He's not into dd/lg

[PrincessFay]

I really like this guy but he's not into dd/lg. We have been sort of seeing each other and are both talking about a serious relationship tho. He's an amazing guy but I don't know what do to because I feel like I need a dominant/daddy figure in my life. I don't know if I should introduce him to it all or not. I'm scared I might lose him

[Guest McLeodLot65]

But if you don't tell him, you'll be miserable and will lose him anyway. There are any number of guides online to show how to break the news gradually or carefully. Who knows? He may surprise you.

[Guest Urthurs]

Well... maybe he will like it, but don't know about it... and if he leaves you because you tell him you are a little, would you actually want to be with a person like that?

Edited December 2, 2017 by Urthurs

[DreamingDesire]

You have to know and decide for yourself how important DD/LG is to you. If you need it, openly discuss these possibilities with him. Yes, he may get turned off by it and leave you. That's a damned shame, but otherwise it would just happen later instead. If you think you'd also be happy without it, I would still bring it up, but then you can also add it's not a big deal to you, so you could probably continue together regardless. At the very least, it allows him to understand you better, and it will also give him inspiration for gift ideas down the line!

[cuppycakes]

I’ll also add that you don’t have to introduce him to some of the labels associated with DD/lg unless it’s super important to you. You don’t have to tell him “I’m into DD/lg here’s what it is”. You can just say “I’m really childish” or what your own unique little space means to you. I just say this because of all the negative associations with this community, and if you’re already nervous it could take off some of the edge.

 

I told my daddy in little pieces here and there, kind of giving him hints I guess. When I felt like I was ready to tell him about DD/lg I did! He took it really well, and I think it helped even more because none of it was a surprise. He knew I wanted a pacifier, he knew I loved cartoons, he knew I slept with stuffies and he tucked me in at night. We didn’t put a label on us until we were ready to!

 

Whatever you decide, make sure you’re happy.<3

[DavCentral]

taaalk talk talk talk talk talk talk. you dont have to label things, but talk.

 

If it's not in his nature, you wont get what you need from him. You cant go into a relationship hoping you can change someone or bring them round to your way of thinking... just laying that out there.

[Guest PianoPlayer]

You have nothing to lose. Take a chance. You need the satisfaction of a daddy, so your only real choice is to tell him

[Guest SUeB]

It depends what you mean by "he's not into it". If you mean he's unaware of it, then yep, broach the subject carefully. Don't just jump in talking about daddies and lg's. Maybe start by explaining that you have a certain side to your character, a childlike side. Don't go into all the details, just gauge his reaction, and move from there.

But if you mean he does know about it, and is not interested, then that's all you need to know. He isn't a daddy, and has no interest in this dynamic. You have to decide what is more important to you. Being in a vanilla relationship with him, or being with a daddy.