Advice for little in an non DDLG relationship

[PumpkinPilot]

So I have come to the conclusion that I have a dilemma in my marriage and I need advice. I don't know what to do. I am a little and my husband, try as he might, is not a daddy. He is not dominant whatsoever. He isn't good at taking care of me, or understanding little space. He doesn't realize it's more than me calling him "daddy" in the bedroom. I've tried to explain to him that it's just a part of who I am and I need him to be nurturing and caring and interactive with me but he's just not getting the hang of it and if anything he's very submissive and I don't want to be a Dom at all. He wants to be a switch and I think he actually just is a submissive who wants me to be his dom because that's the feeling he gives me and how he implies he wants our relationship to work.

 

I've thought about looking into if someone would be interested in being a platonic daddy to me because although I have an issue with the dynamic of this side of our relationship we have a pretty healthy marriage in every other aspect. However I don't even know if having a platonic daddy is a actual thing..

 

I just need help brainstorming how to have a ddlg connection without ruining my marriage. it's so frustrating wanting this closeness and to be cared for this way but not having someone to give it to me.. I feel so alone..

[Guest Ignea]

Hi there ,

 

I feel your problem and i bet its pretty hard, a true dillema.

Im glad your marriage is ok and open enpugh to talk about it wirh your husband.

With talkng there should be a solution for the dillema , because communication is the most important thing in this situation.

Did you talk with him about your needs that brings you to look for a "outside" Dom/Daddy/CG ?

And did you bring up your thopughts toward him about the way you see things in him being sub/switch/Dom?

 

As long as you two can communicate about it open and honest there wil be a solution im sure of that.

[DeepMango]

Are you happy in the relationship? As much as things might be comfortable, don’t settle. Definitely work with your husband and find a kink friendly therapist if you can to facilitate. Best of luck!