MY Boyfriend doesn't like to be a Daddy...

[LilPwincess]

Hey, so me and my Boyfriend been together for 6 Months now.He knew I was a lttle from the beginning and was totally okay with it. But he doesn't really likes to be a real Daddy. He isn't into ddlg and that's totally okay but when I'm in littlespace he says I should stop acting like a child and it 's weird for him having me acting like "a seven year old" (Een Though my littleage is 2-5 but that's not important.) Hearing him saying stuff like that really hurts me. I love him really really much but I feel like I just need him to be my Daddy. I just want him to be more Daddylike, I need to feel little... So I'm confused...what should I do ? I want to share my little side with him, but he don't want it. He's okay with me being little on my own, but that's simply not the same. Also He doesn't wants to be called Daddy so I don't call him that much... Sometimes he's okay with that and acts a bit Daddylike because he knows how much I love it when he does. But the most time is doesn't want to do that... What should I do ? I really do love him and don't want to lose him...but I think he's uncomfortable with ddlg...

 

Sorry for the bad english, I'm german ^^*

[Guest Mr.Stuffykins]

Just emphasize how important this is for you. Remind him that this is a huge part of who you are and that he needs to be a little more accepting and understanding. Its all right if he isnt into it, because not everyone is, but he needs to try and reach a compromise. Perhaps introduce the lifestyle little by little. Have him act more daddy-like while you stay out of little space. Slowly get him comfortable with the idea of being a daddy.

However, if this is something he is completely unwillingly to explore then you have to consider alternatives. You have to think about:  how important  is this for you? How important is he? and if it comes to it: which is more important? Being a little is who you are and he needs to realize that. He needs to start to think that ignoring who you are could potentially push you away. Are you willing to leave him if he doesnt try being a daddy? if so, then make that clear to him. Show him how much this all means to you. Make it clear so that he remembers where his priorities should be.  

[Guest DaddyCares1]

If he and your relationship are most important, then I guess you will need to focus on being little independently. 
If ddlg and sharing the feeling of being little with a daddy is most important, then perhaps you will need to find someone else. I know that's not what you want to hear, but if it doesn't interest him, you will have to accept that. 

[Guest Prat]

If he loved you like you love him, he would support your little lifestyle. I'd dump him. Love is great and all but in this relationship all you do is give and get very little / nothing in return.

[eilonwy]

As much as it sucks, you can't force him to be into it or to enjoy it. Imagine if he had a kink that you didn't like and he was trying to force it on to you (not that you're forcing it on to him, but just try to put yourself in his shoes). If you are having doubts about you two because he is not happy about your little side, truthfully, I would say to break it off early on before you get more and more attached to him. There are plenty of other fish in the sea (or daddies in the community lol ) that you  might find yourself happier with because you'll be able to enjoy yourself completely around them. If being able to express your little side as important to you as it sides like it is, you should find someone new. Six months isn't too long, and it will be easier to move on if you end it now rather than wait. Hope this helps, best of luck <3

[LilPwincess]

Just emphasize how important this is for you. Remind him that this is a huge part of who you are and that he needs to be a little more accepting and understanding. Its all right if he isnt into it, because not everyone is, but he needs to try and reach a compromise. Perhaps introduce the lifestyle little by little. Have him act more daddy-like while you stay out of little space. Slowly get him comfortable with the idea of being a daddy.

However, if this is something he is completely unwillingly to explore then you have to consider alternatives. You have to think about:  how important  is this for you? How important is he? and if it comes to it: which is more important? Being a little is who you are and he needs to realize that. He needs to start to think that ignoring who you are could potentially push you away. Are you willing to leave him if he doesnt try being a daddy? if so, then make that clear to him. Show him how much this all means to you. Make it clear so that he remembers where his priorities should be.  

Thank you for your opinion ! I will try to talk to him again and introduce the lifestyle better to him ^^ I hope we can find a compromise.

