Middles: How/When did you know you were a middle?

[jcanaitik]

I'm curious to hear from other middles about how they knew they were a middle? Did you identify as a little before realising 'middle' was better for you? Have you always known? Did you just "grow up?"

 

I identified as little for a while before I realised I was a middle. From being in the DD/LG community on Tumblr and I realised I didn't fit in or find myself comfortable with 'little' things like Disney, stuffies, pacifiers, all pink everything (lol), diapers, etc. I obviously still love and have a need for guidance however I reaaaaally value my independence. I also like more big girl things like makeup, hair, fashion, keeping my nails done...stuff like that!

 

Thanks to anyone who shares.

[Guest PrincessMim]

Hey i'm probably not the most in tune with what I identify as BUT ;p I knew I wasn'T a little when I started reading up on ddlg just like you through tumblrs and forums and realised i didn'T fit it with most of that stuff either (except for pink oupsies haha), or that i'm into crafts but more elaborate. I'm also quite independent while absolutely knowing I need a caregiver in my life.. But then again i really enjoy sucking on my thumb or someone else's on rare occasions , considering getting a paci.

I've also read that some people prefer to see it as a spectrum just like gender. I like the idea to discover what you are and pick stuff up from wtv categories little middle lolita etc and just make well you !  

[Puppy]

I mainly consider myself a middle but can also end up pretty little as well. I first discovered I identified more so as a middle whenever I would catch myself regressing, and knew it was me going into "littlespace" except I usually didn't feel so little. I would be able to talk fine, no baby talk. No interest in diapers. At the most I would want a sippy cup, but that was rare. I was more interested in playing with dolls and toys and makeup, and watching stuff like Sailor Moon. I was bratty, and not in the innocent "I don't know I'm being bad" way some littles are. That's when I realized oh wait, I'm not as little as I thought I was. 

 

I think independence is a huge factor in where somebody falls on the spectrum. Littles are usually way more dependent, and rightfully so. 

 

I still believe I fall somewhere between little and middle, and sometimes I'm just all over the place. I do enjoy a paci and Disney here and there, I mean even as a middle I enjoy Disney lol. Coloring is usually my little activity, while painting/sculpting with clay is more of a middle activity for me. 

 

As for pink stuff, pink is my favorite color whether I'm in a headspace or not. I just absolutely love pink, lol. 

[princessfreckles]

I'm in a sfw DDlg kik group, and the other littles have very young ages. After being in there for a while, I realized that our interests are very different. I don't like diapers, pacifiers, or sippy cups. I don't really baby talk either. I'll color sometimes, and I've always loved Disney movies, but that's where I where the common interest with the littles in the group end. So I didn't think I was truly a little like I originally thought. After research I realized my little age was older because I love boybands, shopping, skirts, knee highs, ribbons in my hair (that's usually in pigtails), I can be bratty, I love playing with makeup, and like puppy I love pink. Especially if it's pink glitter. I'm happy that I found my place and my little age, and my group is definitely supportive of that, even if they don't identify in the same age range as me. 

[LittleMissRarity]

So, I’m new to this forum and new-ish to my Little Side. I call it little space, but I have no interest in diapers. But give me ALL the stuffies and pink and yes, I might have a paci/thumb issue

Give me Disney and coloring, and nail polish and lip gloss.

 

Am I not really a “little”? Am I more of a “middle”? I always thought middle was more teen-ish than childlike. But I’m also new and I only know my own mind, so this topic opened my mind to a whole new perspective.

[Guest CaptainAmerica97]

I mainly consider myself a middle but can also end up pretty little as well. I first discovered I identified more so as a middle whenever I would catch myself regressing, and knew it was me going into "littlespace" except I usually didn't feel so little. I would be able to talk fine, no baby talk. No interest in diapers. At the most I would want a sippy cup, but that was rare. I was more interested in playing with dolls and toys and makeup, and watching stuff like Sailor Moon. I was bratty, and not in the innocent "I don't know I'm being bad" way some littles are. That's when I realized oh wait, I'm not as little as I thought I was.

 

I think independence is a huge factor in where somebody falls on the spectrum. Littles are usually way more dependent, and rightfully so.

