I’m confused

[smolbunny]

Hello everyone! Well, my post is about that I used to be with a man who was my daddy but like two months ago he decided that being a Daddy was not for him & he left me because I’m little. I talk to him still & I love him with all of my heart & I told him plus I told myself I’ll stop being little because I love him & want him to come back. However, I see things about little space & I start to cry because I want to be little & being big all the time is making me miserable. I don’t want to lose him completely but being little makes me happy & it helps me deal with my anxiety. What should I do?

[HisDumbBunny]

I understand that you love him, but denying who you are will make you way more miserable in the long run... I know it hurts to lose him, but you deserve someone who accepts ALL of you, not just some of you.

[Guest McLeodLot65]

You can't change who you are, not really. You can pretend for a short while, but you will be miserable and then wind up resenting him for doing that to you. Then you've lost all that time that you could spent finding the right person for you. Because there is a right person for you - someone who will love all of you, not just the parts that he approves of , and someone who wants you to be truly happy.

[Guest SUeB]

Trying to change who you are for someone is never a good idea. If somebody cares about you, they should never ask you to or want you to change. i am really sorry, but he is not the right guy for you.

[Guest pacibrat]

I wouldn't be happy if I couldn't be little ever again.  Like McLeod said, you can try to deny who you are, but you won't be happy even if you succeed.  My ex-Daddy and I are now friends.  He couldn't be my Daddy anymore because he suffers with depression, etc.  It hurt soooooo much at first, but I had to let that relationship with him go.  Your heart will heal and you'll be stronger because of it.

[Guest Andyy95]

Well it's a struggle everyone in the community goes through. Finding someone you like as a person and click with is hard enough and then they also have to be in the lifestyle. Not only that, you have to also be compatible as a dom/sub, daddy/little. Neither of these aspects is less or more significant then the other, you have to have it all with your partner if you want to be happy in the relationship and fulfilled emotionally and sexually. As everyone above already said, you shouldn't change for ANYONE.

[littleplanetjas]

I believe we all have multiple soulmates/loves. Maybe he was your 'big' soulmate -- but now you need to find the soulmate who will love you for you, and your little side. You probably won't ever stop feeling that way towards him, but it's in your best interest to let him go and focus on what makes you happy.