In love with daddy

[pipiro]

Hello people,

ummm so i met a daddy online and we got to know each other for only a couple days and he asked me to be his little girl. he is a really nice person and i am sure about it. when we got to know each other, he told me he doesn't think he would fall in love again. I said he liked me that's why he wanted me to be his little. As time goes by i think i love him, but it kinda makes me sad because i remember he said he won't fall in love again. i really want to say that i really like him and maybe love him, but thinking about his words hesitates me to express how i feel. i am so sad right now. should i ask him something about his feeling to me? if i do, would it be ok to ask him? i don't want him to keep distance if i ask it

[Persephone_Persephone]

Hey just some details please, how long have you been talking and have you met IRL?

[DreamingDesire]

Don't worry too much about exact wording. "Love" means something else to a host of different people. You'll find people on here feel they're in love after talking to someone they connect amazingly well with for a few hours. You'll find other people who claim "love" is a much more all-encompassing word that means you can't imagine life without that person, as they uplift every single part of it, and have done for a while. It's why I learned to stay away from using that one word, and instead describe my feelings in other terms.

 

It's entirely possible you're both feeling the same way right now, but where you find it appropriate to use "I love you", he will have different standards for it and will not claim to love you back. So instead, I'd approach it by saying what it is I love about him. Maybe you love how he makes you feel, then just say that. Maybe you love what he looks like, that one cute thing he always does, or just "you make me feel good". That way, the risk of using "love" is entirely avoided, and you can still share the excitement of how well you feel this is all going.

[Guest Alainnb]

You said you only know him for a few days and he wants you to be a little girl, did I get this right...? O;

 

I'd be pretty careful if I were you....see if he's fine with waiting a couple of weeks, maybe two months....this relationship needs deep trust between two people and that's the foundation of it....and building trust needs some time....if he refuses to wait and tells you that's not "little/submissive" or anything....Well, I guess you know what that would mean > <"

 

I'm telling you this because it feels a bit "odd" for me, you knowing each other for only a few days online (?) and him then saying he won't fall in love again....Well, why does he want you to be his little girl then? > < This is a bit suspicious for me...I be wrong and he clearly loves you tho and doesn't just want to use you

 

I'd just be careful with things like that because there are a lot of fake daddies out here trying to get a little quite quickly for using her/him....Ofc not everyone is like this and he may just be quite fast by nature ^^

 

So just...look out for red flags and maybe ask him if waiting would be fine! <3

 

We can all just judge from the outside and we do not have a lot/ all information provided so everything I said could also be wrong!

 

Edit: I thought it said " won't fall in love again AFTER YOU" so I changed my answer according to the difference of both sentences! QuQ

Edited November 11, 2017 by Alainnb

[pipiro]

Don't worry too much about exact wording. "Love" means something else to a host of different people. You'll find people on here feel they're in love after talking to someone they connect amazingly well with for a few hours. You'll find other people who claim "love" is a much more all-encompassing word that means you can't imagine life without that person, as they uplift every single part of it, and have done for a while. It's why I learned to stay away from using that one word, and instead describe my feelings in other terms.

 

It's entirely possible you're both feeling the same way right now, but where you find it appropriate to use "I love you", he will have different standards for it and will not claim to love you back. So instead, I'd approach it by saying what it is I love about him. Maybe you love how he makes you feel, then just say that. Maybe you love what he looks like, that one cute thing he always does, or just "you make me feel good". That way, the risk of using "love" is entirely avoided, and you can still share the excitement of how well you feel this is all going.

Hmmm i see.. Thank you for the reply ^-^

[pipiro]

You said you only know him for a few days and he wants you to be a little girl, did I get this right...? O;

 

I'd be pretty careful if I were you....see if he's fine with waiting a couple of weeks, maybe two months....this relationship needs deep trust between two people and that's the foundation of it....and building trust needs some time....if he refuses to wait and tells you that's not "little/submissive" or anything....Well, I guess you know what that would mean > <"

 

I'm telling you this because it feels a bit "odd" for me, you knowing each other for only a few days online (?) and him then saying he won't fall in love again....Well, why does he want you to be his little girl then? > < This is a bit suspicious for me...I be wrong and he clearly loves you tho and doesn't just want to use you

 

I'd just be careful with things like that because there are a lot of fake daddies out here trying to get a little quite quickly for using her/him....Ofc not everyone is like this and he may just be quite fast by nature ^^

 

So just...look out for red flags and maybe ask him if waiting would be fine! <3

 

We can all just judge from the outside and we do not have a lot/ all information provided so everything I said could also be wrong!

 

Edit: I thought it said " won't fall in love again AFTER YOU" so I changed my answer according to the difference of both sentences! QuQ

Yes i got to know him for a few days but we were on the phone talking about each other for days too. When he asked me to be his little, i said "isn't it too fast to start this?" then he said he felt like already knowing me for months because we talked a lot and he told me i know almost about things he never tell to anyone.

We have been together for about 3 weeks now, and to be honest i am still scared he only wants to use me but he is a sweet daddy so far.

[Guest PrincessMim]

I don't know about the how long you've known him and all it seems normal that he might not be near being in "love" yet, some people are more careful with having feelings that strong once they've been hurt. But if you really like eachother and expect this to go anywhere maybe you should be honest about how you feel? Like maybe it'S to early for him and maybe he thinks he won't love again but tell him how u feel and watch it evolve? 

I use to feel like him and athough i don't know if I'll ever love someone again like that one person, I like to believe i'm meant to agian some day. Maybe he just needs time to get that faith  

 

As for the scared of being used, defenitely be careful in LDR even in IRL, take it slow, if he's a keeper he'll be happy with having you no matter the pace of things <3