Unintentionally forgotten about

[bellisle]

I know my daddy is busy just like any other daddy, and I worry I’m just super needy, but sometimes he tells me he’ll be just a minute or he’love text me right back, and then he’s doesn’t. And I want to communicate and all that I’m dissapointed, but I don’t want to upset him because I know he tries really hard to make time for me. Am I just being too needy?

[Guest Stinkin'ol'Fred]

I'm in the same boat honestly. We started off talking video chatting,and texting. Now I'm just lucky if I hear from him once a week. I am torn between wanting to talk to him and just letting him be until he talks to me because I don't wanna bother him or frustrate him.

I feel like its not so hard to send a text really tho.

No I don't feel like it is too needy either tho. It only takes a minute to send a text. I say communicate with him that you put faith in him when he says he's gonna reply and it hurts to wait and wait when he said it'd only be a minute. I can imagine it'd not be so frustrating for you if he just said I'll be able to talk later.

[Guest AshlynAngel]

Needy kinda goes along with being a Little, it seems.  

 

I think most Daddies expect that, and it isn't really an issue. 

 

That said, we Littles have to sometimes pull up our big girl panties and deal with the fact that other things factor into our Daddy's life, things that might need his attention or things that he, himself, might have a need to pursue.  For instance, my Daddy has a very challenging job and some nights he comes home and all he wants to do is zone out and read a book, or play one of his video games for a while to recharge his batteries.  

 

I think it all boils down to how you handle it when you are feeling super needy and clingy.  Throwing a fit or bratting can just cause bigger problems in the end.  I'd suggest discussing things calmly with him, without doing any blaming.  If you take the responsibility onto yourself by using "I" statements, such as "I am feeling down" or "I sometimes feel .." rather than "You never .. "  "You always ...", then you'll probably get a much more open reception to what you're communicating because he won't automatically be on the defensive.  

 

Try to work together with your Daddy to find a happy medium, rather than fighting against him.  Take a "Let's solve this issue together" approach and I bet you will reach a solution you can both be happy with!   

 

Bestest of luck, Bellisle!  

[bellisle]

I get to see him next week, so I know I’ll have time then. Thanks, guys!

[bellisle]

I'm in the same boat honestly. We started off talking video chatting,and texting. Now I'm just lucky if I hear from him once a week. I am torn between wanting to talk to him and just letting him be until he talks to me because I don't wanna bother him or frustrate him.

I feel like its not so hard to send a text really tho.

No I don't feel like it is too needy either tho. It only takes a minute to send a text. I say communicate with him that you put faith in him when he says he's gonna reply and it hurts to wait and wait when he said it'd only be a minute. I can imagine it'd not be so frustrating for you if he just said I'll be able to talk later.

That’s not very fair for you. :/ Do you text him more and wait for a response, or is it just waiting for his text?

And yeah, I kind of feel like a dog who got left out in the rain.

[Guest Stinkin'ol'Fred]

I've texted him some. Facebook messenger says he sees it, but alas no responses. I usually do just wait for him though. I never try to seem sad or anything when we finally get to talk even though I am. He seems genuine enough really. Maybe I'm just numb I don't really even know anymore. I cling to what happiness I get outta him and just shrug it off the rest of the time. I'm a bit different in the way of I really just don't let alot get to me anymore. As far as relationships go, pain is all I ever really end up with.

[Guest Stinkin'ol'Fred]

I find happiness in my everyday life though. It's not all sad. Being an actual mother of 3 boys I can't really show my sadness around them. My happiness revolves around my children. Doin for them everyday. I craft and make time for myself when I can too and that pretty much keeps my mind from wandering to sadness. Nights are pretty lonely but I'll make it

[DreamingDesire]

It's definitely a complicated situation. On one hand CG & L are both expected to be caring above average, but they're only human. We work, study, meet with friends, and unless it's an emergency I won't respond all the time. Of course, that's balanced out by keeping your partner up to date in general. I can imagine that if you know your partner is at work, you don't mind if (s)he takes longer to respond.

 

There's definitely a correlation that the more I'm into someone, the more quickly I text back when I see their message because I get excited talking to them. I think that exists for most people within a certain margin, but I also know everyone is different in this regard, so people not texting back instantly doesn't necessarily mean anything.

