wants. 
7. Create structure if you’re a daddy. A structured relationship is more likely to work than one where things just happen on a whim. It also ensures your little always knows what’s going on and can look forward to things because they know when things are going to happen. 
8. Be independent. Sure it’s nice to do things with your other half, but have times where you do your own thing too. If you’re relying on them 24/7 it’s not healthy. Should things not work out, you’re in a better position too. 
9. Be passionate. Ask yourself if you’re continuously showing your love to your daddy or little, or whether things have got mundane and boring? 
10. Be positive. Don’t worry too much. Relationships will always carry some risk. If you look for issues everywhere, you will start imagining them and never be satisfied. 

I'm sure the list could be longer, so comment with whatever I've missed. 

[Guest SUeB]

Mostly agree, but i called my Master "Daddy" on day two. Guess this means i am doomed. And if so, i deserve it. Ho-hum, if only i had known.

[ThePoet]

The list could be longer... or shorter... or completely different. The best part about an opinion is that yours is as wrong as everyone else's. That's why you shouldn't really throw it around without a good reason.

[A Cuddly Dom]

 Sound advice. A lot of common problems could be either solved, or avoided altogether if people adhered to these tips. I might add a few here.

 

11) Make friends within your community. Friends can really help in moments when your partner is not available, or for support when things are difficult. It is a good idea to make friends within your particular niche of the BDSM world, whether you are a Dom, a switch, or a submissive of some stripe(like littles). Having friends in the lifestyle will allow you to absorb new ideas and perspectives, help keep you from making serious mistakes, and can act as a sounding board for your own thoughts. Also, friends within the community are likely to understand the unique difficulties we experience in the lifestyle, and can provide better care and understanding when things get tough.

 

12) Do your research! The internet is loaded with information about kink relationships, D/s, power exchange, and the techniques that go with them. If you are truly curious about a particular thing, seek out the information. I see a lot of younger men coming out and asking someone else to explain how to be the perfect Dom/Daddy in about three paragraphs (sigh). Sorry, scooter. You're going to have to put some work in. People more experienced can share and maybe point the way, but if someone isn't willing to seek out the knowledge on their own, how on earth are they going to put in the incredible amount of work necessary to manage a D/s relationship?

 

13) Work on yourself. Recognize things in your life that you could improve upon, and then develop a plan to reach those goals. I'm not saying beat yourself up, not at all. Be gentle with yourself in understanding things like negative patterns, thought processes that hold you back, or core issues you might be carrying on your back. We all have things we could be working on. Heck, I've got so many, I'm intentionally staying single until I've worked some of them out.

 

14) Be honest with yourself about your expectations, wants, needs, and desires. Be realistic, and check in with yourself regularly to evaluate your feelings.

 

15) Check in with your partner regularly. Have "meta talks". This is where you temporarily suspend the dynamic and have an open, honest conversation with your partner/s about how you are feeling within the relationship. Be heard, and then listen to what your partner has to share. These little talks are really important in determining how all parties are really feeling, what might need to change, or what needs to happen more in order to strengthen the relationship.

 

 These are just a few I came up with. Hopefully, someone else can jump in and contribute more.