[LilPwincess]

As much as it sucks, you can't force him to be into it or to enjoy it. Imagine if he had a kink that you didn't like and he was trying to force it on to you (not that you're forcing it on to him, but just try to put yourself in his shoes). If you are having doubts about you two because he is not happy about your little side, truthfully, I would say to break it off early on before you get more and more attached to him. There are plenty of other fish in the sea (or daddies in the community lol ) that you  might find yourself happier with because you'll be able to enjoy yourself completely around them. If being able to express your little side as important to you as it sides like it is, you should find someone new. Six months itsn't too long, and it will be easier to move on if you end it now rather than wait. Hope this helps, best of luck <3

I llove him way to much to dump him, he just makes as happy as I never was before. He helps me with my anxiety and other mental health problems, is caring and just the sweetest person I know. I don't want another Daddy, I want him as my Daddy, but thank you really much for your advise <3

[eilonwy]

I llove him way to much to dump him, he just makes as happy as I never was before. He helps me with my anxiety and other mental health problems, is caring and just the sweetest person I know. I don't want another Daddy, I want him as my Daddy, but thank you really much for your advise <3

I'm glad he helps you that much <3 I really hope he can ease into it. But try not to be too pushy as that might drive him away. Best of luck to you <3

Edited November 4, 2017 by eilonwy

[Guest pacibrat]

For someone (him) that isn't into this lifestyle, it can be difficult to accept.  To him, it is weird and that's okay.  The problem here is that he knew going into this that you're a little.  It isn't fair to ask someone to deny a part of who they are. Suggest ways to spend time with him as a little that aren't extremely boisterous to ease him into it.  He can watch a movie with little you or something like that.  Like someone else said, you can't make someone do something that they're not into.  Being an independent little isn't so bad.  Find little space stuffs that doesn't need someone else to participate.  Go little when he isn't around.  I don't think you should leave him if he makes you happy overall.  A good relationship is difficult to find whether it's DDlg or not.  There are many crappy fish in the DD sea (not all, but some for sure).

 

As far as him saying things like "it's weird for you to act like a 7 year old", explain regression to him.  We are little inside and need to express that part of who we are.  It's soothing for us and little us is very vulnerable. It's a complicated process for someone on the outside looking in to understand littles.  Sometimes, it's even difficult for us to understand ourselves.  

 

My best advice is to just help him understand.  Tell him there's no pressure for him to be a Daddy to you, but this is who you are.  He might have fears that you are going to go little out in public and he will be embarrassed.  Help him understand that, that isn't the case. Try to find ways at home for him to spend time with little you so that he can slowly adjust (if he can) to the idea.  Once he gets to know little you, maybe he will feel more Daddy-like, but maybe he won't.  Either way, it's okay.  You both just have to find mutual respect for who you are in this relationship.

[LilPwincess]

For someone (him) that isn't into this lifestyle, it can be difficult to accept.  To him, it is weird and that's okay.  The problem here is that he knew going into this that you're a little.  It isn't fair to ask someone to deny a part of who they are. Suggest ways to spend time with him as a little that aren't extremely boisterous to ease him into it.  He can watch a movie with little you or something like that.  Like someone else said, you can't make someone do something that they're not into.  Being an independent little isn't so bad.  Find little space stuffs that doesn't need someone else to participate.  Go little when he isn't around.  I don't think you should leave him if he makes you happy overall.  A good relationship is difficult to find whether it's DDlg or not.  There are many crappy fish in the DD sea (not all, but some for sure).

 

As far as him saying things like "it's weird for you to act like a 7 year old", explain regression to him.  We are little inside and need to express that part of who we are.  It's soothing for us and little us is very vulnerable. It's a complicated process for someone on the outside looking in to understand littles.  Sometimes, it's even difficult for us to understand ourselves.  

 

My best advice is to just help him understand.  Tell him there's no pressure for him to be a Daddy to you, but this is who you are.  He might have fears that you are going to go little out in public and he will be embarrassed.  Help him understand that, that isn't the case. Try to find ways at home for him to spend time with little you so that he can slowly adjust (if he can) to the idea.  Once he gets to know little you, maybe he will feel more Daddy-like, but maybe he won't.  Either way, it's okay.  You both just have to find mutual respect for who you are in this relationship.

Thank you very much for your reply ^^ I think your adise could really help me and I'm going to talk to him again and try to explain things :3