Newly Single Little, how to be a single little

[Princess^-^]

[little_pinkprincess]

Being abused isn't something that can be moved on from quickly. It is hard to want to move on, but you definitely need to spend some time getting to know yourself. I highly recommend counsellng and self introspection. I understand that being alone is hard, but you need some time to think about yourself. Take some time to be selfish; get to know yourself, and practice self care.

[Princess^-^]

little_pinkprincess Thanks for the response, I really appreciate it.

[Guest DaddyCares1]

I'd set up some goals or tasks for yourself. I'm not sure what you're like but some littles need direction to look after themselves. If that's you, then you could have reminders about eating your meals and drinking water. Then maybe try to plan your day mixing it up between times you probably have to work/study with ways you can go into little space. Maybe you'd watch some cartoons, or do some colouring. You could draw it all up on a chart and even reward yourself with stickers for things you complete. 

[Puppy]

I'd set up some goals or tasks for yourself. I'm not sure what you're like but some littles need direction to look after themselves. If that's you, then you could have reminders about eating your meals and drinking water. Then maybe try to plan your day mixing it up between times you probably have to work/study with ways you can go into little space. Maybe you'd watch some cartoons, or do some colouring. You could draw it all up on a chart and even reward yourself with stickers for things you complete. 

 

Definitely do this. Create structure for yourself, that same sort of structure that would be there if you had a caregiver (except you're the one enforcing it.) Reward yourself for doing the things you need to do. For example, if you get some chores done, spend 30 minutes or so eating your favorite snack and watching your favorite cartoon as a reward.

You don't have to have a Daddy to be little, and this is something that you need to tell yourself! Remind yourself that it is you, your own being, that makes you little. Do whatever little activities that make you happy. You can also find other littles to befriend and do stuff with. If you can go to any events IRL and meet others like you, that would be great! But if not you can still always make meaningful friendships over the internet as well. Set up play dates whether it be through Skype, phone call, or just texting. 

 

You've been through a lot, and I understand how tough it is coming out of an abusive relationship. Allow yourself time to heal before you begin seeking another partner. Cater to yourself, spoil yourself even. You deserve it! 

[Guest ☽ ᴍᴏɴᴏᴄᴇʀᴏs ☾]

I think it would be good if you made some trusted littles friends. That way you would not feel so alone, in fact in the next post there are many single littles with which you can talk.

 

https://www.ddlgforum.com/topic/25042-no-daddy-club-littles-wo-daddies-but-want-friends/

 

You must really spend time to heal yourself, love yourself and learn to know you, just so you can find a daddy who really deserves your love.

[Guest SUeB]

Boring answer, but it sounds like you are attracting this type. Thats most often because of something you are putting out there. Not saying there is anything wrong with you, or that it is your fault. But there is usually a reason that people continuously attract people that will repeat the pattern.

But to answer the actual question, you just live as most others do. You do not need a partner to be complete or whole. You do not need a daddy to be a little. You need to be ok being on your own before you will be ok with a better partner. Take your time, grow, and be patient.