Taking off a collar

[bellisle]

So lately I've felt (for one reason or another that I don't really want to share) that my daddy considers me a casual hookup. I don't want to tell him this because I know it would really hurt his feelings, and that's it just a case of other priorities, but that's how I've been feeling for almost a month. I've tried to explain how upset I feel, but there's little communication, and I just feel like I seem desperate when I'm waiting for a text back or when I'm trying to fight for his attention.

 

He's not any less of my daddy, but I decided to figuratively (I don't wear it when not with him) take off my collar for now. Almost like feeling like Dobby when he says he's a free house elf. I did this so that I can take a break from feeling like I need to try to always please him, and then get no response back. If he's really my daddy and my dominant, then he won't wait for me to come crawling to him.

The point here is that I'm making him work to let me be his submissive again, but I'm kind of lost. It feels similar to losing a parent in the mall, and I don't know what I should do to keep my mind off things.

[neko]

You don't want to hurt your daddys feelings but you are okay with your feelings being hurt from his negligence? That is not okay at all!

 

You are the most important person in this situation. You need to talk to him about why you're feeling this way amd why he is not talking to you/acting like you are in a serious relationship.

 

Communication is the only way a relationship is going to survive. If you can't talk to each other about your feelings maybe you're not compatible with esch other.

Edited December 7, 2017 by neko

[Guest DaddyDean]

Just remember, you are the submissive therefore you have the control.  You made a decision to give that control and wear the collar and you have the right to take it off and rescind your submission if you are not being cared for in the manner in which you expect.  Being and staying healthy means you need to do what's right for you mentally and physically.  Good luck!

[Guest Mister Grey]

agree and agree

[princessfreckles]

Ditto to all of the above!

 

Essential to any relationship, but especially any type of D/s relationship is trust and communication. You need to communicate these feelings with your Daddy, because his #1 responsibility is to take care of you, his little. Sadly at the moment he's not doing this, and you need to make him aware of it. I'm not saying to give him an ultimatum or anything like that, but just tell him what is on your mind. You shouldn't have to suffer in silence to save his feelings. 

[Guest PianoPlayer]

Talk to him. Whether you take the collar off or not, you're only trying to avoid the problem. Confront it instead. I hope you two are able to be open with one another and make the necessary changes so you can be happy together

[Guest Prat]

Communicate better instead of making decisions based on guesses because you're too afraid to find out the truth. This happens to me quite a lot and as a Daddy I would much rather my partner talked and be open to me than doing stuff like what you're doing. Even if I wouldn't like to hear it.