Rewards and Punishments!~funishments, ideas, charts, etc.

[eilonwy]

Daddy made me a chart! The "Princess Nell Nell (my little name)" is my reward tracker. Every purple heart I get to is a reward. We haven't decided a reward yet, but we'll think of one! So excited to start using it     

 

 

 

 

 

[DaddyJ88]

Just made a new one for my little girl, as a big Steven Universe fan, she knew exactly what she wanted out of her new chart (there go my ideas for a new year's fireworks themed one!).

 

 

 

Love the other charts I've been seeing on here, keep up the good work!

J

[LittleLamb <(@)>]

Hi everyone! My interim daddy and I used a really fun app called CHORE MONSTER <3 You could unlock prizes by daddy and win new monsters by completed tasks !

[Miss_behaved]

I favored you on etsy. I wike the headbands

 

I also wike that you have God in your name thingy in this post I quoted. I'm having trouble finding other Christian littles!

I’m a Christian little I’m very involved in my church in my big life and nobody would have any idea I’m like this or have a daddy. I mean, sometimes there’s guys there that think it’s funny when they playfully reprimand me and I look down and fidget but I don’t think they really have a clue haha. Sometimes it weighs on me because I feel like I’m hiding the best part of what makes me me but other times I’m ok with it because I like separating it. Maybe one day I’ll be more open

[DaddyToBabyGirl]

Bull- may I ask what the chart software/ app is please? Can it be shared between Dom and sub ie linked to each other’s phones ? It looks awesome. Edited March 20, 2018 by DaddyToBabyGirl

[Tree Daddy]

Hello, this might be an odd question but I was wondering if any one else had experienced this.

 

My little and I used to have a rewards tasks chart, but retired it a while ago. He told me yesterday after not wanting to talk about why for a long time that it was because, I seems "Too disappointed" when she missed a goal.

 

Have other littles felt this from their mommies or daddies? What did you do to help tell them or stop them from being so frumpy?

 

Other daddies or mommies, what do you do to stop your tittle feeling disappointed when they missed a goal?

 

She has yet to tell me EXACTLY what I personally did. I would always hug her and tel her it was OK if a goal wasn't met. And give her hugs and praise when she did something, or even if she just tried really hard.

 

There would be days I would miss asking her, about the chart at the times I was supposed to (when I get hom, just before bed), to toehr daddies/mummys, don't forget this! Reinforcement is important, even when life is stressful.

 

I hope you all have duna and magical days.

[Guest Bunnyblossom]

So... my Daddy bought a large Prize Wheel to put my punishments on.

I get a strike now instead of a set punishment.

Spin the wheel.

And get dealt whatever it lands on.

 

Tbh it works. Because no matter how big or small the infraction, the wheel decides the consequences.

[Funeral]

I would adore a chart, I've made them for others but I've never really been given one myself. It would be a really cute way to keep a routine going. 

[Daddysbabybunny]

I have a very detailed reward system for my girl!

 

I draw her weekly behavior charts like this:

 

http://i.imgur.com/5MPgJY5.png

At the end of the week, I rally her points up, and give her a reward based on her performance!

 

At the end of the year, I display all the chart information on an infographic and compare it to the year before!

Hello I hope u dont mind me asking but i was wondering what you meant by mantras?

[PumpkinPie._]

i dont have a rewards system with my papi yet! so I'm looking for some help to try and start one with him..? 

 

does anyone have any ideas for how to start one or how to make one??

 

 

THANK YOU!!!   

[Mrose]

hi, i'm kitten. i'm new to DDLG and consider myself a little of course. I'm very sub. 

my daddy and i just started seeing each other and he asked what i wanted for rules. 

Other than basics can anyone help me come up with clever rules that spice up your relationship or just plain " i care about you, so do it miss"  rules? 

 

Pls. Help. 

I'd love input. 

[little_kitten1]

Me and my daddy are actually going over my rules right now!! Since he can not be with me all the time, we need to go over them a lot..

BUT here are a few..

