Ghosting

[Guest xLittlePrin]

Soo, just a dumb late night thing that came into my head. What are the reasons that daddy’s (and littles?) Ghost their other half. I can obviously only speak from my own expieriences but I’d like to know genuine reasons from people who’ve maybe done it theirselves?

 

My past daddy just stopped talking one day. After just over a year. Fine one, gone the next. No idea why. There are other parts to the story but it’s boring. I just have no idea why?

[DaddyAlphaca]

I believe everyone here experienced being ghosted by someone! I got that from littles too, things is we talked just fine and one day she starts ghosting and just gone without any explanations (usually it starts by "i am busy lately")

 

Usually i just assumed, then maybe she find someone else and stopped talking to me.

 

I've never ghost anyone, but i guess some of the factors are :

- over cling at some point, where it bothers either the little or the daddy.

- Found someone else, this can be cheating when you actually in a relationship.

- Actually too busy

- Some other factors like family or life problems that they refuse to tell!

 

I got ghosted a lot and i guess littles tend to do that rather than a daddy to her little (maybe). But as for me, it's not hard to tell what happened rather than leaving them confused!

 

If you are in trouble or want someone to talk to, just hit me up

[Guest aphroditelaughs]

I've ghosted and been ghosted.

 

I recently ghosted someone because they made me extremely uncomfortable after ignoring a request of mine. I don't like sexual messages/interactions when getting to know someone. I asked for it to stop and they weren't as forward, but conversations still drifted back to sex. I felt like it was my ony option, because talking about it didn't work.

 

In other situations I don't think it's done to be outright cruel, but people have no idea how to communicate. No one wants to feel awkward or deal with a negative interaction, so they do what's easier even if it's mean.

 

I'm sorry you've had to experience it. It's not fun.

[Guest pacibrat]

I feel like your Daddy should have at least had the courtesy to tell you it wasn't working out.  I don't think ghosting is ever appropriate, but in the beginning of things it's easy for people to just leave off for whatever reason.  When someone has been your caregiver, or your little, long term it's incredibly rude and discourteous to ghost.  I've only had one Daddy and he didn't ghost.  He's going through depression and just couldn't Daddy anymore.  It hurt, but it would have been horrible for him to just stop talking to me after communicating with me daily for such a long time.

[DaddyAlphaca]

I feel like your Daddy should have at least had the courtesy to tell you it wasn't working out.  I don't think ghosting is ever appropriate, but in the beginning of things it's easy for people to just leave off for whatever reason.  When someone has been your caregiver, or your little, long term it's incredibly rude and discourteous to ghost.  I've only had one Daddy and he didn't ghost.  He's going through depression and just couldn't Daddy anymore.  It hurt, but it would have been horrible for him to just stop talking to me after communicating with me daily for such a long time.

Ideally we would love the people who ghost us at least said something! But unfortunately, for some people, they would rather leave rather than said anything.

 

Sure being left by someone is sad and hurts but knowing why is better than know nothing at all .

[Guest McLeodLot65]

I think aphroditelaughs makes a good point, though - it *is* possible for there to be a good reason to ghost: any further contact from that person is unsafe. It happened to me in another context - someone threatened me. I didn't owe them one goddamn word after that. No contact immediately.

[Guest pacibrat]

I agree that ghosting is appropriate if you have communicated that something is wrong and the person continues, but I don't think most ghosting is based on unsafe feelings.  

[Guest SugarNSpiceSam]

If I ghost on anyone when I'm in a relationship with someone, it's mostly because I don't feel safe or they have continued to make me feel uncomfortable and never respected my wishes when I told them not to do something. There's all sorts of reasons why people ghost on someone and I know it can truly hurt if you're digging them and things are moving along smoothly, than one day their just gone..

 

I'm sorry you had to experience something like this and don't beat yourself about it too much. You'll eventually find someone who you do click with and they seem understand you. Keep your chin up!

[Guest xLittlePrin]

Thank you for all your stories and opinions

 

I’m not sure what I did wrong and maybe I’ll never know but I feel better knowing I’m not alone :’)

[Guest pacibrat]

Thank you for all your stories and opinions

 

I’m not sure what I did wrong and maybe I’ll never know but I feel better knowing I’m not alone :’)

 

Just remember that you might not have done anything wrong.  Even if you did do something "wrong", your Daddy should have been mature enough to discuss it with you or at least tell you why he was breaking it off.  You've been talking for a year and you deserved at least a text saying why.  Still, ghosting is just what people do sometimes because it's an easy way out.

[Guest xLittlePrin]

I don’t wanna bore ya’ll with my story but we met many many times in person also, used to spend the weekend / week together etc. Which made it all the more weird!

 

Oh well, live and learn

[Atwooki]

I don't know what would cause someone to ghost, i could understand maybe early one when a relationship hasn't developed but it's quite strange that it was after like you say spending time together, i'm sorry to hear that happened to you    

[Guest McLeodLot65]

Sorry, I just thought of another thing - is there any chance that he was physically prevented? Something as simple as a accident or arrest?

[Guest Loki]

I can’t speak for others, but I’ve ghosted before without meaning to. I have severe anxiety and sometimes depression. When they both flare up I end up laying in bed for days, unable to do anything. I don’t eat. I don’t sleep. I don’t drink. I don’t communicate.

 

By the time I’m better they've moved on or they fight with me to the point I leave. It’s just the way it is.

 

Add my missing time chunks and my disassociating (“multiple personalities”) and I’ve ghosted withtout even realizing time has gone by.

 

This is why I’m not looking anymore. I’m strickly a friend. I’m not putting anyone through that again. It’s not fair to them.

Edited November 25, 2017 by Pinkyellowblue

[Lil' Miss Dolly]

Cowardice/poor decisions/being too 'nice' to be tell it like it is. IMO there's no reason to intentially ghost - Just tell them its not working out and be done with it. If they continue to bug you (which is way more likely to happen with you just disappearing with no reason) block them or if its here.. inform one of our wonderful Admins as harassment is a zero tolerance thing here. Sometimes it seems like the easiest answer but it's never the right one. 

Edited November 26, 2017 by Lil' Miss Dolly

[princessfreckles]

I know how it feels. My first and only Daddy ghosted me about a month after we met in person this past summer. I'd been ghosted before but I was left devastated by this guy. I have no idea why he did it. What hurt most is he had stopped answering my calls and messages, but after a hiatus he posted on social media like everything was normal knowing I could see it. Since then I've been a bit down because I haven't felt good enough for a Daddy to want to claim as his little. I've also never had a serious relationship (in my little journal I have a bucket list of things I'd like to do with a boyfriend that all my other friends did when they were little), and he was the closest I got to one. Sad I know. To this day I make it seem like I'm completely over everything to those around me, but truthfully I still hurt because 1) as a caregiver I held him to a higher standard and 2) because I still don't know why. 

[princessfreckles]

I don’t wanna bore ya’ll with my story but we met many many times in person also, used to spend the weekend / week together etc. Which made it all the more weird!

 

Oh well, live and learn

To me that makes it worse because meeting in person makes it much more serious and real. 

[neko]

I've ghosted on two daddies after about a month because I just got bored of the relationahip only being online and didn't feel like explaining why I didn't want to talk to them any more

 

now I know online relationships arent my thing and will never persue them again

 

Live and learn