new and need advice...?

[mileswest]

I only recently became a sub, like three months ago, and im too nervous to be open about with others, because in the town i am in, a guy being submissive is treatablf like if i were a freak of nature, and i want advice on being a little so i can be better at it before i find somebody to be my dom. I am open to any advice facts or funfacts, anything helps and thank you!

[TwilightSparklez]

I am not sure what you mean by being a better little so I am going to try and answer to the best of my ability, but really there is no way to be a better little, you are perfect how you are and your littlespace, how you experience it, is perfect. If you want to better yourself as a sub for a future Dom, there are lots of things you can do that some of which can also be fun for your little side: learning to bake, learning to cook, learning to do domestic things (laundry, dishes, make a bed etc.) and just continuing to work on yourself and grow emotionally, physically and mentally.

 

Now saying all that, there is no way to be a better little but there are things that are appreciated when you keep them in mind: manners please and thank you go a long way, being helpful around the house, following your rules, not being a brat 24/7, wearing something cute to surprise your partner, coloring a picture to let them know your thinking of them, putting your toys and crayons away without being asked too and remembering to ask for permission for things that you should ask permission for.

[Littlest_Bee]

I think the most important thing is that you should know your own limits and preferences and how to communicate them. It helps you find out how compatible you are with your future dom.

 

However, a lot about those limits and preferences needs to be explored in reality. You can theoretically enjoy the fantasy of being all tied up but not get aroused in reality because maybe the position is just too uncomfortable or you don't enjoy ropes or something. It's fine to enjoy some things as a fantasy and not be all that much into the reality.

It's absolutely OK to change your mind about things or to find new kinks while you make new experiences.

 

Read a lot, ask questions and take your time.