Rule #1- No self harm

Rule#2- self love-love daddy

Rule#3- No cursing!! (so unfair)

Rule#4- Eat breakfast lunch and dinner!!!!!!!

Rule#5-Be in bed by 11pm!

---that is all rn!

[little_kitten1]

I dont have any reward systems with my daddy yet... any suggestions? (Clean plzzz)

[RainbowPigtails]

Here's my super-detailed chart that I use for myself (no caregiver at the moment)

For "Hobby," I'm trying to be better at doing things I like while not wasting time, so I get points for doing something I enjoy for an hour a day, but if I go beyond one hour, I don't get any points. "Project" is because I have a lot of creative projects I want to turn into a career. This is very important to me, so at least one honest hour of focusing on a project gets me a lot of points. I get points for talking to family members (more than just "hi, how was your day?") because I have a difficult relationship with my dad that I'm trying to fix (plus I love my family ). I give more points for items that are more difficult for me (notice the Youtube and exercise points) (Youtube- 1 hour per day = 5, 1 hour per week = 10). I turn in points for rewards and I estimated the point cost of each reward depending on how much it might cost in money, so a candy bar would be 2-5 points (though I often buy junk while getting groceries instead of as a reward, so that's really just there for reference). Groceries is there because I get groceries more than anyone else in my house, so I wanted to reward myself both for slave labor (woe is me) and for successfully doing something I intended to. Chores is 1 point for chore, so I might give myself one for every load of laundry finished, one for each litter box I clean out, and one for unloading and loading the dishwasher. Right now, I'm saving up for specific items, but I'm thinking about implementing a monthly-gift requirement where I have to spend some points on a reward regularly so I feel good about my hard work even when I'm saving up for something big. I've tried to set up the reward costs so that I'll always have enough money to afford gifts or expensive trips by the time I have enough points for them (that's what the times next to "Gifts" are for, to compare how long it takes me to earn the money vs how long it takes me to earn the points).

Of course, rewards and gifts can vary depending on what you like or want. For example, I've been wanting to buy a bus to convert into an RV and I've always wanted a motorcycle, but I feel guilty about spending money on luxuries, so I added them to the gift list. This way I can spend money knowing I also worked hard for it.

 

[Guest Bunnyblossom]

I posted our wheel thing in “Punishments” in Little Space, but I guess it’s relevant here too.

In case ppl want another take on punishments.

*Permission from my DD to post it.

[Bonbon88]

My daddy and I have a pretty solid list of rules for myself that it’s taken about a month to hammer out. He’s so in tune with my needs and who I am as an individual that all of his rules are perfect for me. I’m in grad school and I’m also a special education teacher - so I’m pretty stressed usually haha, I also have a panic disorder soo my rules are perfect.

 

1. No talking down about myself

2. Sunday through Thursday I’m only allowed to have 1 beer. Friday’s I have a bottle of wine, and if I go out on weekends with friends I’m limited to 8 drinks.

3. No hard liquor

4. No smoking

5. Take my anxiety meds every day by 9:30pm

6. Homework must be finished by 9pm on sundays

7. One sexy video a week sent to daddy (were long distance)

[Sweetieheart]

Hello, this might be an odd question but I was wondering if any one else had experienced this.

 

My little and I used to have a rewards tasks chart, but retired it a while ago. He told me yesterday after not wanting to talk about why for a long time that it was because, I seems "Too disappointed" when she missed a goal.

 

Have other littles felt this from their mommies or daddies? What did you do to help tell them or stop them from being so frumpy?

 

Other daddies or mommies, what do you do to stop your tittle feeling disappointed when they missed a goal?

 

She has yet to tell me EXACTLY what I personally did. I would always hug her and tel her it was OK if a goal wasn't met. And give her hugs and praise when she did something, or even if she just tried really hard.

 

There would be days I would miss asking her, about the chart at the times I was supposed to (when I get hom, just before bed), to toehr daddies/mummys, don't forget this! Reinforcement is important, even when life is stressful.

 

I hope you all have duna and magical days.

