Boyfriend is new to DDLG help??

[SenpaisLilPumpkin]

My partner is new DDLG/BDSM and was actually a virgin before we got together. He knows I'm little and we have talked about DDLG and BDSM together and he understands how important it is and even is already acting kinda like a CG but he isnt my dom,he doesnt want to be called Daddy(hes my Senpai instead) and he actually indulges my little side i just dont know how to move it into the next steps. He likes my little side too its just confusing for me.

[peter6111]

Hi SenpaisLilPumpkin

 

There are many threads on this site dedicated to helping daddies/CG's in the same position as your BF, if he want's to know more about being a good Daddy/Dom. Just look at his link for example:

https://www.ddlgforum.com/topic/51-general-advice-for-new-daddies/

 

Just remember though that everyone is different, and every dom has a slightly different way of doing things.

Besides just learning more about being a dom in general, it's important that you have a proper conversation to make clear what you both want and expects from the DDLG dynamics in your relationship.   

[Guest Ignea]

Hi

 

I agree totaly with the reply from peter6111. the link is excelent reading and might be a souce oh handleers if you like .. Main thing is indeed communication, make eachother aware of your needs wishes and desires .. both ways. Read a lot , discuss it together or debate. And use what applies to your situation.  There is no abstract thing as do this and your a Daddy/Mommy/CG.

No manual,  no wrong or right,

 

Let him join the forums, read up . converse and again communicate with you, and others if needed.

 

My personal opinion, You are what you are "acting" is not the same as being.  One can act as a lillte or a Daddy/Mommy/CG, just my feeling would be is that the same as what you are? 

[SenpaisLilPumpkin]

What i meant is that he naturally is kind of a daddy anyways,i have always been little he doesnt seem to know if he wants to proceed or not

[Guest Ignea]

Ah like that ok . If he doesnt know if hw wants to proceed, then u have to wait for his descission. But again keep the dialogue open, and dont try ot push, thats usualy a good way to "scare" people off

[SenpaisLilPumpkin]

Ill keep that in mind

[Guest SUeB]

Do you have an idea of what those "next steps" need to be, for you? What do you feel is missing, that you absolutely need to have in this relationship?

[SenpaisLilPumpkin]

I need rules and punishments,i need him to be strict and more dominant. Hes very daddy like but not very dominant and seems unsure off himself or scared of hurting me I cant really word it very well so i hooe my point is clear. Im trying tk slowly introduce it and talk more about it bit by bit especially since he's comfortable with my being little i dont know im rambling i apologise

[Guest SUeB]

No you're fine. You want a daddy dom, not just a daddy. But as i am sure you may already know, those two things together are not always assured. Some people are non dominant daddies, some are doms without the daddy stuff, and every mix in between.

But just with how you describe him, i don't think it sounds like he has that dominant "gene" (for want of a better word). Of course i am only making that assumption on limited information.

All you can do is actually talk to him. Show him this discussion, maybe. See how he reacts. The only way we get anywhere in a relationship is through open and honest communication.

[Bigrob129]

Hey senapaise I added you as a friend I don’t know if you’re looking for just a vice or friends too but I added you as a friend if you want add me and we can talk or whatever

[SenpaisLilPumpkin]

I have been trying to talk to him and we are getting there. I think the issue is im his introduction to bdsm and i love friends

[Guest SUeB]

Hey senapaise I added you as a friend I don’t know if you’re looking for just a vice or friends too but I added you as a friend if you want add me and we can talk or whatever

Sorry to seem cynical, but are you wanting to genuinely talk to her as platonic friends, or are you hoping to offer her a "better deal" than what she already has with her boyfriend?