Are all Daddies the same?

[Fluffy*Pillow]

I'm a newbie in this community and I never had a daddy, had sex, but curious as hell. I was wondering if daddies were the same because a few just wanted to have sex with me... I'm crying as I write this and scared. Help?

[PrincessPear]

No, not all daddies are the same. Some are more nurturing than sexual. I, too, am tiring of daddies who only want sex from the dynamic and nothing more. I am a princess and I expect princess treatment. So should you! Don't give up! You'll find a daddy who fulfills you eventually. 

[Guest SweetKira]

Hi LadyI'm new too and yes there seems to be a ton of "daddies" who are doing this just for sex. But, I have been lucky enough to meet a few so far who ares definitely real daddies- just wonderful kind affectionate people who want to find a little girl to love with all their hearts. I promise you they are out there! I understand how you feel though- it is scary sometimes and difficult. People are on here for all kinds of reason so and you just have to be careful, don't rush any conversations, and don't do anything you are not comfy doing. Good luck...ps is you want a friend you can send me a request !

[MattyBear]

Not at all. I had a little friend who made it clear she wasn't into sex, and I was totally fine with that.

[Guest pacibrat]

No, they're definitely not all the same, but many do include sex into the dynamic.  If you don't want to include sex, then you're a "nonsexual little".  Just tell them that and stand firm.  Never let anyone use or abuse you.  Remember, adult you is in control and can call it quits if you don't feel safe talking to them.  Never let anyone bully you into something you aren't comfortable with either.  Just hang in there.  It can take A LOT of time to find the right one who is real and isn't just looking for one thing.

[Fluffy*Pillow]

Thank you everyone. I kinda wish there was someone who could show me the ropes like a friend, "protector", or something that helps out the newbies.

[PrincessPear]

Thank you everyone. I kinda wish there was someone who could show me the ropes like a friend, "protector", or something that helps out the newbies.

 

I would be glad to look out for you if you need a friend!

[Guest MellieMeow]

Nope!  Not all the same.  There's some really great ones in this community, but there are also a lot of users!  Just have good judgement and limits and really get to know someone before you advance things!  <3

[Guest littlelisafrank]

Some Daddies are more sexual than others. Just like some Littles are more sexual than others. Some Daddies even just want friendship! : D

 

However, there are the predatorial "daddies" that are only here because they think that Littles are easy prey to fulfill their sexual needs. They don't seem to stick around for very long once they realize that there's more to DD/lg (etc.) than just sex. Just don't put up with their crap and report them if they make you feel uncomfortable. *hugs*

[Guest Olderdaddyca]

Well time for me step,in it....the dynamic is a loving and nurturing one. It also has its roots in BDSM and is most often a loving and sexual relationship just like any other in this world. There are many men and boys that only wish to have sex with girls. It happens in any dynamic not only this one. What I have found is that littles can be a bit trusting at times and so many men use the "daddy" tag to use littles for sex. It is mostly just an excuse for abuse in these cases.

 

I would argue that any "daddy" that only seeks the sexual side is not a daddy at all but rather has a bit of a daddy fetish. Not saying it is wrong but be honest. There is a difference between kinks and lifestyle.

 

Just be careful, trust your "gift of fear" ( I recommend the book to everyone ) and be patient.

[Guest McLeodLot65]

I've seen many nonsexual cg/little relationships that worked just fine and were very fulfilling for both parties, so no, not all daddies are "like that". Ask for what *you* want, and you'll find it.

[Guest Olderdaddyca]

That is my point exactly. Maybe not expressed eloquently. A daddy is a nurturing and loving dynamic. That often is sexual. It is not ever sexual with no emotion. Edited October 29, 2017 by Olderdaddyca

[Guest SUeB]

Of course they aren't. And there are many dudes that say they are daddies just for sexy talk, or to prey on the vulnerable and naive. But then there are men that you might consider a daddy that's never even heard of the ddlg thing.

You've just experienced a few guys that are only looking for one thing. That's the majority of guys online sadly. But there are many decent, genuine guys out there looking for so much more. Took me years of trawling through a sea of morons to find my DaddyDom. It doesn't happen overnight. Just try be more wary, and accept that not everyone claining to be a daddy actually is one.