How do I get over him?!

[Guest Brokendollies]

Recently, I got out of a 6month long distance ddlg relationship. Even though I was the one that ended it because I felt that I was putting more into the relationship than he was... I just can't seem to get over it. It hasn't been very long and I know these things take time, but it feels so hard... Everytime I see something that even sort of reminds me of him I feel all torn up inside. And I really really shouldn't, he was never there for me for the little or big stuff. And honestly he was hardly a daddy. But even now I just think he as a person was just perfection and too good for me. I can't stop crying. I keep trying to reach out to him for some sort of comfort or finality of the relationship but it's all just radio silence. I loved him so much. I just feel like a broken dolly.... If you have any advice. You can message me here or preferably kik me at pinkstrippedsocks

[Guest Namsoejones]

Unfortunately I don't really think there is any quick fix that will make things feel any better. I would suggest cutting off contact with him if you know you 100% don't want to get back together as that will only make things worse, it's just one of those things that take time to get over but you'll start to feel better eventually and when you ready you'll find a new daddy and you'll get over him

[Guest DaddyCares1]

Try to be logical. You know he wasn't good for you in your own words. 

Remove any reminders you have of him, if possible. Pictures, phone numbers, any contact details etc. That way the temptation to talk to him isn't there. Block him also. Reaching out to someone you know is not good for you is not a smart option. You can do better than that. 

[Guest SUeB]

Time. That's literally all it takes. Be it a few days, a few weeks or a few months. There is no definitive time period. This type of dynamic does tend to cause a more intense reaction and emotions. You aren't alone in those feelings. Just keep going til it fades.

[Guest Beardless Viking]

Time and distracting yourself are the two big ones. Don't allow yourself to fall into a cycle of you being lonely and miserable. Go out, do things you enjoy. Focus all the energy you spent on this person on something that makes you happy, be it movies, or reading, or writing, or whatever else. It may take a week, two weeks, a month, or heck, a year, but eventually you'll feel better. Time and distance works wonders.

[Tinka]

Hewwoz. here is a cookie for you ---> o

 

i am very sorry you experience this, i know and i think almost all of us once, twice or more, felt that agonising pain. 

Let`s try to see a different side of the things. 

If he would want, he would fight for you. He would try. Did he? 

If not, then he just didn`t want to. And this is nothing that we can change or alter in any way. Its the 'free will". 

 

I understand you broke up for specific reasons , and you might felt shocked that he didn`t react the way you would want him to (like "nooo pls , stay, i will changed etc).

Do you think that there could be a chance that the pain you feel is because you didn`t see your man fight for you?

Did he broke your heart or did he break the confidence of the princess inside you? 

Because i know it sounds bad, but i say it with all honesty and sincerity ... ---> us girls have a princess inside. And most of the times the princess gets hurt, not our heart. By them not chasing us, by them not fighting for us, by them not doing anything that we thought they would to hunt us and make us theirs. 

So is the princess broken or the heart? 

 

If the princess is broken, then you need to make her angry. I know its weird, but it works. Maker angry and egoist for a second. 

To take care of herself, pick up her nose, fix her tiara, grab her beautiful dress and move on with her fairy tale, and let that man outside your kingdom, he ain`t your prince charming. Its a matter of pride, the one who doesn't want fight for you, does not deserve ANY thing of you.

 

If the heart is broken, here is another cookie ---> o 

And the only solution is time. Give time to yourself. Close your thoughts, by not thinking. Hobby, puppy, movie, work. Anything to not think as the time passes by.

I cannot tell you how much time, and neither can you tell yourself. But things will always get better.Or at least hurt less. 

 

But the important thing is that you must not , under any circumstances show him that you cry and you want him back. 

You cannot spam his mobile his fb. You cannot leave tearful messages "pls i miss you". 

The only reason i would say yes ok, give it a try, is if he comes and you guys talk it out like adults, express your feelings, the things you want and the things you dont want from a relationship, discuss where it went wrong and why etc. And only after a mature conversation without bs, you can think of going back.

 

Us princesses we cry when we can`t have something. Time can heal. Be strong 

[Guest PrincessMim]

As someone who took literally years to get over my first love I totally get the need to seek comfort in him but this will only hurt you in the long run ( i speak from experience :' )

From what you say it's clear that it's not a good relationship for you I would say try to focus on stuff that makes you happy and hopefull, and giving your love to people who appreciate you to the fullest <3 

Getting out of a 1 year relationship right now, you can message me for support haha ! 

[MrWrongUk]

I think you need to just get rid of all things that remind you of him and pretend he never existed.

I facebooked a girl i who dumped me a few years ago the other day,WORST IDEA EVER lol.