Aftercare

[Guest LavanderRabbit]

So I'm curious to know what other little's get to do for aftercare when they go through a play session. Since my Daddy is far away, we don't really have any experience with this. He has been looking for ideas for when we are finally together. Any stories?

[Guest taryn of arendelle]

Papa will just hold me and tell me I did a good job. He'll kiss me all over and snuggling me and make shh noises and tell me everything will be okay. It's actually really soothing.

[manicpixidream]

Daddy does this thing where he puts his leg over both of mine and pulls me in close. Then he pets my head and talks to me. Sometimes he gets sleepy, though, and it gets on my nerves a little.....

[princess-mel]

During play my Daddy actually reassures me all he does is because he loves me and he makes me repeat it. After play he has me repeat it again and we go into the living room and cuddle and watch netflix and usually snack. And he always keeps my blankie, stuffie, and binky nearby.

[Guest Sae]

My Daddy hugs me, strokes my head, we cuddle, he tells me how well I did.  I also get baby oil for play spankings or punishment ones. :3 after, it helps soothe my ouchies.  We do a lot of after care. When we do cam shows people seem to really like seeing the after care. They think it's sweet. 

[Bull]

After an intense session, I get terrible Dom drop if I don't get decent aftercare. (Gasp! I know! A Master who needs aftercare!)

 

I tend to need a cuddling, a "thank you", and telling me what she liked, or how much fun she had. Essentially giving me a bit of ego stroking and reassurance. 

[MrBearsKitten]

Usually I'm too warm to cuddle right away afterwards, so we usually lay next to each other and he plays with my hair until I'm ready to move. He talks to me and when I can talk again, I talk back. He gets me water when I can sit up enough to drink. Sometimes he gets some fruit to munch on - grapes or apple slices or orange slices usually. We cuddle for a while and sometimes end up taking a nap!

We don't usually have rough sessions, but I'm always well taken care of so I need recovery time.

[haleymichelle]

He likes to hold me real close and do the shhh noises. That and rub my arms and legs.

[Guest CookieDoughDarling]

My daddy is still learning a bit!

He's good with giving me treats such as candy and popsicles, but I wish he'd cuddle with me a bit more

[Daddyslittlemerbaby]

Daddy's really good with aftercare when we have rough play time or sessions.
I usually get cuddles, he'll get me some water or juice, a little something to munch on, wrap me in my blankie, and grab Spooks Von Hoot my care owl.
If we did spanking, or scratching, or caused any marks, drew blood, etc he takes care of it first before snuggling.
I also give Daddy some aftercare, making sure he knows I'm okay, that I enjoyed what we did, that he did really good too, etc.

Then lots of cuddles, spoons, and kisses. >3<
 

[PeppermintBatty]

I don't need aftercare. I normally don't have very intense play sessions.

However I do need reassurance during the day and my daddy has been very good at telling me I'm doing well and that everything will be okay. It usually helps me get along with life.

[BH_Bambi]

Daddy will cuddle up with me and we'll both say I love you, usually. If we made a mess, he'll take me to the bathroom and clean me up super gentle. Then cuddles. We usually talk about what we liked later or a few days after, instead of immediately after. I'm usually too sleepy and dropped to have a cohesive conversation straight after a scene

[princessandthesailor]

Daddy tucks me in up to my chin, goes to get juice or water for both of us, turns on a cartoon, and cuddles me until he falls asleep. He even lets me be the little spoon!

If it's after something really intense, he'll help me get dressed and walk me to the living room, set me up in there turn on a cartoon and make me some food.

 

For after our long-distance play sessions I get a "Good girl. You did so good kitten." and then a few minutes of mushy, lovey talk while we both lay there on the phone and at least one of us falls asleep.

[MrAsphyxiation]

Aftercare is a facet which is often neglected by the majority of daddy's or at least is a part of DDlg which they find so very challenging, so I am pleased that you all have so many beautiful stories to share! Remember to thank your daddys!

I adore giving my little praise, having her sit on my lap whilst I gently kiss her shoulder telling her how amazing and beautiful she is. If we have had an intense session, I look after her and focus on her areas which look sore.