 

Fred, I'm happy you have your kids, they're definitely going to be around so you could have them as a source of happiness regardless of what happens with your CG. Once a week is very little though, I hope he responds more soon.

[Guest DaddyCares1]

I know my daddy is busy just like any other daddy, and I worry I’m just super needy, but sometimes he tells me he’ll be just a minute or he’love text me right back, and then he’s doesn’t. And I want to communicate and all that I’m dissapointed, but I don’t want to upset him because I know he tries really hard to make time for me. Am I just being too needy?

 

If a daddy says I'll be back in a few minutes, and consistently fails to follow that up, it's a problem. Question him about it. It isn't too needy. A daddy's words and actions should be in sync. 

 

I'm in the same boat honestly. We started off talking video chatting,and texting. Now I'm just lucky if I hear from him once a week. I am torn between wanting to talk to him and just letting him be until he talks to me because I don't wanna bother him or frustrate him.

I feel like its not so hard to send a text really tho.

No I don't feel like it is too needy either tho. It only takes a minute to send a text. I say communicate with him that you put faith in him when he says he's gonna reply and it hurts to wait and wait when he said it'd only be a minute. I can imagine it'd not be so frustrating for you if he just said I'll be able to talk later.

You're right. It isn't hard to send a text. Hearing from someone once a week sounds alarming and suspicious. Ask him why communication is so infrequent.

 

 

I've texted him some. Facebook messenger says he sees it, but alas no responses. I usually do just wait for him though. I never try to seem sad or anything when we finally get to talk even though I am. He seems genuine enough really. Maybe I'm just numb I don't really even know anymore. I cling to what happiness I get outta him and just shrug it off the rest of the time. I'm a bit different in the way of I really just don't let alot get to me anymore. As far as relationships go, pain is all I ever really end up with.

Ignoring a little is never okay. Ask him why your messages are ignored. You have a right to know.  

[HisDumbBunny]

I used to get "ignored" a lot... or at least Daddy would be very quiet or distant here and there... which got worse over time.

 

At first it was just being busy at work, but later on it turned into him hiding me from his girlfriend. We were eventually "caught" which ended our relationship...

 

Not trying to be an alarmist, just my personal experience

[Guest Ignea]

Way i see it is in this day and age, communication is easier then ever before, but the downside is thatin the big and lilttle world, its now common expected that the communication goes on 24/7.

I for myself  have for example divided my mail..   work , privat and general.  The privat mail wil be answerd immediatly, work depends how urgent the genral when i find time.

For whatsap, kik and apps like that its handy that u can see when messages are sended deliverd read and such but it works the same as the good o'l email. just people expect you respond rtight away. that to me is a little odd.

 

When i would have a little that contacts me i would handle a certain way  that some messages can wait and some are urgent   so u can make a rule for it .. simple example .. put a certain emoij in front of a urgent message then the actual text. this way you know it requires a fast respons.  if in the big world i get a message in txt mail app or whatever and the word urgent  or fast reply requiered isnt there , than it cant be a matter of "life &death", so it can wait.

 

Communication is a twowaystreet , and also has rules. But when a person says  ill get back in a minute , do that act. its easy to send a message if you cant. "sorry i cant respond coz  i have work or im to busy .. get back to me in a few minutes or so when still needed" this can save a lot of frust specialy to littles who might be needy. often its just that little attention that works miracles

[Guest SUeB]

If a daddy says I'll be back in a few minutes, and consistently fails to follow that up, it's a problem. Question him about it. It isn't too needy. A daddy's words and actions should be in sync.

 

 

 

You're right. It isn't hard to send a text. Hearing from someone once a week sounds alarming and suspicious. Ask him why communication is so infrequent.

 

 

 

 

Ignoring a little is never okay. Ask him why your messages are ignored. You have a right to know.

 

Basically agree with everything here. All i will add , is that ignoring ANYONE is never okay, nothing to do with littles or otherwise.

 

Oh, and just commenting on the title of this discussion. Nobody is EVER "unintentionally " forgotten about. Ignoring someone is never through lack of choice.

Edited November 8, 2017 by SUeB