New to DDLG

[Walkingpie]

My fiance and I are new to DDLG and I have been told that recently I'm slipping out of my Daddy role and she thinks it is because I'm not interested in the lifestyle. This is not the case.

 

I am was wondering if any experiences daddies out there could give me any pointers to stop me slipping out of my role.

 

She suffers from anxiety when it comes to being intimate (sexual and just giving me affection - kisses and cuddles) I personally feel this doesn't help.

 

Just looking to make some daddy friends to guide me though. Any advice would be greatly appreciated

[Wolfycheeks]

Why do you need to stay in your role ALL the time? I'm not always little, or always a CG, it just happens in certain situations and as a natural reaction to things.. I can't imagine having to be in the Daddy role all the time. It sounds very tiring if you're gonna try and force it. 

 

Question is, why do you have to stay in it? does she need that much guidance and stuff with her mental disorders? or?

 

Also, you say you are interested, but what made you interested in the role of Daddy? because to most people it's just like 'Ah, that comes naturally to me, that description is totally me!', I feel like you'll know when you're a daddy and when you're not. But there's also different types of Daddies.. it's difficult to judge from this information. So when something happens and you reply like you normally would, she would say 'That's not very Daddy-like' so you're gonna have to apologize and re-do it but in Daddy mode? that sounds weird to me..

[Guest Arc]

You can only give what you are able. I would say if you are slipping out of that role it is because you are trying to do more than you are capable of. DDLG dynamics can get pretty intense. I'm not sure what your situation is like, but maybe you are going too fast for you. If being a Daddy isn't something you are used to, then maybe you need to take it a little slower until you are used to someone relying on you so heavily. You may be a Daddy naturally, but suddenly taking on all that responsibility is a big thing and you may need more time to sort out how to work things out. 

 

Relationships need compromise. Just because she is ready to be a little all the time, it does not mean you can immediately be a Daddy all the time. You need to work out a balance of things that works for you both, and that isnt going to come immediately. You need time to sort these things out.