 

I still believe I fall somewhere between little and middle, and sometimes I'm just all over the place. I do enjoy a paci and Disney here and there, I mean even as a middle I enjoy Disney lol. Coloring is usually my little activity, while painting/sculpting with clay is more of a middle activity for me.

 

As for pink stuff, pink is my favorite color whether I'm in a headspace or not. I just absolutely love pink, lol.

That's the same with me. I just knew, I want a sippy cup every now and then but I prefer to play and color

[Guest Lilith_]

I never described myself as a little, mainly because I never had any experiences with little space and I don't like stuff like stuffies, pacis, diapers, baby talk etc etc (but, hey! I loooove pink!)

 

I've always felt like I wanted a dominant partner who has a "parental" kind of figure, however I feel like I am more independent than (most) littles. I also feel like littles aren't as sexual as middles (not generalizing, I've met many littles who are very sexual), I'm definitely a very sexual person with a huge interest in BDSM and I have such a big excitement to learn and experience as much as possible.

 

Basically I realized I am a middle when I found out about the terms middles and mediums, I figured out that they are both describing myself and then I met more middles who shared more or less the same interests as me, so here I am! I'm a bit sad though that middles are kind of forgotten because people tend to focus on littles. I'm struggling to find information about it online and tumblr blogs tend to be only about the fashion side of the lifestyle. 

[GeekyPastry]

Well, for me it was while I was looking into DD/lg. I knew that there were some aspects of a Little that really resonated with me, but other thing didn't fit well. For a long time I thought I was just childish and should probably grow up, but some research later I learned about middles. While I do love Disney, and stuffies, coloring and crafts, and the color pink, I'm not fond of pacis and sippy cups/bottles. 

 

So that's just me.

[Guest Bunniesrcute]

Well, for me it was while I was looking into DD/lg. I knew that there were some aspects of a Little that really resonated with me, but other thing didn't fit well. For a long time I thought I was just childish and should probably grow up, but some research later I learned about middles. While I do love Disney, and stuffies, coloring and crafts, and the color pink, I'm not fond of pacis and sippy cups/bottles. 

 

So that's just me.

Similar experience to this.

I find i can enter littler? spaces sometimes alone or in happier moods. But most of the time middle is my comfort zone. I am also an older middle so maybe that has something to do with how far i can regress?

[babygirlrose]

I think I'm a mittle. I love pink and purple and roses. I love music and dancing and dark, violent tv shows lol. I love romance novels hehe. I squeal at happy endings hehe. 

 

but at night time, I need Mr. Cuddles, my special sleeping pillow. I have a hard time sleeping without him. 

 

I don't do babytalk, or disney, or diapers, etc. 

 

I have times where I'm supersexual but others where I just need lots of emotional comfort. Sigh. 

 

I like to be a good girl for Daddy.  The idea of having to "bad" turns me off. Sexually and emotionally. But I'm still learning too

[Guest ChubbyPrincess69]

I guess i knew i was more a middle than a little because i am not really interested in Diapers and pacis although i like sucking my thumb and necklaces, and id rather play with Lego and lego video games than play with stuffies, although i love cuddling and being with my stuffies. I love baking cupcakes and cookies and not really a crafty person who likes coloring like most littles.

I am also very bratty and will talk back.

[Guest LittleMuse]

When I started learning about DD/LG, I knew that I wasn't a Little because of differences in interests. I dont feel the need to have diapers, pacifiers, or colouring book, etc. But other things resonated with me.

[Guest Loki]

I knew I was mostly a middle when I realized I liked teen things more than toddler/baby things. I didn’t know middles were a thing, tho, so I just said I was a little. Then someone somewhere in the forum did a post about being a middle and I was like “oh, I’m not a weird little, I’m a middle.”

 

I’m independent. I don’t do any of the little stuff except maybe wear diapers - I haven’t tried yet due to circumstances. I do regress younger. Buts it not like what other littles describe. When I go into little space there’s only two reasons. I’m either super tired and want snuggles, or I’m overwhelmed and I need to have a good cry/temper tantrum.

