Telling my best friend I'm a little help :(

[Kitten26]

Hey I don't know if I'm doing this right but I could do with some help please

So I'm a little and I really want to tell my best friend, we tell each other everything and I trust them more than anyone else ever. But I know I'm really clingy as it is and I'm really scared of losing them. Honestly, I love them as more than a friend and they're the only person I can see myself being comfortable around as my caregiver. They already kinda treat me like I'm a small child, stroking my hair and petting me and looking after me when I need and ask them. The only thing is, I feel like they're gonna be weirded out or feel pressured to drop their own girlfriend (they have a long term Internet relationship) and I just want them to be happy but I need them and their support..

 

I keep accidentally falling into little space around them, and it's been happening for a few months now. I'm wondering if I should continue keeping them in the dark or just come right our with it.

 

Should I tell them? I'm so scared to lose them or make them uncomfortable around me.

 

And if I do tell them, I'm so confused, how should I do it?

 

If anyone has any advice it would be much appreciated :c

 

Thank you

[cuppycakes]

I won’t tell you whether you should tell them or shouldn’t tell them because that’s not my decision that’s yours. I can tell you that if you’re not sure how to bring up the conversation, start by asking them if they know what DDlg is. If they do, that is either good or bad depending on whether or not they have a preconceived notion of it being normal or disgusting. If they think it’s normal then maybe just tell them you’re little! They won’t have a problem with it. If they think it’s bad, maybe try and clear up any negative assumptions about it. Tell them what it really is. If you don’t think they’re open to the idea of it being good, maybe it would be best not to tell them.

 

If they don’t know what it is, start the conversation there! Tell them what it is and that it’s not a bad thing, just something certain people are into. You can decide what to do from there!

 

Whatever you decide, good luck!! I hope it goes swell (#•w•#)

[Guest DaddyCares1]

There's always a small chance the person will judge you and not understand. However if they're a trusted friend, hopefully that's not the case. How do you tell them? Very slowly, without too much detail at first to avoid confusion. 

My two cents is only tell this person if you can put aside your romantic feelings and see them as a friend.

[DreamingDesire]

The people above me made good points, but I also want to add that it's not so binary as people make it out to be. It's not that you're making a jump from the "normal" side into the "little" relationship where EVERYTHING is different. Like you said, they already treat you like a little sometimes, it just didn't get a name for them yet. If you introduce it to them as "Yeah I'm into BDSM, DD/LG specifically, I'm an LG and I want you to be the DD" they will have no idea what's going on, and feel extremely bewildered. Instead, you could start out mentioning what it is you like about the current situation, and explain you like feeling like a small child, like when they pat you. When they have something to hold on to and to visualize as relatively normal behaviour, there's no way they will reject that.

 

Don't brand them and hold them up to "I want you to be a caregiver and you need to do this for me". Instead, just tell them what you like about your relationship with them, and good friends are most likely to give you more of that. Play around with it until you find what you're looking for!

[Littlest_Bee]

Hmm, I probably wouldn't start with labels. I would just tell that friend how important they are to me and that I really enjoy all those things we do together.

Then, when the mood feels right to do so I might talk about my fears (being too clingy, etc) and emotions (wanting them to be happy and maybe even that I'm starting to be interested romantically but wouldn't want to risk the friendship). This wouldn't necessarily all happen in one go or even on the same day). Always listen to the reaction you get.

I would bring up finding people who like the same thing and what terminology we use last.

 

But that's just what I would feel most comfortable with.

[ace510]

The one thing i'd keep in mind, there's nothing wrong with falling into little space with your friend, if you trust them enough to tell them about everything, then you should trust them to tell you if you're making them uncomfortable.