Am I too needy? Please help

[Khajiit_trash]

Daddy takes ages to reply to me on messages and when he says he will be back in a minute he's always gone forever (1 hour plus) but I tend to spam him with messages, I once sent him 102 messages because he didn't come back for 4 hours. So am I too needy?

[meows kohai]

Yo 102 is a lot. 

I'm not trying to be a bitch to you or anything, but you might need to slow your koto roll down a bit. Especially if he isn't responding in that time. You might try to give him a little more space? 

How old are you guys? 

 

tbh, if someone sent me that many messages I'd be more inclined to ignore them. 

Edited November 16, 2017 by meows senpai

[Panda God]

I wouldn't say that you're too needy, I'd just say that 102 is a little overkill. If he doesn't respond to the first two, what makes you think he'll suddenly respond to the others?

[Puppy]

"A minute" usually doesn't literally mean 60 seconds. Everyone gets busy and you cannot always expect for him to be there to respond to your messages. Sending him one message after he doesn't respond is alright, and maybe even a couple more (especially sweet things for him to come back to) but spamming him is just unnecessarily annoying and borderline unhealthy.

 

If you're not happy with the amount of time you two spend talking to each other, talk to him about it. Unless he is somebody who for some odd reason enjoys being spammed with message after message (highly unlikely) he is probably very annoyed by your spamming and it may eventually begin to push him away.

[Guest DaddyCares1]

A minute should never be an hour, though it doesn't literally mean a minute. In saying that, 102 messages is extremely excessive.

Surely if someone sent you 102 messages, you'd find that a little weird and be taken aback? Unless you want him to have that reaction, I'd avoid text bombing him. 

[Guest SUeB]

Sorry but seriously? That's not cool.

[Khajiit_trash]

Okay 102 was overreacting but I sent a few,

Thank you for the advice though

[Guest Arc]

I wouldn't say there is such a thing as too needy. People have their needs and they need to find someone who meets those. But you need to realise people are busy and have lives and you need to understand that he will reply when he can. I sometimes take a while to reply to my Daddy because I'll be doing something like cooking or painting and my hands are too messy to pick up my phone. Or I could be with friends and it would be rude to check my phone every five seconds lol. And sometimes he doesn't reply to me for a while because he's working or with friends. We understand that there are things that could effect how fast we can reply, so we promise to reply as soon as we can.

 

I think you need to try be more understanding, and maybe have a proper talk with him about it. If someone sent me 102 messages I would probably be so annoyed with my phone going off so much that I wouldnt want to talk to them because I'd likely get angry and snap. You should talk to him and make a plan on how to meet your needs. Maybe if he promises to reply as soon as he can, or if he sets aside a time in the day to call you for half an hour or an hour so you have that time each day entirely with him. You need to sort something out because if someone was constantly spamming me I'd personally just want to run away. My life can't revolve around typing on my phone and I'd leave anyone who expected it to. 

 

There isn't such thing as too needy but there is such a thing as too unreasonable. Talk and work out something that works for you because if that behaviour continues I can't see things going well.....

[Khajiit_trash]

I just get attached and constants miss him, and I think it's something I should really work on and be a little more independent, I love my daddy and feel like I am to needy and annoying but he says I'm not. But I don't know, thank you everyone for your replies

[Guest SUeB]

Yes it's easy to get that way. But you have to work on it. Stay busy. Try and put your phone down for a bit and look around at real life and get involved in it.