Rewards and Punishments!~funishments, ideas, charts, etc.

[Guest Ion1234]

I miss giving out spankings.  

[StarfallenRobot]

I'm new to the DDLG side of rewards/punishments, but I can imagine it would have a lot of interplay with other kinks for me. I have far too many kinks, some of which could be played with punishment/reward pretty heavily.

Like, I've been... fascinated lately at the prospect of light CBT. Getting roped and tugged on down there, getting some gentle smacking and firm squeezes.

[MadamWanda]

My baby boy and I don't have a fixed rule system, but generally speaking I prefer to use positive reinforcement. He's a busy boy, he works, studies and goes to the gym. So every evening he tells me about his day, and I point out the good things he's done. I will say things like "You stood up for yourself today, I'm proud of you" or "Really ? You benched that much ? I'm impressed, good job baby !". He gets bigger rewards for bigger achievements, like a nice video or some photos from Mommy, or he can stay up a bit longer, play video games or go to the pub to watch football (he needs big boy time too, I can give him that. He's reasonable.) 
He likes being good and I don't need to use punishment a lot, I think it also comes from the fact he gets ample rewards and praise for good behavior. Once he went out late and forgot to tell me, I wasn't mad. I just explained that I had been worried and that it was okay to go out and have a social life, but we needed to communicate about it. I reminded him key points in our relationship : open communication, honesty and trust. He said he was sorry, made it up to me, and now he tells me where he goes etc... I don't have to ask. I think mutual trust is a reward in itself, for the both of us. 
When he gets naughty on purpose it's more to incite bedroom fun than anything else. He likes his spankings so we keep that as "funishment". It wouldn't be effective otherwise