Baby is worried

[Taken101]

My little recently broke a rule. I punished her and since it was a major rule she broke it was a strong punishment. She now believes she's a bad little and is really upset. This has been going on for a couple of days now and despite the fact that once the punishment was over it's not been brought up again she continues to feel bad about it and I'm at a bit of a loss. It's a long distance relationship. Has anyone got any advice

[Guest McLeodLot65]

What do you do for aftercare? It's not quite the same thing, but the need to reconnect after a punishment isn't just for comfort - it's important to reassure her that she really is forgiven and remind her that you love her. Whatever you did for previous punishments, only moreso because of the scale.

[Guest Thelittlebear]

Did you tell her what exactly she was being punished for? Was there reassurance after her punishment, to know that everything is okay?

Im just asking because if your little wasnt sure on why she was being punished, she might be confused about your rules. Also, if there was no aftercare , she may think youre still mad at her for breaking the rule .

 

Sorry if that didnt make sense i suck at explaining things

[Pitite-Kira]

Hi, I would say to speak to her (about the rule break and the punishment) and confort her. Be there.

 

She might want to be a perfect little for you and be disappointed by her own behavior or still be confused by the events

[Guest infinitecases]

Have you tried comforting her and telling her you aren't disappointed or angry at her? I feel really bad after doing something wrong too, and it doesn't go away until my daddy tells me it's ok. I think she's just beating herself up that she did that and regrets it. Just reassure her she's still a good little and that you still see her to be the perfect little she is. Everyone makes mistakes. 

[Taken101]

Aftercare is very important to both of us. After care was a long call, permission for sweets and we watched Bambi together on a website for LDR couples. Also plenty of reassurance that I wasn't mad etc.

 

The punishment was for going out and getting blackout drunk with friends without telling me where she was going and with no phone. I'm more than happy to let her go out as long as she tells me what she's doing and when she'll be back so I know if she's safe.

[Daddy's_Babygirl]

Does she understand the punishment was out of concern for her safety and not because of mistrust? Has she had bad relationships in the past? I know there are times punishments are harder on me than others, and this may just be one of those times. Make sure she understands that it was a safety concern and not a mistrust issue and continue reassuring her she is a good girl. Offer additional praises for small things for a couple of days.

[Guest SUeB]

Maybe she simply feels bad for what she did. Sorry if this sounds horrible, but do you think there's something she isn't telling you about the night out? Feelings of guilt maybe, that she's passing off as a result of her rule break?

That's one of the good things about a punishment dynamic. Once it has been given and received, that's it over with. It seems a little off that she is reacting so negatively still now. Of course that's only one possibility, but i had to put that forward.

[Guest littleloveslars]

Is it possible she is manipulating you for rewards/attention/something else by drawing out the situation longer than it needs to?

[Guest Urthurs]

The punishment was for going out and getting blackout drunk with friends without telling me where she was going and with no phone.

She blacked out, hu? I bet she don't remember what happened, right? and no phone...

Oh boy. Well I wont say anything else actually... Good luck buddy.