Rewards and Punishments!~funishments, ideas, charts, etc.

[neko]

I bought my chart off amazon a couple years ago

 

it came with magnetic pieces that had different chores on it and little stars to mark off what you've done

 

there was stuff like brushing your teeth, going to bed on time, doing homework, etc.

[Guest frozenwolf]

As a new Daddy I'd be very interested where you picked up your chart at for my little one and I to work on

[Guest QueenJellybean]

moderator note:

merging this topic with our pre-existing, pinned topic

on rewards & punishments which includes charts. 

[Vampiress]

This idea I just had could work in person mostly, but perhaps could be modified for long distance with some creativity. I was thinking it would be a fun reward system for a Dominant to give their little some play money for different tasks or coupons with a value attached to it that the little could turn in after saving up so many to go to the store or online and get a stuffie or other item as a reward. I think to modify this over distance it the value would have to be tracked (like maybe a Google document or somewhere it can be viewed and share between the couple) and then the Caregiver would either provide the little a way to earn the reward through online shopping. Alternatively, if both are financially independent of each other still, then the little would save up the currency and then get permission from their Caregiver to purchase something fun for themselves that feels a little more special because they earned it for doing good.

Edited June 5, 2021 by Vampiress

[Vampiress]

Saw this and thought it could be a fun idea, although I disagree with the amounts. I think the price is kinda high for some things.

 

 

[Cspanks]

Nice

[Cspanks]

Vampires message me when you have time

[Ricky Harleman,]

Me and my little "Skye_Severheart" is new, right now we don't live with each other. I'm trying to learn a good way to do a reward system, also what kind of punishment do you guys do. She got more then one age group for her. "2-4 5-8 9-12 little girl" and then furry, I don't know what to do when she in furry and she get in probole. Now i will not give her punishment for anything, but there will be seen she a brat and like the word no in a way that not "NO STOP that HURT" That kind of no will NERVER get in trouble and free to say it when something get to much. But the no im talking about is, "NO you can't make me". 

 

Any help for this daddy will be good help!! Thanks!!

[Onesie]

My rewards are hearing my husband tell people what a good girl I am. T shirts that say "Daddy's Good Little Girl." Horsey rides when I straddle his knee and he bounces me up and down. Being allowed to masturbate 

Punishments depend on the crime. Sloppy housework gets me a spanking and having to do it all over again while he supervises. Back talk gets my thumb or a pacifier in my mouth. Once he was really angry and made me cut my own switch and spanked me on the porch. But that's me. I need humiliation to be totally submissive.

[Onesie]

On 9/9/2022 at 2:18 PM, Daddy Ricky said:

Me and my little "Skye_Severheart" is new, right now we don't live with each other. I'm trying to learn a good way to do a reward system, also what kind of punishment do you guys do. She got more then one age group for her. "2-4 5-8 9-12 little girl" and then furry, I don't know what to do when she in furry and she get in probole. Now i will not give her punishment for anything, but there will be seen she a brat and like the word no in a way that not "NO STOP that HURT" That kind of no will NERVER get in trouble and free to say it when something get to much. But the no im talking about is, "NO you can't make me". 

 

Any help for this daddy will be good help!! Thanks!!

I'm not sure how to do it on Skype. Being a little is a lifestyle. Even when we're out and I'm dressed up like a grown up, I have a wedgie to remind me. My husband keeps my pacifier in his pocket and pats it if I get sassy. At home, it's all little all the time no matter what. But I can say this. Sometimes littles, submissives, and disciplined wives misbehave on purpose because they like the punishment. My guess is she wants you to show her you can make her. Forgive me, but reward?!?! She needs severe and subjugating punishment. I get demoted from little to baby when I'm very bad.  But the worst is when he made me sleep in my play pen instead of with him. The worst, is to be ignored. Hope that helps.

[strawbunnybaby]

my daddy and i’s rewards chart has rewards for things like taking my meds, learning something new, doing a chore, etc and some prizes include a stuffie, a candle or soap, or a makeup item  and when i finish the whole chart i get something from my wishlist! i tried to add a pic but the files too big:( 

Edited October 24, 2022 by strawbunnybaby

[PapaBär]

We have a rule book with a few rules, but these are mostly there to support my angel. Only two of them are "for me". Saying good morning/good night every day and being kind to people, including herself, to always say please and thanks. 

I have also made a reward chart where she can earn points. We didn't put up any specifics about the reward or how to earn it, but I add a star sticker when she makes something for me like a drawing or when I know she had more chores than usual and completed all of them. 

[Redneck-Kitty]

@EntityLvrused to have one when I was their full time mommy, but idk if they still have it

[EntityLvr]

10 minutes ago, Redneck-Kitty said:

@EntityLvrused to have one when I was their full time mommy, but idk if they still have it

Nah, I threw it away. Partially cause I didn't use it after we backed off a bit and because it would have needed to be updated. I've thought of it and I've actually considered using this way for things like DoorDash and random shopping. Just for some fun and it might help me do my chores more (since all the adult ways aren't working, especially for dishes.. But I was waiting to tell you until I got the register with the play money. I'd earn the play money and put it in a 'piggy bank' that I'll make especially for it. Sooooo, now you know 😋

[PrincessRayvon]

I'm really new to ddlg, but I've been in a dynamic that had a rewards style system before. I made the charts myself with lots of colour and we had it laminated to stick up on the wall. 

