My mother just died and I'm having a hard time dealing with it.

[RadLittleKittenPaws]

My mother I were very close. She died the 22nd of October this year of cancer. I watched her die while I was in little space, it was traumatic for me. So now I'm left without a father , mother or caregiver. I've been in little space a lot lately, and I just feel so hopeless. Does anyone have advise? :3 Thanks,!

[Guest jimmy3737]

Hang in there.  You are stronger than you know.  You can get thru this.  There are lots of people here who are happy to talk to you.  If you need someone to talk to, feel free to add me.  You are not alone. 

[daddyandy]

Im sorry to hear about your mom, its always tough losing a loved one. Just hang in there, itll get better i promise

[DeathMetalPrincess]

Since you were in little space when you witnessed her passing, it may be a trigger for you. Even though being little can be a major comfort, I would advise trying to stay out of it for a little while. I'm not the best when it comes to helping through things like this, but please feel free to message me if you need to. You're not alone, ok? Just take each day one step at a time and keep your head held high as best as you can. I know it's not easy, but just know that everything will be ok. I hope you get to feeling better soon

[osito]

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I'm sorry

That's really hard to have to watch.

And it will be hard to cope with.

But you will be able to sort out your feelings.

I'm available if you need to talk.

[Guest Dean]

The most important thing right now is that you take care of you. Each person deals with loss in their own way. For some, they prefer to be solitary. Others, need a social environment to help keep their minds off their grief. Make sure you are eating and sleeping properly. Try to keep to any routine you normally have. Exercise, even dancing, can help. As for your little space, if there is someone you trust that you can talk to or even just be around while little, that may help. That part of you needs to grieve as well. Even if it is just a Skype call where the person is just there and you don't even have to talk. Just go about your day. Or, having someone on the phone while you fall asleep. 

 

You will get through this. It won't be easy and it won't necessarily be soon, but you will get through it.

[Guest pacibrat]

I'm so sorry for your loss.   Just take it day by day. It's okay to allow yourself to grieve. Grief can be a complicated process and it can take time.  Make sure that you take the time that you need to process all of your emotions.  Sooooo many hugs to little you. If you have other family members, reach out to them when you need to. The older members of your family should help you when you need it. You are young and will probably have life questions so I hope that there's someone to help you when you need it.  There are many of us here that you can talk to also. Do you have access to grief counseling (when I was around your age, I lost a best friend suddenly.  In hindsight, I think grief counseling would have helped me immensely, but I didn't know about it)?  This is something that you should consider, but I wouldn't tell a counselor about little me.  It's very likely that they wouldn't understand that aspect of us.  Still, it's up to you.  We're all different.

 

Allow time to heal you.  Please don't let anyone take advantage of you in this vulnerable time. Be very careful and take care of yourself. 

[Guest Ignea]

Ow dear..

I realy wish yo all the warmth, strenght and love in the world to cope with this loss. All that needed to be said is said here in previous replies.
And even that aint enough. A loss like that is the hardest thing in life ever , big or litlle young or old.

As advise, the tips given here by other members are real helpfull, consider and use what is doable for you.
If you get stuck communicate try always to do that.

i send u only the best wishes,

It wil ease in time, but never getting easy.
But time will heal.

[Guest Georgia-Daddy2]

I lost my mom 3 years ago to a heart attack. She was 45 and a mother that nobody would trade. I can replay it over and over in my mind. I stayed awake for a little over 48 hours. I traveled to the deepest darkest part of my mind. I got PTSD, I was depressed, and I had uncontrollable anger. It was hard and it sucks. I'm not going to lie to you it will for a year or two. Try to focus on yourself. Live a life that those you have lost would be proud of. There is a rocky road ahead of you. It won't be easy but by the end of it you will be stronger. As for the pain it will pass with time.

[Littlest_Bee]

My condolences for your loss. That is a hard thing to go through under any circumstances.

 

Maybe you can find a regional self-help group to talk, people who have lost loved ones and are in a similar situation.

 

Can you find a professional support network? Do you have friends who could help you?

It's easy to become overwhelmed. Just take one step at a time and it will become better. Maybe not in a steady progression, there likely will be days that are better while others are worse. But overall you will adjust and find happiness again. ☀

♥

[Guest SUeB]

So very sorry you are dealing with that. It's hard. And it will be hard for a while longer. Just do whatever you need to do to get through the next few days/weeks/months. Time. That's literally the only answer. Trust me i know exactly how it feels. Lost my dad in '96, then my mum in '01. Oh my goodness yes it hurts. Like the devil. But i swear to you now, with no pretend "there, there" stuff, that it eases. i promise you it does. You probably don't much believe that right now. But in time it does. One day, whenever that day is, you will laugh at something. Then you might (as i did when it happened to me) think " oh my god, how can i be laughing at something??" Like you aren't ever allowed to again. All part of the process.

There is no time limit, no set of rules, no checklist to tick through so you see when the brighter days are coming.

It just gets a teenie bit easier every day. You won't feel it happening, but it will.