Question for littles without a Caregiver...

[princessfreckles]

Just curious...how do you keep from getting to down when you don't have a caregiver? I've been without a Daddy 3 1/2 months or so (we were only together for 2 1/2 months), and I haven't met any prospective ones despite my best efforts. So how do you stay optimisitc and positive?

[Guest lil-kitten22]

the biggest thing that ive learned. If you keep looking you wont find the right daddy for you...just have conversations and wait for somehting to happen, but if you force it then it problably wont be good. I stay positive the same way, just talk to anyone you find interesting or you feel like you would have a good connection with! you can make tons of friends that way as well as when you are constantly meeting new people its hard to be sad

[Guest brazilianlittlenerd]

Yeah, don't push it! You cant force things to happen, just try to keep yourself open to the possibilities. If you get too sad and down you could watch a movie or talk to another littles or your sttufies, I talk to mine, it kinda makes it better... If you wanna talk, send me a message! 

[Guest ☽ ᴍᴏɴᴏᴄᴇʀᴏs ☾]

Well I've been without a partner for almost three years, so in comparison your time is pretty small x3. But I am still optimistic, because I know that the main problem to find a partner is really mine, because I am too demanding for someone to like me and it costs me much more to fall in love. I guess I no longer split my head the issue as before because I just got used to being alone.

[LittleKitten13]

Well, I know I didn't really know anything about ddlg when I met and started dating my papa/little, but I didn't actually start dating him or even realizing that I loved him in that way until I had just decided that I wasn't looking any more.

I know it sounds super weird.

[princessfreckles]

Well I've been without a partner for almost three years, so in comparison your time is pretty small x3. But I am still optimistic, because I know that the main problem to find a partner is really mine, because I am too demanding for someone to like me and it costs me much more to fall in love. I guess I no longer split my head the issue as before because I just got used to being alone.

I didn't mention this in my original post, but I've never even had a boyfriend. My previous Daddy was the closest I got to one. So, combining never having a serious relationship at my age of 29 along with the way things ended with the previous Daddy (he ghosted me about a month after meeting in person), things are difficult right now. I'm just finding it hard to stay optimistic. 

[princessfreckles]

Yeah, don't push it! You cant force things to happen, just try to keep yourself open to the possibilities. If you get too sad and down you could watch a movie or talk to another littles or your sttufies, I talk to mine, it kinda makes it better... If you wanna talk, send me a message! 

I'm not really pushing anything with anyone, I'm far too shy to be that up front. I'm just keeping my eye out and meeting/chatting with people in a couple of lifestyle kik groups I'm in.

[#fragileprincess]

I didn't mention this in my original post, but I've never even had a boyfriend. My previous Daddy was the closest I got to one. So, combining never having a serious relationship at my age of 29 along with the way things ended with the previous Daddy (he ghosted me about a month after meeting in person), things are difficult right now. I'm just finding it hard to stay optimistic. 

 

Don't worry, things always seem the roughest as soon as they are about to get better. Stay positive. Stay safe. Engage. He is searching for you as much as you are searching for him. Your paths will cross someday!

[Guest pacibrat]

It was sooooo hard for me at first when my Daddy told me he just wasn't up to being a Daddy anymore (he's dealing with depression and stuffs).  I was used to having a Daddy and following rules and talking to him, etc.  It gets easier as time passes.  Right now, I've decided that I want to be single and just focus on other stuff.  Even if I was looking, I know it would take me lots of time to find the right person.  It's the same with little world as it is in dating in adult world......gotta go through froggies to find your prince.   Although, the pool for finding a Daddy or Mommy is a lot smaller than if you were just into dating those who aren't into this (not for me.....I've decided I don't want someone who doesn't understand this).  There just aren't that many of us if you compare it to the general population.  With all that said, hang in there and give it time.  It's OKAY to be single for months or years.

[princessfreckles]

Don't worry, things always seem the roughest as soon as they are about to get better. Stay positive. Stay safe. Engage. He is searching for you as much as you are searching for him. Your paths will cross someday!

I appreciate your encouraging words 

[princessfreckles]

It was sooooo hard for me at first when my Daddy told me he just wasn't up to being a Daddy anymore (he's dealing with depression and stuffs).  I was used to having a Daddy and following rules and talking to him, etc.  It gets easier as time passes.  Right now, I've decided that I want to be single and just focus on other stuff.  Even if I was looking, I know it would take me lots of time to find the right person.  It's the same with little world as it is in dating in adult world......gotta go through froggies to find your prince.   Although, the pool for finding a Daddy or Mommy is a lot smaller than if you were just into dating those who aren't into this (not for me.....I've decided I don't want someone who doesn't understand this).  There just aren't that many of us if you compare it to the general population.  With all that said, hang in there and give it time.  It's OKAY to be single for months or years.

Thank you so much. I hope your focusing on yourself and the things you're focusing on is going well. 

[Guest ParanoidAsylum]

I can say I haven't had a CG for close to 2 1/2 years, and I just look at it in this way: seeing as the ones I have didn't work out, and things kinda ended rough, I figure I might as well focus on me and my self worth before venturing into a relationship like that again