We used a two tier system - tier one was golden smiles. Tier two was lucky stars.

Golden smiles was for just sticking to the rules/doing what needed to be done. I'd get a daily golden smily face sticker for every rule I followed. These rules were predominantly around my health and wellbeing and getting done the necessities of every day life (chores, school dropoffs, etc...). They weren't exchangeable for a reward, they were just a visual chart so I can see how well I was doing on a day to day basis even when I felt like I wasn't doing enough etc...

Lucky Stars were a reward for good behaviour and "being exceptional". The dynamic was NSFW so I won't go into too much detail but basically they were handed out by my s/o whenever he felt I deserved one. These worked as a currency system. We had a list of rewards and assigned a value based on number of stars. I could choose to save the stars or spend them on a reward (for example; date night of my choosing - 25 stars). I should add my S/O would still take me on dates or do nice things without requiring the reward chart, it was just a bit of power to claim these things for myself and it was lovely to have that. 

I know this won't work for everyone but I thought I'd share ☺️.

 

Edited November 17, 2022 by PrincessRayvon

[PrincessMuhree]

Should be creating a work out / exercise routine .. started an Opposite Action worksheet. The overwhelming feelings increased a bit.

taking a small break.

came across this and thought / wondered if some of the stuff could maybe help my Daddy and I 🤔

[honeybee7]

My D and i have a system set up to help me keep clean and organized, where I send him a picture of the clean room by a curfew, and if i don’t succeed at getting it done before then, we have a nsfw funishment that is fine for daily use. it’s our first rule system we have since i’m his first D/s relationship

[Taggy]

On 11/2/2022 at 2:34 AM, PapaBär said:

We have a rule book with a few rules, but these are mostly there to support my angel. Only two of them are "for me". Saying good morning/good night every day and being kind to people, including herself, to always say please and thanks. 

I have also made a reward chart where she can earn points. We didn't put up any specifics about the reward or how to earn it, but I add a star sticker when she makes something for me like a drawing or when I know she had more chores than usual and completed all of them. 

I like this idea about a little rule book with stickers! I'm a submissive caregiver for my little (she is top in our dynamic) and I find it a bit difficult to be a good caregiver who also implies caregiving rules like drinking enough as I can't give punishments. A little reward book could be a really interesting addition to our dynamic.

I'm not really sure how those rewards should look like. As a Princess she can get anything anyway, so it has to be something special. Anyone an idea?

[Brattybubba]

Um hi everyone I’m new but I wanted some advice because my dom and me are long distance. He makes rules and things and I mostly follow them but lately he’s been getting busy and we haven’t had much time to properly play and I don’t know how to tell him without him telling me off. Another thing I was hoping to get advice is what kind of punishments and rules should a little have ? (Im quite bratty so a lot of rules isn’t good for me)

[Little kaiya]

If your partner "tells you off" for communicating openly and honestly that's fairly concerning I would suggest. I always get worried when people talk about being worried or even afraid to communicate their feelings, needs, state of mind or anything else to their partner.

In terms of rules and punishments it all depends on the people in the dynamic. My rules and punishments may not work you and vice versa. Talking to your partner is one of the best eays to figure all of that out.

[Brattybubba]

1 hour ago, Little kaiya said:

If your partner "tells you off" for communicating openly and honestly that's fairly concerning I would suggest. I always get worried when people talk about being worried or even afraid to communicate their feelings, needs, state of mind or anything else to their partner.

In terms of rules and punishments it all depends on the people in the dynamic. My rules and punishments may not work you and vice versa. Talking to your partner is one of the best eays to figure all of that out.

I get that the easiest way to talk to him is that way but I don’t know how to ask him or how to communicate because I get all fumbly and just end up asking something else 

[Denvie]

I need a good chart too mark down my rewards and punishments for my little does anyone have any good ideas, my little is getting very comfortable and showing more and more of their little side in our relationship and a reward chart is something new we have talked about too further them into it, I just want something very simple to help them feel more comfortable 

[shadowrider]

On 7/25/2023 at 8:48 PM, Denvie said:

I need a good chart too mark down my rewards and punishments for my little does anyone have any good ideas, my little is getting very comfortable and showing more and more of their little side in our relationship and a reward chart is something new we have talked about too further them into it, I just want something very simple to help them feel more comfortable 

If you are looking for a digital way to do it there are several apps that let you track chores and assign points. I did a quick search and it looked like OurHome and FamilyWall both had at least 500K downloads and decent reviews.

As for a physical chart you can search the net or maybe see if there is a teacher's supply store near you. You could also call a local school and tell them you want a chore tracking chart for your little one and see if they have recommendations. They don't need to know more than it's for your little one. Or just design one with your little one that way you get the fun of working together and creating something.

[Carlos]

I use an Android app called Quick Event Logger.  It easily logs events. We assign a dollar amount for each event.  We have a shared list on Amazon.  I let my little put things on the list.  I will reward her with an item from our list.  I export a CVS file to Google docs just to save it because she doesn't want to lose the points and restart the logging process by deleting the entries in the app.

[LilTommy]

I want a reward system and a punishment system lol 😛🤣😁