Should I contact Daddy again or leave it?

[Guest cocobunny]

[Wolfycheeks]

In this case, respect your parents decision.. It's probably for the best too. They only do this because they want you to be safe, they don't know this man (who is like, way older than you right?). I would find someone closer to you or your own age, forget about this. Contacting him again is only gonna get you in trouble with your parents. Better to do what they want while you're still there. I know it sucks, but like I said before it's out of concern for your safety.

[Guest cocobunny]

In this case, respect your parents decision.. It's probably for the best too. They only do this because they want you to be safe, they don't know this man (who is like, way older than you right?). I would find someone closer to you or your own age, forget about this. Contacting him again is only gonna get you in trouble with your parents. Better to do what they want while you're still there. I know it sucks, but like I said before it's out of concern for your safety.

it does suck. he's 10 years older...could be worse!

[Panda God]

I was actually in the same situation before. I hate to say it, but Wolfy is right. You've gotta let it go, at least for now. Your parents could make your life hell if you try to keep talking to the guy. Trust me, I know. What you can do, though, is you can tell him to wait for you. If he really cares, he'll be willing to wait a year or two. I wish you the best of luck.

[DreamingDesire]

I was actually in the same situation before. I hate to say it, but Wolfy is right. You've gotta let it go, at least for now. Your parents could make your life hell if you try to keep talking to the guy. Trust me, I know. What you can do, though, is you can tell him to wait for you. If he really cares, he'll be willing to wait a year or two. I wish you the best of luck.

 

I agree with the part about letting go. Of course that is making you depressed, you're forced to stop doing something you like against your will, who wouldn't be depressed?

 

The advice people are giving here are those from people free from your emotions. We look at this empathizing with the situation, but not as the people who have to go through this period where we feel intensely sad we have to let this person go. However, we also know that this pain will get less every day, and that you'll be able to find happiness again later on in some way. Time is finite, we inevitably fill our newly found free time with something else. Given the choice between desperately holding on, heavily struggling to keep it going despite your parents and probably not feeling much better because of all this pressure, or leaving it for now and starting the healing process earlier, the total amount of suffering just seems less when you let it go now.

[Barbiedolly]

your 18,you can get your own appartement and job and then do whatever you want to do. this is your life and tbh 10 years gap is nothing. You are the legal age so i see nothing at all wrong with it. Again, this is your life, dont let other people rule it. 

[Guest SUeB]

If he was fighting to keep you, i would say to heck with your parents foundless threats. On what basis are they threatening? That you are both adults with ten years between you. Gee whizz.....take him to prison immediately!! But no, looks like he's said yeah it's a shame but seeya. So in that case, maybe it's best to let it go. Two months is no time at all in the grand scheme of things.

Yes you're upset about it, and that's perfectly normal and to be expected. This is your choice. We can only give you our opinion. And there is nothing to say that any one of us are either right or wrong.

Edited November 10, 2017 by SUeB

[AsleepAndDreaming]

What you're doing isn't illegal. So I'm not quite sure what the threat of using Private Investigators is meant to do, are they threatening to track him down and use violence against him? Because if so, it's your parents who are in the wrong, not you or your Daddy. 

 

If your parents could take the emotion out of it, they might at least try to understand. They could read forums like this one and realise that not everyone in the world is out to hurt everyone else. They could ask to meet him and get to know him. They could appreciate that your happiness is most important and that maybe actually this guy is pretty good at looking after you. If he's only 10 years older that's nothing in my opinion. 

 

What you do next effectively depends on the strength of the relationship with your parents and the strength of your feelings for your Daddy. If you continue with contact with your Daddy will that signal the end of the parental bond? And how much does that matter to you? Not everyone has a close connection with their parents - I certainly didn't. Reading between the lines of your post I wonder if your parents have not come to terms with the fact that you're an adult and that you have the ability, not to mention the right, to make your own decisions. The consequences of those decisions should be what shapes your ultimate choice.

 

If you think you're going to spend a long time with your Daddy in the future and you're mad keen on him, then I would say go for it. But only if you are prepared to deal with the repercussions if (or when) your parents find out. 

[Guest Olderdaddyca]

I think there maybe some information missing. Where you of age when the relationship started. Because if not then it does not matter what age you are now, he could go to jail. If the answer is you were legal age when you started dating then follow your heart. If he truly loves and cares for you then he would want to make it work. DDlg is very difficult on families at times especially when there is an age gap. The dynamic is misunderstood by most around us. There comes a time where one must chose to live the dynamic and understand the consequences of losing family. Or let it go. Edited November 11, 2017 by Olderdaddyca

[Mikaitaku]

The obvious question is does he have anything to hide? The PI threat only works if he is doing something wrong. I say keep in contact, neither of you are doing anything wrong

[Guest cocobunny]

[Guest SUeB]