Online Bullying via Forum

[Guest LittleGhosty]

Am I the only one who is tired of being bullied and having mean/rude remarks made on my posts here on the forum?

I love it here and have learned so much, but goodness! I almost fear making a post because of how cruel and awful people can be!

[Guest SUeB]

Maybe you need to develop a thicker skin. i haven't seen any bullying, or anything close to mean or rude on the things i have seen you post. We are hopefully all adults here.

[Persephone_Persephone]

What kind of thing have you experienced thats bullying. I've seen the odd thing in the past but nothing recently, maybe elaborate?

[Guest PianoPlayer]

I assume you're referring to your previous topic. No one was bullying you. Don't be offended by other opinions which don't align with yours.

[Guest Babycee]

Some of the people here can be rude as hell and forget how their words can come across online -.-

 

don't let them discourage you from posting though~

[meows kohai]

I literally haven't seen any bullying here. 

If this is about your last thread, no one was bullying you.

[Guest pacibrat]

I think you are interpreting some peoples' way of saying things as bullying.  It wasn't.  Did a few come across a little bit harsh? Sort of, but you just have to respect that people have different personalities.  I'm a very sensitive person and can get my feelings hurt easily, so I see where you're coming from.  We just have to realize that we all say things differently.  There are people who try to say things as nicely as possible (me, lol) and there are people who are very blunt, neither way is right or wrong.

[kittenofthemall]

Some people just don't know how to answer someone without being harsh, you shouldn't care about that, just focus on the people that treat you well and with respect even when they don't agree

[Guest Andyy95]

Well since I'm most likely the reason why this thread was started I thought I'd weigh in as well.

 

So I'm a preety direct person and have no filter, and I come across as rude often cause of it. BUT, is it bullying just cause I say what everyone else is thinking but are suggarcoating to be nice? And as far as I could tell , my remark on ur posts was the only one that could be considered rude, yet you make it seem like half the community is out to get you in this post of yours.

 

And be it on or off the internet you can't expect people to always be like ''awww, you poor baby, I feel you'' . Everyone has their own opinion and can express it however one pleases, democracy and what not.

[Guest PrincessMim]

As much as I am against people judging if it's bullying or not while you are the one living it,

really is important (for YOUR wellbeing) to take a step back and ask yourself if the person was actually attacking-bullying you or if they were simply rude (which is NOT OK but also REALLY NOT THE SAME AS BEING BULLIED). I've never been bullied but know people who have, pretty bad, and it must be very insulting to their constant pain for people to equate discomfort with actual bullying. This being said, if you REALLY are being bullied, I am extremely sorry; report it and talk about it with monitors to get it to stop.

 

Rather sad that people are saying "get a thicker skin" though cause some people on here seem to be fairly sensitive and although you should and can work on it, some are just more sensitive in nature. 

 

Sadly you're gonna meet a lot of people who are rude and dismissive IRL or online, at least on here we can block and sign out

Anyways, don't sweat what people you don't know say on here, you do you 

Edited November 27, 2017 by PrincessMim

[Guest Zephy]

Do know that sometimes as something that may appear as obvious to you may not appear like that to another, you don't need to sugarcoat things, but you could be respectful and make the person understand in a respectable way. If you can't, leave it to someone else that could!

[Guest ☽ ᴍᴏɴᴏᴄᴇʀᴏs ☾]

I suffered bullying for eight years. And what you say is definitely not bullying. Having opinions different from others is definitely not, it is simply a debate, and if you open a topic, you must be open to receive opinions that are disagree or contrary to what you say. And that is definitely not bullying.

And as PrincessMim says, for me it's an insult that you do not consider that way. You can not go through life accusing anyone who does not agree with you of bullying. Because that makes people who are going through real bullying are not taken seriously. Bullying is not a game or something so simple to point out, take the topic seriously, and do not tantrum just because you did not get the answers you wanted.

[MrWrongUk]

I some times say things and regret it or think i could have worded it or made my comment better in a reply.

But i have not seen what i would call bullying.if i did i would 100% step in because bullies suck and its mean.

[Guest Zephy]

I some times say things and regret it or think i could have worded it or made my comment better in a reply.

But i have not seen what i would call bullying.if i did i would 100% step in because bullies suck and its mean.

 

I was pretty sure it was a case where she had poorly chosen her words and called it "bullying", while it was more like she feeling disrespected and insulted. It was about a thread in sex & health where she was indirectly called stupid by someone voicing their "opinion" very strongly. That stupid part was totally unnecessary and uncalled for. It wasn't a case of bullying, but it sure was something that has a high chance of triggering someone which ended up happening when you look how she ended up responding. Then the instigator in question thought it was a good idea to make another thread today and kind of use it that came over as mockery. Well that thread is gone and probably this thread needs to be locked as well even if the OP already left the forum.

 

I do feel disappointed by certain individuals lately within this community who refer themselves as an "adult" and hide behind their "honesty" for their disrespectful and aggressive nature for communicating to another human being.