Am I being to picky?

[Guest Littlekittencxx_]

Sooooooo I’m finally embracing my little side after almost two years of being a little. I finally understand who I am and what I like. So now I’m ready to start a relationship and find a loving daddy. I require a lot of attention and care and I feel most daddies I’ve met either are to forward and want to date me right away just because of looks (not saying I’m prettiest or being conceited ) and is not taking me serious. I’ve got multiple offers but I’m just not settiling . It’s just when I go into little space I can be very clumsy, vulnerable and needy . Am I being to pick and overthinking ? Any advice for finding a “real” dom

[Guest Prat]

Go at your own pace, go as fast as you are comfortable, trust your instincts. You and your safety is far more important than finding a partner just for the sake of it.

Being very picky and overthinking is just a part of who you are.

As far as finding a "real" dom...everyone is different, the kind of dom we are depends on the type of person we are. If you're not comfortable with someone who would want to date you just because of looks (which will more often than not result in a meaningless, shallow connection and superficial power exchange) then don't accept those kinds of potentials, you have every right to, you both are human and you matter just as much in the terms of safety and having needs.

My advice for finding your "real" dom is to find the right person. Someone you can share interests with and be friends with and feel comfortable and open with. Someone you will potentially look up to or motivate you or inspire you in some way (and the other way around)

I've found that a person who suits you will often suit you as a partner as well.

 

I just woke up and am going back to sleep so I'll probably edit this later...

 

Have a nice day, Prat.

Edited December 16, 2017 by Prat(Praetorian)

[Guest Urthurs]

No you are doing exactly what you should be doing actually. You have no obligations to do anything that you are not comfortable with.

[Guest SUeB]

Real doms want sex too, and real doms can be pushy.

And your experience is the same for pretty much every single female on sites like this. Attractive or not. Men throwing themselves at us, lol.

But you want what you want, and have every right to hold out for it.

[Wolfycheeks]

Why is it bad people want to date you for your looks in the first place? What else do they have to go by? Just the sole fact that you're a little and like cute stuff like most other littles? They really like how you look, isn't that a good thing? They can't possibly know your entire personality already, ofcourse they'll be interested in that aswell! No matter how pretty someone is, if you'd be boring and bland they wouldn't stick around anyways. Especially not on a forum, as they won't actually have the sex you think they're after haha.

 

Also I see you don't have anything on your profile. The logical thing to do is comment on your profile picture as it's the only thing they can really go by.. besides standard boring things like 'hey how r u bb' lol

Edited December 16, 2017 by Wolfycheeks

[Guest pacibrat]

No, you aren't being too picky.  The Daddies here that I have been willing to have conversations with as potential Daddies have been a no for me too.  Just keep looking until you find what you need and want.

 

Men are definitely attracted to a pretty face.  I know what that's like.  That doesn't mean that you will find the RIGHT Daddy for you quickly.  Just be patient and steady.  Finding someone online is the same as finding someone in the real world.  You have to talk to quite a few frogs until you find your Prince.

[Guest Ignea]

Just be true to yourself and be yourself.

If it doesnt feel right then dont do it. Being picky isnt to bad, The fact thad your blessed with goodlooks is a bonus for you but not mandatory to get that special person in your life.

 

The cliche thats totaly true,,,  its about the inside beauty, but the eyes want sometimes be pleased aswell. sou you have both.

Just as long as you feel safe secure and loved its fine. Dont rush, dont get pressured.

 

Its the same as in anyother relation, you want that click, that sparkle that feeling , if it aint there then just let it be

[sullenDaddybones]

When on the Internet in these little boxes you end up starting off with a few pics. Being straightforward/honest to a fault....The Littles I've  conversed with this way though whether I've chosen to get to know them or not are wasting no time and their fine feathered display of truth is worth a million pictures. I usually know right off to tell them I'm cannot live up to their expectations! Or I could but not this or that!

 

If they're straight with it induces me to be quite straightforward with them. In this though you don't have to be picky anymore but don't expect as many responses or small talk. When you play around or don't put it all the table then you have to wait for the small talk to get you to where you want to be.

Just my own experience, your own experience may vary

[Guest Littlekittencxx_]

[GeekyPastry]

Look, I think you SHOULD be picky. ESPECIALLY if you're looking for your forever Daddy! Most people are attracted to looks first, because that's what is noticed first, however if they can't appreciate your beautiful personality, then they're not for you. You're amazing, beautiful, and should be treated with respect and dignity. If they can't do that, then they don't deserve your time, loyalty, or submission. 

[Guest LittleHG]

No you are not being too picky. You’re doing the right thing by being picky. Rushing into a relationship with someone you aren’t really sure about is not usually a good idea. People who rush into things sometimes if not often end up being completely miserable. Personally I have a hard time with break ups even if I don’t really like the guy. It’s better to never settle on a guy you don’t feel right about than to get in a relationship with him and get hurt.

[Guest Sillylittlemouse]

No one is ever picky! If you want to find someone for you make a list of what you are looking for. For example a few on my list is someone encouraging,

Reliable, and patiant.

[Guest infinitecases]

If you're making the decision on who to potentially spend the rest of your life with, I don't see the problem with being picky. The only one that loses out if you aren't picky is you. 

[Guest Mister Grey]

All too often I see people moaning and groaning about their partner.

 

he’s an ass, she’s so mean, he cheats, she lies, he’s lazy and unemployed, she hits me and yet, they knew all this stuff in the beginning, but at the time when they first met, it was, oh she’s cute, oh he has a nice car or whatever.  So they made the decision to ignore what they did not want in partner and focus on the 1 or 2 things that they liked and then they are complaining in the end as if it was all a surprise.

 

Not to say there are not legitimate surprises out there, I’m just saying your approach to taking your time and really investing in yourself by not settling of the first fool that comes brandishing flowers and a collar is the right way to go.

 

Your doing things exactly right!  Take your time and dont settle for anything less than what you want in a partner.  If you see red flags, pay attention.  

 

I know you can’t account for everything but being “picky” and sticking to it I think will lead you to a better overall decision.

 

 

Hold strong…your worth it.