[Cutekitten]

My daddy kiss me in the forehead and hug me. He tells me a lot of wonderful things and sometimes we also watch a movie as a aftercare 

[Guest Foxling]

Aftercare with us involves a lot of cuddling and Daddy telling me he's there for me and saying sweet things. When it's been a rough session and I cried any time throughout it, he asks what it was that prompted it and we talk about that. So yes, lots of cuddles and talking ^^ 

[Daddy'sKitten]

Daddy gives me lots of cuddles and kisses. He likes to wrap his whole body around me. And he let's me talk about nonsensical stuff. He tells me I'm a good kitten and that makes me very happy.

[daddysevermore]

I am a little bit weird here, I think.

 

After a regular scene I like the cuddles and softness and sweetness.

 

But, after a long time of being little I really need a hard disconnect.  I have already had all the sugary sweetness and loving that I can handle and so that I can come OUT of my little head space I really need to *feel* my slave side.  

 

I need to kneel and not cuddle, I need to call him 'Master' and not 'Daddy' and I need to hear 'slave' instead of 'little one'. I just need that in order to pull me out of little space and kind of regulate me.

[hislilbabygirl]

We snuggle and he feeds me chocolates while he tells me how good a girl I am http://fc08.deviantart.net/fs70/f/2012/012/e/5/kawaii_pixel_heart_icon_by_pinksugarybunny-d4m4x0i.png

[Guest Foxling]

I need to kneel and not cuddle, I need to call him 'Master' and not 'Daddy' and I need to hear 'slave' instead of 'little one'. I just need that in order to pull me out of little space and kind of regulate me.

 

That's not weird at all. I'm 'automatically' little, so in order to get into slave-space I also need to hear different words and get different cues. It's something Daddy and I struggle with a lot, because we both want that D/s side outside of DD/lg, but since we need to actively get into it, it's not something that comes naturally. I think I'm going to open a topic about this sometime soon because I'd love to get some experiences/advice, really  

[daddysevermore]

That's not weird at all. I'm 'automatically' little, so in order to get into slave-space I also need to hear different words and get different cues. It's something Daddy and I struggle with a lot, because we both want that D/s side outside of DD/lg, but since we need to actively get into it, it's not something that comes naturally. I think I'm going to open a topic about this sometime soon because I'd love to get some experiences/advice, really

 

Thank you for that response.  Sometimes when sharing this I feel like I am 'wrong' for needing this.  And to be honest I didn't *know* I needed this until one day we had allowed me be in little space so long that I couldn't come out.

 

And I was frustrated and crying because I didn't know what I wanted or needed.  There was a tiny part of me feeling this need to just *be* his slave but I was scared to say that because I

was afraid I was somehow saying he was doing something 'wrong'.  

 

Once we discovered I needed this it helped tremendously.  

 

The sub is the one who determines what is 'appropriate' aftercare.  Not the Dom/me.

[DelilahDream]

I'm somewhat of an odd duck. After play time I usually don't want to be touched. At all. Aftercare usually goes like this. Daddy brings me a bottle of water and we immediately go outside to smoke because I usually need to right after. (I know, smoking is bad and yucky. Daddy smokes too so he doesn't mind.) We'll talk for a while and once I don't feel touched out anymore I'll lay my head in his lap and he'll play with my hair. Once in a while I'll feel really disconnected from Daddy after, usually when it's really REALLY rough. When that happens I NEED for him to make love to me. Not sex or fucking, no kink. Just take me to bed and make love to me. It's only happened once that he couldn't do that because of time and I had ungodly sub drop. I cried for hours. Full body ugly sobbing that ended in me having a panic attack. It was NOT a good time and Daddy felt horrible. Daddy knows now that if he plans on a scene being particularly intense to make sure he has time to take me to bed if I end up needing that. It's pretty rare that Daddy pushes me to the point of feeling disconnected though.

[PrincessBunnieButt]

Depending on the play he will normally gather me in his arms and pet my head while reassuring me I did a good job and how wonderful I am. Then he will get me cleaned up and get me water or a snack. Then we cuddle and I tell him what a good job he did and if I can still feel any of the marks etc I tell him which ones and  how much I love it. We're still really new to each other in this way so we are still finding our balance.