 

I don’t have an adult side, not really. I’ve never “grown up” in the sense I’ve always seen and felt like my mid teens. I’ve never gotten past it *shrug*

 

I’m not immature, well not in the ways that count

[MrWrongUk]

Im more into brats and littles. I dunno how to define one tho i think littles are all diffrent so its hard to pit it into a bracket

[NonGuiltyPleasures]

I noticed when people started asking how old I was,specifically after doing thing I didn't realize I was doing. Natural that's all I know how to etc. I started noticing that I do things over and over and have never really seemed to grow out of certain habits. Which started to cause great anxiety but once I realized there was nothing wrong with my regression when I get uncertain, I started to read and found sites similar to this one. Feeling so great to embrace MYSELF and get what I need and want to I corporate into my lifestyle (still looking ::cough: lol. I realized later in life than most I think, but...Thank God better late than Never **WELCOME TO THE COMMUNITY NEWBIES **

[LittleSweetCheeks]

I am new and not sure if I am a little or a middle. I like onesies, stuffies, coloring, sucking thumb, pacis, sippie cups, knee highs, cute skirts and to rewarded/disciplined by Daddy. I enjoy playing board games and cooking together. I am not into Disney or Anime but prefer Wonder Woman and Elf . Not interested in wearing a diaper. I feel like sometimes I want to me "little" and treated as a child, while other times I want be test my rules and limits. It all depends on my mood. I can be sexual in either space. What does this make me?

[Guest Dulci]

When I realised I did not fit in with other littles? Haha..... I joke .....partly. But that is how I realised I did not fit into the little demographic. 

 

I don't like pacis, napppies or speaking in baby talk. So I've always know my little age was at least 5/6, or at least that's where I put it. I think I do tend to go a little older, maybe even around 8; I've always loved cutsie things, but, I've also got this independent and stubborn streak to me. It's proving very difficult to find a daddy who likes a bit of a brat haha. 

[Guest Arc]

I always identified as a submissive, but then I met my partner. He wanted to be my Daddy, so I was looking around at ddlg stuff. I wasn't interested in diapers or pacifiers or acting like a baby/toddler and reading baby talk makes me want to punch a wall. I didn't have a little space and I don't like being babied. I just didn't fit in with being a little. It didn't feel like me. I'm playful and I like little things, but I don't fit that age range and I'm pretty self sufficient. But I eventually found out about middles and it just clicked. It felt right. So here I am.  

[Guest CaptainAmerica97]

I find that i am both. But i notice that i only deage to my little side when I feel completely safe. Otherwise i am a middle to protect myself from judgement. When i am middle aged. I act a little childish, but i mostly act around my age so no one knows except daddy and me. The time i deaged to my little headspace is when i went with daddy to the movies on New Year's

[Hisbabygirl806]

I had said to my daddy the other day that I maybe 35 but I feel like I'm still 16 at heart. He said he sees it. With the clothes buy, my quarks n mannerisms.

[Guest Runa]

@Hisbabygirl806 I'm 38 and I also feel that I'm 16 at heart.  I used to think I was younger but that's changed and I'm in middlespace almost all the time now.  I love it.  I hope you do too!   

[Hisbabygirl806]

2 hours ago, Runa said:

@Hisbabygirl806 I'm 38 and I also feel that I'm 16 at heart.  I used to think I was younger but that's changed and I'm in middlespace almost all the time now.  I love it.  I hope you do too!   

Edited June 7, 2023 by Hisbabygirl806
Same here I used to think I was younger too, but also thanks to my daddy he's helped me figure it out too. I am once I get home to my daddy I feel like I'm in my safe space

[Guest Runa]

I know exactly what you mean.  Daddy is my safe space and he just brings out the middle in me.    

[Hisbabygirl806]

2 hours ago, Runa said:

I know exactly what you mean.  Daddy is my safe space and he just brings out the middle in me.    

😁😁I feel like I can act silly and normal or the way I want to act when I'm with him. 

[StrayKittenNZ]

I did not have a label for it for a loooong time, but I suspected something since my teenage years, when I noticed I do not follow my peers developmentally. They all gradually became interested in boring stuff like dating, while I just kept exploring new ways to play. Few decades later I discovered there is a label, "middle", that fits me well enough that I can actually use it to describe myself to others 🐱

Edited June 13, 2023 by StrayCatNZ