Bad friend, bad daddy

[Heaven's Lost Property]

So I thought that this girl was my friend but apparently she decided that it was okay to be friends with benefits with my daddy/baby boy, and I can't explain how hurt I am because she told me specifically that she would stay away from him because he is mine. We even have a rule that we only belong to each other and I found out today that she kissed him and I keep crying because I just can't stand thinking that, he has tried to touch me and I filched away because I just don't wanna be touched by him right now. I thought that he would love me more but I guess not since he is the one who suggested it. I really don't wanna leave him but I don't wanna be touched by him right now.

[Rebel]

I suppose before I go onto say anything else, friends with benefits implies they slept with each other. Did they or did they just kiss (either case is obviously not good but one is worse than the other in my mind)? 

 

In either scenario I would say tell him you need space for X amount of time, and after that time then talk with him.

[Heaven's Lost Property]

They only kissed, they only started this yesterday and I don't care Im still really mad that he let this happen and I will see about the x amount of time for now Edited November 30, 2017 by Heaven's Lost Property

[Rebel]

I understand your mad, and I can't blame you. I don't know all the factors or anything, but I suppose my next question would be how did you find out. Did he tell you or did you stumble on them? If the first, then maybe it wasn't his fault, and maybe give him a little bit of credit for being honest. And just tell him for now you want to take a bit of time and cool off, before you say something you don't mean, or along those lines. Just something to say you're not leaving (yet, again depends on this scenario), and you want to talk about it but you're fairly upset. I am a fairly emotionally reserved person (with the exception of my little) but if my little told me that, I would know 100% I fucked up and feel like garbage. 

[HisDumbBunny]

If they said they’re friends with benefits, I don’t think the kids was an accident so yes, the Daddy would be at fault.

 

Honestly I would just make sure you tell your Daddy that you are not okay with him having a friends with benefits and tell him how much this has hurt you. If he can’t respect that then... he may do more than just kiss her and that’s going to hurt a lot more in the long run.

[Guest Zephy]

I'm sorry this has happened to you. Take some time for yourself and figure things out about your current relationship and where it's headed. If you are unable to forgive him and trust him anymore then you should consider leaving him because you wouldn't be able to maintain a healthy and stable relationship like that. There would be really no point of trying to hurt yourself further and relive all the emotions you are already feeling from this.

[Heaven's Lost Property]

I understand your mad, and I can't blame you. I don't know all the factors or anything, but I suppose my next question would be how did you find out. Did he tell you or did you stumble on them? If the first, then maybe it wasn't his fault, and maybe give him a little bit of credit for being honest. And just tell him for now you want to take a bit of time and cool off, before you say something you don't mean, or along those lines. Just something to say you're not leaving (yet, again depends on this scenario), and you want to talk about it but you're fairly upset. I am a fairly emotionally reserved person (with the exception of my little) but if my little told me that, I would know 100% I fucked up and feel like garbage.

 

He did tell me after the the they had started and the the "friend told me about the kiss part and then I just started crying

[Rebel]

So while they still went behind you and did that, they were honest with you. So take the time and calm down, and then maybe talk to them both at the same time. It will be extremely uncomfortable, but it will clear everything up. And when you do talk to them, do not throw up ultimatums, because they usually backfire (whether at that moment or down the road). 

[Persephone_Persephone]

Well I'm not sure all the details but if im right your friend and your daddy kissed behind your back? Both knowing that they would hurt you and betray your trust.

 

Kick these loosers to the kerb lady, thats not what a daddy or a friend does. You can and you will do better.

 

And id feel violated if a partner of mine did that and then tried to touch me.

 

I dont even think you need to explain or justify any if it. Just delete them out your life, they dont care about you they care they got caught.

[Mikaitaku]

It sounds like you are friends with a skank and have a trashy daddy. You should get rid of both of them.

[Guest SUeB]

i think you need to stop focusing on blaming your ex friend, and blame your so called cheating daddy/boy. Sorry, i know it's easier to blame the more expendable friend, rather than the guy you thought you could trust, and made you promises of love and loyalty, but you need to lay the majority of the anger in his direction.

My personal choice would be to drop them both. It hurts. It's difficult. It's disgusting that the two people you thought had your back have treated you with such vile disregard, but neither of them are worth a second of your emotion or time.

[Guest Olderdaddyca]

Well has our world really got to the point where we justify cheating. He clearly does not look at your relationship as important. Especially in light of the fact that you have had a conversation about it. You can try to justify it all you want, you can even try and talk it out, but the fact remains that him and your friend are having an inappropriate relationship. cut it off before you're hurt more. Cheaters continue to cheat they just get better at hiding it. Edited November 30, 2017 by Olderdaddyca

[Guest Mister Grey]

Well I agree and disagree all at the same time.

 

“Well has our world really got to the point where we justify cheating. He clearly does not look at your relationship as important.” 

 

Agree 100%

 

“Cheaters continue to cheat they just get better at hiding it. “

 

Those sound like the words of someone who has been cheated on and now everyone is guilty until proven innocent.  Take each moment in a bubble and judge it on its own merits, not on the history of your own past or present.

 

“you dont know what you have until you lose it”  That statement is truth, that statement for some is life changing.  We all learn, we all grow, some of us continue to fail and others dont give a crap, but some some to understand how our lives are ruined and worse, ruined by our own hands.

 

Some may in fact continue to cheat, but some also learn their lessons.  Maybe I am a fool, but I judge people on what they are doing now.

 

 

that said, they did this right now.  I am not sure how much mercy I could muster to continue with them…either of them.

[Heaven's Lost Property]

So just a small update on this, I broke up with my daddy and he started dating the girl he kissed, today. He seems happy and I am too. Thank y'all for your advice it actually played a big role in deciding to break it off