NEW TO DDLG BUT SCARED IF I DONT FIND A DADDY

[Shy.Kitten]

Hi,

I'm relatively new to the world of ddlg and I'm really impatient and want a daddy and someone to care for me really soon but i know it wont happen automatically...how's long can It take because I feel like I may never find a daddy!!!

I'm also really scared that I won't find a daddy and that I'll be alone forvever this really scares and upsets me !!

What do I do if I don't find a daddy ?

[Guest pacibrat]

You just continue on with your life until you do find someone suitable.  It isn't the worst thing in the world to be a single little.  No rules!   Finding a caregiver is a lot like regular romantic life.  It takes time to find the right person.  

[Guest DaddyCares1]

People should want relationships not need them. If someone needs a relationship, they need to examine themselves first.

 

Whatever you do, don't rush to the first daddy you meet. That never ends well, yet some littles still do it.

[Guest Stinkin'ol'Fred]

My first Daddy, I let him rush me. I let alot of red flags go unnoticed. It wasn't entirely his fault because I was eager for that kind of love and caring. He left me when I needed him the most honestly. I let my eagerness to be loved and cared for blind me. I let all my guards down and it cost me dearly. I spent two months in a vicious cycle of telling myself I was stupid. Questioning my worth continually. And feeling really bad, not because I had been used and left but because I too wrapped up to notice his faults.

Today I have a man in my life that has seen my worst and still loves me. He wants to be that person I trust fully. And I have to say it's most definitely worth waiting for. There's no correlation between your value and your relationship status. I know it's lonely and it's overwhelming that feeling. But don't end up like me. One day, probably when you least expect it you'll meet someone that wants to be everything you need. If you ever get lonely or just wanna talk I'm always here.

[Guest aphroditelaughs]

It's normal to be impatient, but for your own safety you need to give it time. Unfortunately there's a lot of predators.

 

More important than that though, there's nothing that says you have to have a partner. Be your own caregiver for a little while and learn what your needs, desires, and limits are.

[BabyGirl Sadie]

take your time, get to know someone first! (just like any other relationship!) 
but be careful because some "Daddies" aren't always how they first come off! 

[Guest SUeB]

This is one way of ending up being in a bad situation with someone just looking to take advantage. Chill out a bit. The more you look in desperation, the more you will get messed with and the more you will end up very disappointed.

[Guest Ignea]

All it takes is time, how many is unsure. Rushing due to a urge of need, will bring you trouble and misery , many littles and Daady/Mommy/CG are without that special person. But the person you do "need"is the one  thats inside you,  just be yourself in every way possible and it wil come along one day , maybe today, maybe tommorow.

 

But when it happends you will know and feel it that its ok.

All i can advise is listen to the sweet people in the replies. Think it over and make up your mind.. dont be that lil snowball that end up in a big mess, thats not worth it

[Guest ShyLittleNerd]

I was also scared about not having a daddy at first. I’ve been a little for about a year I have yet to find my daddy. Not having a daddy didn’t really matter that much, honestly. I obviously wished I had one but I still did all the little things I enjoyed like coloring, watching cartoons with my stuffies and falling asleep with my paci. My advice would be to get to know your little side before you go looking for a daddy. Don’t rush, you’ll find the right daddy for you c:

[kleinemaus]

Sometimes you even fall in love with someone who isn't a caregiver. My love is another little. I am grateful that he accepts my lifestyle. I tried to turn him into a caregiver but that didn't work out. Sometimes it does though it worked with a friend of mine.  You don't need a daddy to be little.

[Untwisted]

You're not less of a person if you're on your own.

 

It takes as long as it takes to find the right person.  

 

If you're really determined, finding the wrong person probably doesn't take long at all.

[Guest SUeB]

 

If you're really determined, finding the wrong person probably doesn't take long at all.

Pretty much an excellent way of putting it