My Daddy dissapoints me

[SkunkPrincess]

I'm so sorry for this ranting topic, but at this point I'm kind of sick and done with the whole DDLG thing, and I'm sorry for my language.

 

I feel like I've been living in a fantasy, a dream, that I believed in something which was never true. I've always seen my Daddy as handsome, caring, a father figure, mature etc. But at this point I realised he's not. He's so fucking immature and childish.

 

We have been together for 4 years now, and I do still really love him, I don't think I can do this DDLG thing anymore.

I've told him so many times that I wished he would be stricter, more dominant and take care of the stuff I can't. He always tells me ''Yes Princess, next time I promise you to do so'' and then he fucking doesn't do it.

 

And If I tell him again he's like: ''But I tought I changed something about'' but apparently not. He keeps promising me this and that and then it turns out he doens't even keep his promise. 

 

He also kept lying about almost everything, to some point I cannot trust him. He has been looking up extremely weird shit (I am not going to name it, but some of it if highly illegal and fucked up) and I've talked about that with him for 7 times now, and he keeps telling me he doesn't look at that stuff anymore. But when I'm on his phone, I see weird ass shit popping up on his screen and he tells me some kind of stupid excuse like this and that.

 

He also keeps forgetting everything that is important to us. He forgets to tell me when to take my medicine, he forgets at what date we meet, he even lost the couple ring he bought for himself and me, and he lost the necklace with the key to my collar, that I made for him.

 

I always told him to do research on the internet about BDSM and DDLG, especially on this website. He keeps telling me every day that he spends his whole day doing research, but I happen to click on his account today, and he only made two posts that are 2 years apart. If I ask him ''Hey, what are you doing right now? :3'' he responds with ''Im playing video games'' and thats all he does, playing his stupid racing video games.

 

He also doesn't seem to care about my stuff at all, he only talks about himself and his interests. If I want to talk with him about a certain topic, even if its important, he never ever responds, but just starts blandly talking about totally offtopic things. Its impossible to talk with him. If im super happy about something, he always responds with ''Oh, thats kinda nice'' and if i get dissapointed, he doesn't understand why.

 

It also feels like I am the mommy and he is the little, I am always the one who has to take care of everything. If he is in trouble for something stupid he did, guess who has to fix that? I always have to tell him to clean my room, because he makes a huge mess out of it (His own room is shit), when I'm doing something else, like going on the toilet, he will startup the XBox and play his stupid games. And he always has a excuse for everything. I am even the one who wrote the rules of MYSELF because he doesn't know what rules would fit, other than ''Obey Daddy''He behaves like an annoying teenager. He's so damn childish, I can't handle it anymore.

 

And Its always sex, like always. At the most inappropriate moments he wants sex. Thats his way to fix things, sex.

Edited December 5, 2017 by SkunkPrincess

[CymoP]

Reading that sounds like a sea of endless disappointment, I'd be interest to hear what you like about him?

[SkunkPrincess]

Reading that sounds like a sea of endless disappointment, I'd be interest to hear what you like about him?

He doesn't abuse me or anything. He is just exremely dissapointing in the whole DDLG aspect. Other than that, he's a super sweet guy.

[Guest JayRingo77]

I'll stab at the $10,000 question - how old is he?

[SkunkPrincess]

I'll stab at the $10,000 question - how old is he?

27...

[CymoP]

He doesn't abuse me or anything. He is just exremely dissapointing in the whole DDLG aspect. Other than that, he's a super sweet guy.

Personally I would say if you're unhappy and you've made it abundantly clear you're unhappy and what you want to change isn't happening in an appropriate amount of time then tell him you need to move on and search for someone who can make you truly happy.

[Wolfycheeks]

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Edited December 5, 2017 by Wolfycheeks

[Guest JayRingo77]

27...

Right in the middle of the bell curve so not the entire causality behind his behavior but it does explain some of it.  I would have guessed younger.

 

Have to agree with the idea that you've made yourself abundantly clear in your expectations and needs in the relationship through the context of a DD/lg dynamic.  Questions you have to answer yourself:

 

Is DD/lg really the issue or is it the greater apathy and inability to modify his behavior?

Does DD/lg have any kind of priority in what you want from a relationship?

If you drop DD/lg, how does that change your perspective of his behavior, if at all?

 

I'll never understand how 'he's a super sweet guy' ever equates to this kind of behavior.  Lying, apathy, no aspirations I can detect, and negligent because he can't be bothered unless it involves getting his rocks off. 

 

If this is the standard for 'super sweet' I'm a hyperglycemic coma in a suit.

Edited December 5, 2017 by JayRingo77

[Guest SUeB]

Point one - he is not a daddy and has no interest in ddlg, obviously

 

Point two - you sound like you despise him

 

Point three - he sounds like a teenager, not someone of almost thirty

 

Point four - you are pushing and trying to force him to conform to what you want out of a partner, even though that's not who or what he is

 

Point five - do i really need a point five? Why on earth are you still together?

 

My best advice is to end this pointless relationship.

[SkunkPrincess]

Point one - he is not a daddy and has no interest in ddlg, obviously

 

Point two - you sound like you despise him

 

Point three - he sounds like a teenager, not someone of almost thirty

 

Point four - you are pushing and trying to force him to conform to what you want out of a partner, even though that's not who or what he is

 

Point five - do i really need a point five? Why on earth are you still together?

 

My best advice is to end this pointless relationship.

Have to agree with everything except the pushing part, because he is the one who always promises me this and that. I've only talked about some problems between us with him. I even asked him ''Do you even want to be a Daddy/Participate in DDLG?'' and he always responds with a yes, even though I don't believe crap.

[DaddySweetDaddy]

I agree with SUeB says..... this is a very unhealthy relationship and you will be much better off out of it.  Real DDLG does exist but so many littles are determined to meet their 'forever daddy' and forget that love is a process and commitment is something that should not be made until two people know each other very very well and have co-created deep understandings together.  It take time, risk, and a willingness to let go and move on if that is what needs to happen as well as both willing and able to grow together if its a good and healthy connection with really great communication.

[DreamingDesire]

I can only echo what's already been said here. He's just not a Daddy. There's plenty of people around who want to be things they just aren't. I don't doubt he loves you, and love often brings a desire to be the best person you could be for your partner. But actually becoming that person takes time, effort and a lot of dedication. If you don't see any progress after 4 years, they've clearly become empty promises, especially when combined with the fact you're already aware of a lack of effort and dedication to make it work.

 

Daddy's are of course all different, but this isn't even about DDLG. If your partner ever truly makes you feel the way you say you feel now, it's just not a good partner. Good luck!

[pennypoo]

If he is looking at possibly illegal stuff online why are you still there? And you have asked him more than once not to??? thats a HUGE red flag!

[Guest McLeodLot65]

You haven't mentioned whethere there's any practical entanglements - shared property, leases, maybe a vehicle, etc. That would make it more complicated, but the end result is the same - you sound miserable, and it's time to think is this the way you want to spend the rest of your life?