Suuuper late reply, but just in case anyone else is going through this, might as well. This actually just came up with me and my Daddy. I wanted to cancel the sticker chart all together cause it made me feel bad. Honestly, it might not even be that you actually appeared to be disappointed. My problem was I was so upset with myself that I kind of... started to see myself as bad? And it became a constant worry that my Daddy would, too. So we changed the chart from me getting a reward for being good for a whole week to me getting a marble for every ten stickers, consecutive or not. Then the marbles can be traded in for rewards. Cause I tend to get into trouble... kind of a lot? And it was rare for me to get all of the stickers in a week, so it felt like I was constantly being beaten down by an unattainable goal. 

[Sweetieheart]

I have a sticker chart with the categories "health, school, and daily tasks". For every ten days I get all of my stickers (they don't have to be consecutive), I get a " special sticker " (so it's shiny or bigger or something" and a little glass rock/marble thing. I can save up marbles to buy rewards. One marble can get me a new sticker sheet, three can get me a later bedtime for the whole weekend, and six can get me the option of choosing a restaurant for us to go eat at. There are twelve total possible rewards I can earn.

[florchusagi]

Wow, I didn't think of it but it's a really nice idea! As soon as I saw this topic, I told my boy about it and he liked the idea sooo I guess I'm going to do a rewards chat, we even thought the rewards and now that he is about to start his studies again, it will be really fun to give him little "rules" or tasks to follow. 

[Lollipox]

I don’t really enjoy funishments. I prefer actual punishments, to help shape me into the person I want to become.

 

I want to start a journal to write my daily tasks and maybe put stickers in. I’m too lazy of a person to put effort into frivolities though.

[jellicle baby]

how did you make this? 

 

I have a very detailed reward system for my girl!

 

I draw her weekly behavior charts like this:

 

http://i.imgur.com/5MPgJY5.png

At the end of the week, I rally her points up, and give her a reward based on her performance!

 

At the end of the year, I display all the chart information on an infographic and compare it to the year before!

[Breakingrules]

Loved reading this topic. My Daddy and I have a huge list of rules... But I don't remember them all. (Purposely forgot them I guess)

 

1. Brush hair and teeth before going to bed.

2. On weekdays I have to be in bed before 10.30 PM and put away my phone before 11 Pm. He'll check on me.

3. When I watch tv on my own, I can only watch 1.5 hours by myself.

4. I have to feed the cat.

5. I very much dislike breakfast and lunch but Daddy finally understands he'll never change that but I have to eat fruit before 11 AM.

6. I tend to wonder off a lot, I love walking but I always have to tell Daddy where I am.

 

^ some clean rules.

 

When I follow the rules I may decide what we're doing for A FULL DAY. Which is awesome.

Whennnn I don't follow the rules we have a wide variety of punishments. The bad part about it is that I can't choice which one I want... because Daddy's in charge??? ...

[Babygirlkitty97_]

[Guest strawberry_milk]

hello~

i want to have my own sticker chart but i don't really know what to start with...
what are your rules and ideas? you can post pictures of your sticker charts if you want! ;3;

[Guest Lavendar Bunni Wubbins]

I did mine a bit funky, since I am home a lot & not working due to health, I made a timetable with when I want to do certain things in my day, to give myself some structure. Mornings I try to get stuff done, exercise, bit of housework, baking, etc. Afternoons I do more fun stuff, TV/games/hobbies, relaxing. Evenings are for time with bf or daddy (when possible) & making supper/clean up.

 

For my actual stick chart, I split it into 4 sections that I felt were important to me. If I do a bit of each day (like I say 10-20 mins of each per day), I get a sticker! My sections are Chores, Mental, Physical, and Mastery. This way I know I am doing a bit of every thing each day, even if it really is only 10-20 minutes, but I find myself often doing more than that once I get going. Mental is usually some self-care, or going over my workbooks, practicing skills, being mindful...physical is exercise. Chores is housework & basic stuff. And Mastery is hobbies or skills I want to work on.

 

I don't really have rewards set for myself, but I do just enjoy seeing what I did each day, and what I should maybe try a bit hard to do the next day, etc.