Being ignored by Daddy

[Rsp]

Hello, this is my first post. I'm currently feeling so upset. My Daddy is ignoring me and has been for the past few days. I'm sure he's doing it as a punishment. I was a little bit bratty and told him he was a 'cheeky bastard' as a joke. He told me to watch my language for which I said sorry. He told me you will be and has ignored me since. I'm feeling so upset by this. I wish he would tell me if this is a punishment or if he's just gone off me.

[Guest MrHoneyPaw]

I don't really agree with the whole no contact punishment. To me, DDLG is all about making your little feel protected and loved and ignoring is completely the opposite of that.

 

Is this in your punishments list (if you have one)? Has this happened ever before?

[Guest pacibrat]

When he does come back, you two need to adult talk and establish what forms of punishment he will use.  I, personally, would not go for the "silent treatment" or "no contact at all" from a Daddy.  I don't know the dynamic between you two, but I think he's being very harsh.  One of the worst things you can do to a little is confuse them and then not be there for them.

 

None of use can tell you if he's definitely coming back or not though.  Sowwy.

[Rsp]

Edited December 14, 2017 by Rsp

[Princess-P]

I wouldn't take that kind of treatment.

 

It sounds like your new to each other as you haven't even talked about what you want from the relationship. If this is his first go to punishment its showing he's not going to be a very good partner.

 

You can try talking to him if you think its worth it but it sounds like to me its so new and this so harsh you should just move on.

 

Regardless of the dynamic the silent treatment is never OK. Partners should never ignore each other. Your either in it or your not... It sounds like he's not in it for you at all.

[Guest DaddyDownUnder]

I'm sorry your daddy is doing this. Every daddy should know that ignorance is not a valid form of punishment and never is. Punishments exist for a few reasons, but instilling fear in a little is not one of them. 

 

[Rsp]

We're fairly new to each other and have talked about what we want just an 'official ' punishment list was not one of those things.  In retrospect maybe it should have been and if ignoring came up I could've said why I don't think it's a valid punishment. 

[Guest SUeB]

Is he an adult? Sorry, but he sounds more like a sulky child. No way would i put up with that. And a rather vital component of a punishment dynamic is for the person giving it to actually give notice of said punishment. Tell him to put his lip back in.

[Guest Alainnb]

I agree with everyone else.... also, did you specifically had this rule about no bad words...? Because if not, I also think he's overreacting a little, I mean "cheeky bastard" is something I would use to joke around/tease my friends with. Besides, you said you're sorry.... Did you write him how you don't think it's a valid punishment? O; I mean, he might not answer but unless he muted you ( which would be... bad... because what if something serious would happen in the time he's ignoring you), the notification will definitly pop up on his phone..... 

Will the " Oh you will be (sorry) " it also sounds like he just did it because he was pissed and angry and didn't do it with a calm mind....which I don't think is very good... I mean, if one needs a time out or time to calm down, it's not a big deal to inform your partner and punishments in this relationship shouldn't be done out of anger but to correct the wrong behaviour and help the little to improve, if you ask me...

[MadelynVictoria]

I'm sorry, but your daddy sounds like an absolute child. You apologized for it. He didn't have to turn to ignoring you. You need to discuss this with him, and let him know that wasn't okay. And after that, set up some rules and punishment so you both know what to do (or not do in this case)

[Rsp]

Thank you everybody. You all speak so much sense and it's good to know that I'm not alone in thinking that ignoring isn't acceptable. It's really sad because now part of my trust in his ability to be a caregiver has gone and also my trust in believing that he will do what's in my best interests. So frustrating.