Daddy left me

[Daddysbabygirl0]

hi guys, i don't really know what i should do so i thought i'll just rant about it here.

So, me and my daddy were together for over a year and we've been through a lot, we broke up twice, both times it was him who needed a break of the whole thing, i guess. He never really told me the reasons and when he got back he acted like nothing ever happened.

Beside that, we had a great relationship. He always used to tell me that he really loves me and that i'm the first girl he has ever loved.

Over the past few weeks, i had a lot of stress because of school and personal stuff. Because of that, i had a hard time getting into little space, which he kinda seemed to ignore after he asked once and i told him that it's because of school.

Like every night, i went to bed and he sent me a message which i didn't answer because i was already asleep. In the morning when i texted back, it didn't want to send but i brushed it off because i thought it was just my phone being weird. Turns out that he has blocked me.

I don't really know how to handle this whole thing, i don't know if it was something i did or if it was my fault in general. I just feel lost without him, he was my daddy, boyfriend and protector.

It hurts so much.

[Guest SUeB]

He clearly wasn't your protector, you just wanted him to be. Not saying that he is a bad person, just clearly not the one for you. Break ups happen for a reason, so if it's happened a few times, that's a massive indication that you two should not be together. Looks like it's likely there is fault on both sides. Of course we can only give our own side to any story, but for whatever reason, he couldn't give you the emotional attachment that you wanted.

Yes it hurts. It's perfectly natural to feel that way.

Just focus on taking care of yourself. Grieve then move on when it's time.

[sullenDaddybones]

It's sad and I've been there before. Sounds like a LDR, which is pretty easy to end for one or both people involved if they're not getting what they feel they want or deserve. 

 

Though the reality is there are hundreds of potential Daddies and Littles Searching them(just here, hell me included). A good deal of these people have wonderful hearts and are direly in need of the affection and caring. Attachment is great(it's the buildings blocks of love) but with a LDR a 'Year' is an ancient relationship. 

 

I know that sounds harsh but I've had about 10-15 LDRs. 4-5 over the past 4 years and everyone died within a few months. Of course I don't recall a single instance of not telling the other person a reason or how I felt. Though I have had received that treatment. Just live, love and move on... Quickly! (BTW: I had 1 LDR For 4 years!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!) We nearly married! We spent 2 years together and 3 years discussing why it didn't work. Why it didn't work: 

 

Dishonesty, Cruelty, Youthful souls, Games.....not all but generally it's my finding that the younger a person is in mind the shorter their attention span is for things. I was an old soul and I took 10 years to get over my first Love. Took them awhile too...... a person with depth lasts longer

Edited December 10, 2017 by sullenDaddybones

[nevergrowup]

My partner just recently broke up with me too. He did it before too but then I visited him and he changed his mind

It seems he got bored or only wanted to be with me when I was actually in front of him. It was a LDR for almost two years.

I find it hard because he never really was my daddy but knew I was little.

I really need someone to help me through this but I don't want to get attached and I'm not sexual unless I'm my big self.

I forget simple things and now I have no one to remind me and look after me

It hurts alot.

[DeepMango]

Just know it was him, not you that caused the break up and he did it badly. I know it is hard but until you meet and spend real time together protect your heart. As has been said above, there are many good daddies out there. Just take your time. Best of luck.

[Davidskip]

Hi i feel your pain my little left me after two years. If you want to chat please do

[Guest SUeB]

Hi i feel your pain my little left me after two years. If you want to chat please do

That's why she posted. To chat about it here.

[bl4nk]

He clearly wasn't your protector, you just wanted him to be. Not saying that he is a bad person, just clearly not the one for you. Break ups happen for a reason, so if it's happened a few times, that's a massive indication that you two should not be together. Looks like it's likely there is fault on both sides. Of course we can only give our own side to any story, but for whatever reason, he couldn't give you the emotional attachment that you wanted.

Yes it hurts. It's perfectly natural to feel that way.

Just focus on taking care of yourself. Grieve then move on when it's time.

100% agree here, I think you had an image of him in your head that may not have reflected reality.

[trvppydxddy]

I agree. You had an image in your head that he was your protector, he wasn't. Not if he just blocked you like that. It's gonna hurt and probably will for a while, but you just have to realize that, sometimes, relationships just don't work. There's nothing you can do about it. You're going to feel a lot of emotions. You're gonna wanna cry and get mad and miss him and everything like that, that's perfectly normal. Feel those emotions, its an important part in getting over him. Don't be afraid to cry about it or take a day off and lay in bed all day and eat ice cream. As the days or weeks or whatever pass, you'll start to feel those emotions less and one day, you won't even be upset about it anymore. It just takes time and its hard I know but you gotta tough it out. I would suggest talking to people about it and having a strong support system around you to help you out. Also, try incorporating something new into your life, like a new hobby or something like that because that creates change and, especially since he won't be involved in the new things, it'll allow you some time to take your mind off of him. Overall, try to just worry about yourself because you're the most important person in your life and everyone deserves to be happy, I promise you that you don't need him to do that. I hope you feel better soon and I'm sorry about the situation, break ups are the worst, but I believe in you and you can get through it I promise.

He clearly wasn't your protector, you just wanted him to be. Not saying that he is a bad person, just clearly not the one for you. Break ups happen for a reason, so if it's happened a few times, that's a massive indication that you two should not be together. Looks like it's likely there is fault on both sides. Of course we can only give our own side to any story, but for whatever reason, he couldn't give you the emotional attachment that you wanted.
Yes it hurts. It's perfectly natural to feel that way.
Just focus on taking care of yourself. Grieve then move on when it's time.