Long distance self esteem issues

[Fox-4848]

My little is having self esteem issues about her stretch marks, I have tried telling her how beautiful she is regardless of them and that they don't make me love her any less but she is always worrying about them no matter what I say. I'm away from my little for work so I can't physically be there but I want to help my princess so she knows how beautiful she is. I am fairly new to being a caregiver so I'm hoping maybe someone has some advice or tips for me

[Persephone_Persephone]

This is tricky as I am not sure what she is like as a person and so there are different approaches depending on her personality. But I will say this,just because you can't be there physically you can still have some presence.

 

Maybe ask what it is she doesnt like about them? And reassured her that pretty much all females have them (and many males do too). It is normal and just proof of the life you have lived (whether she has them from growth, weightloss/gain or being pregnant).

 

And something I always remind myself about mine and my scars. What a boring life and person it would be if we got to the end stage and didnt have a mark on our body to show our memories and our battles. There isnt much pretty in plain. A few scars, marks or imperfections show you have lived. We are not meant to be perfectly printed images like we see in the media. Her stretch marks are a proof she is a living breathing human.

 

And also and this is tough love here....some people have alot worse things to cope with. Sometimes a little reality check (when done with care and love) can help alot. But that depends on how down she is and her as a person.

Just be there for her and support thats all you can do.

[Fox-4848]

Thank you so much for your advice, you gave me a lot of ideas that may help. I especially like the term "plain isn't pretty" and the accompanying advice there, I feel like that one may help her out the most. Again, thank you so much!

[Persephone_Persephone]

Glad you liked my points. Its hard because these issues are so personal. I dont mind my own scars etc because ive never seen myself without. But when I got stretch marks I was about unsure what to think.

 

For me it was, 'get over it it means you had a kid and that's a great thing!' But some people would take that the wrong way. So guess just have to work out the best way forward for her.

[Alaskan Daddy]

This is what I would say if I was in your shoes. * puts you on my lap and hold you tight* 'Princess as long as you are little you are the most beautiful girl in the world'

[daddy1992]

Hey, 

I can feel the struggles. My little one was the same and i guess the only thing is to make sure you keep telling her that she's beautiful and even saying that her marks are beautiful. showing her that you think your princess is perfect in every way and ect. 

 

Hope this helped